It easy. Just keep in mind..be nice, go out of your way to help them. Once you have their trust you set them up to fail. At EVERYTHING!! but be the nice guy through out it all to avoid any blame. A "good friend" can make life miserable!! good luck have fun:)
If you hate them that much, then be yourself. Do not try to hide your feelings. But, if for some reason you cannot openly hate them, try to avoid them as much as possible.Though if you are in a situation were you can't avoid them. you need to tell them that you "dislike" them, or that you hate what their doing that causes you to hate them. Try to work it out if you can, another friend is always better then another enemy.
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"If you want to forget something or someone, never hate it, or never hate him/her. Everything you hate is engraved upon your heart; if you want to let go of something, if you want to forget, you cannot hate."-C. JoyBell C. *not saying that's what you're trying to do, but the same applies if you're trying to be nice to someone. You can't be nice to someone your heart feels hard towards, unless you're going to act fake, but you can only keep up that act for so long. You have to just let go of that hate. Pray for them, pray for the strength and ability to soften your heart toward them. Just let go. Hate isn't a pleasant feeling and can eat you alive. Metaphorically speaking of course. in a nutshell, you cannot be nice towards someone you hate. if you think about it, our outward actions are an expression of our inward feelings. try to think about why you hate that person, and work on it.
My daddy always told me to treat everyone you meet as if their heart is breaking. You can't know exactly what goes on in that person's life that makes them so disagreeable to you. Once you think of people as exactly that -- a person just like you with problems and worries -- it's easier to be tolerant.
It makes me sad to see so many negative, hurtful answers to your question, but then again, your question gives me hope. It says a lot in your favor that you want to be nice to someone you hate. I'm sorry that you do hate; really, hate only hurts the one who hates. Begin by realizing that that person is just that: a person, with pain and sorrow and hurts of his own. Maybe he's a complete jerk, who makes everyone hate him. If so, ask yourself, why is he that way? Maybe he needs your compassion, which is a very good place to start. On the other hand, maybe he's the golden boy, who seems to have everything fall in his lap, but perhaps even so, he needs your compassion. Maybe his life at home is unbearable. You can't know that until you get to know him better. So, maybe what you need to do is get to know him better. Invite him to go to a game with you, or a movie. Or, with your parents' consent, ask him home for dinner one night. Get to know him. You might surprise yourself, and make a new friend.