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Well, this girl I met liked me and I liked her, but then she ended up "moving on" while I was on vacation. So, we're friends now. She compliments me on being nice and being the most gentleman-like guy she's ever met, but she continues to think of me only as a friend. She obviously doesn't care about my good qualities very much since her feelings stay the same, whether I'm a good guy or not. She complains about guys being drama queens, when she's pretty much heartless when it comes to relationships. I really want to tell her how I feel, but I'm not sure if I should. It makes me angry.

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I like what Jacki said about confidence being very attractive! That is sooo true. You can do this Schaefer! Confidence is very charming to me. If a guy has the confidence to come up to me and tell me how he feels it def makes me think twice!!! Good luck my friend :)

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Alright, thank you! I'll try then.
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bradahh
If only more guys could read this. There wouldn't be all these questions on here about "should I ask her out?". Great answer.
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Lol. So true...
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Thank you bradahh and Eric...
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Hey Schaefer, im sorry you're going through that. It sounds like you're stuck in the "friend zone" which is hard to get out of.

Many girls like the bad boy and the good guys are just friends to them. That's what it sounds like she is saying when she says that you are nice and gentleman-like. For me, I would prefer to have a nice guy over a bad boy, but not all girls are like that.

I would just say, if you really want something (or someone) you need to be confident and go after it. You will never get anywhere by sitting quietly in the background. Tell this girl your feelings, or nothing will ever happen, guaranteed. (Oh and girls find confidence very attractive).

You just need to figure out if it is worth it to bare your heart to her, because she might reject you.
I've had lots of experience with having guys want more, and being in the friend zone myself so
Good luck :)

~Ninja Jackie-san

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Thanks Jackie. Yeah, I HATE the friend zone. But, I think you're right. I'll tell her how I feel. I doubt anything will happen, but I wish she'd at least change her mind about me. Thanks for the answer.
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Any time :) and you got it!
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Haha! Idk about that...
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yeah.. but hey you never know at least you tried
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Yeah. I'm practically meeting defeat head-on, but, hey, that's just my style.
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bradahh
Listen to her theman...she hit the nail on the head.
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Don't worry, I'm listening.
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Tell Her and see what happens, at least that clears your conscience and i'm sure you won't regret it because it is how you feel. You might get hurt, but whatever happens it will be worth it. "to try and not succeed, is better than to not try at all and never know"you will LEARN. You'll grow as a person emotionally. I say this all the time, but it is true, That anything worth having always takes courage, strength and will to persevere(or something like that)

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good answer arun :)
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Hey Mister! I must say you give good advices :)
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Yeah, that's good advice! Thanks! I've already been hurt, so at least that's over with. I'll do that then.
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yea THAT'S LOVE? i guess.....i always get hurt too...in a way it will kinda get numb?getting hurt all the time...just have to gut it out and hope you'll eventually find yours..
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Good answer my friend :)
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Yeah, I've noticed that I'm starting to get numb too.
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With the numbness comes the good and the bad. The good part is you get to take more risk, in trying out new horizons, trying your chances more. The bad is that,you tend to kinda get lost in your tracks not really knowing anymore what you want?since what you wanted got you messed up in the first place?So. follow both your heart and mind and try to have atleast almost always have pure intentions to whatever you do.
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I agree. Also, it makes you not care as much for people. It's hard to find a balance between not caring for someone enough and caring for someone too much. But, yeah, I'll make sure and keep my intentions pure.
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I think you still should. Not telling her will only make matters worse. She might just find another guy. Maybe she still likes you, but thinks you've moved on as well. If she hears how you feel, she might realize she still is into you. Give it a shot. :]

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Thanks! Yeah, you could be right. Idk. I'll do that, though.
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Okay good. And no problamo! :)
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Haha! Hey, you want to follow each other?
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Naw.

Heh heh, just kidding. I'd love to =D
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Hahaha! Good one. :) Alright, I'll follow you then!
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Thanks so much <3 :)
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Haha! Don't mention it! <3
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bradahh
Great answer.
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bradahh

Be a man. Take charge of the situation. She might respond well to it. Thats how I got my fianc?e. I told her the second night we met that I knew we had a connection and chemistry; and I didn't want to end the night without making sure I could see her again. Let's just say she responded VERY well. We have been inseparable since.

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Alright, it's worth a try. Thanks. Btw, congratulations.
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bradahh
Thanks man. And good luck!
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You're welcome. Thank you!
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hey cop man! how ya been? still arrestin ppl?LOLz
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Maybe I'm misunderstanding, but do you want to be with a dame who's heartless? Sounds like you deserve better, brother. Awesome avatar, btw! Best of luck to you!

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i agree i would never do that to a guy
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No, I don't want to be with her since she's heartless, it's just that I did have feelings for her and it's hard to just eliminate those feelings. Haha! Thanks!
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hello scar!!!! :)
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heartless hmm i would say that about Jake he is heartless to date me and another girl at the same time man just thinking that makes me mad

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I know how you feel. I'm sorry about all that.
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it is fine i should have not dated him three times i thought he had changed but i was wrong i should have listened to my mom about that i was so stupid to do that
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It's alright. The past is the past. Just make sure you learn from your mistakes, that's all. Well, I missed talking to you.
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i did to i have about 20 min then i have to go then i will be back on after my next class so if i leave that means i am late
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and thank you for caring
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Okay. Yeah, you're welcome. The more we talk, the more I care.
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thanks:) lol what is your fav color?
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i am outta here i will talk to you during lunch okay:)
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Sorry, I wasn't by my computer... My favorite color is probably green or black. What about you? Btw, just answer when you're back on.
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black and red. hey :)
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wahoo i got my email to work you should be getting something soon
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well i guess i missed you
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bye lunch is over
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Sorry, I was doing homework... :( Well, cool! We should email each other then! Bye. :/
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nev mind i have two mins i only miss you when i'm i am breathing its you its you thats keeping me alive alright now i have to go i think
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btw thats a song btw again i got really sick last night
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Sorry, I already got off and then I had school today. :/ That's nice of you, though. :)
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you should answer my new q so we can talk
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my answer got removed
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Okay, I'll do that.
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I don't see a new question. I guess we can talk here.
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okay uhh did you get the other reply on the life q?
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Don't doubt about it, go a head and tell her about your feels, you won't lose her, she's only yours,

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Alright, thanks! I'll make sure and do that then.
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Yes, dont hold your feeling in it will only bother you more and more if you keep it to yourself....

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Okay, thank you! I'll follow your advice.
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your welcome..
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aye u shld tell her. Dont b afriad!!!

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Alright, thanks! I'll tell her then.
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Hey, you on?
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aye. im on. :0
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Cool! What's wrong?
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ha nuthin. im OK :)
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Alright, great! :) I'm glad we're finally getting to talk again.
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yep.
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and im peachy keen!
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Btw, do you have a Facebook, email, and/or phone?
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Haha! Good.
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well.. i gotr grounded from the phone i had( which is my paretns) i hav an email but am unabl to use it cuz it doesnt work on the school computers and i dnt have a facebook. i did but i nevr use it.
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:( that sucks. I was hoping we could become friends on Facebook or get each other's phone numbers. Oh well.
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im srry. but im always grounded just ask killer90....
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It's fine. If you ever happen to get a Facebook or cell phone, just let me know. Oh, right, so whatever happened between you and killer90? If you don't mind me asking.
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well... i found out he has a gf... and well... we r still good friends but ... other than tht... nuthin. i miss him tho :( his phone is outta minutes and he cant contact me til he gets one and i get one...
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Okay, I see. I'm really sorry. Is there anything I can do to help you feel better?
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i got grounded because my paretns found out i was talking to him and they didnt kno whop he weas so they thought i was .... yea. anyway i gotta go. ill be back in lik 30 minutes or so.
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Yeah, I can't tell my parents about friends I make over Ask or over Facebook because they automatically assume that they're all creepers. But I talk to them a lot so I can tell whether they're creepers or not. I like them. Alright, I'll be here.
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hello scar!! Im here!!!!!!
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and no . ill just hav to live with it...
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Hey! Welcome back, Raven! :) Well, I'll always be here for you, so just tell me whenever you feel like talking.
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well... my dad wants me to fight two grls tht i kno tht wont leave me alone. and i rlly dnt wanty to . im not scared its just tht if i do then ill go to juve and id rathr not..... wat shld i do?jw
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What do you mean fight? And, no, you don't want to go to juvie.
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yea i dnt wanna go to juve. But my dad says if they beaT ME AND I lose the fight he will get me... :(
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What fight? What's going on? I'm so confused.
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Haley And ALEX WONT LEAVE ME ALONE!!!!!!! NO MATTER WHAT I SAY THEY KEEP MAKIN FUN OF ME. IDK WAT TO DO. THEY NEVER STOP AND ALEX TOLD HALEY I WANTED TO FIGHT HER. SO NOW THEY KEEP TRYIN TO MAKE ME FIGHT THEM............!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
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Okay, now I think I understand. Well, do you have a friend or friends who can help you? I don't think you should fight them, but you should try to get them to stop. You'll need help. I'd definitely help you if I could. I'm sorry I can't. :( I'd kick their butts (one way or another). If they tried to fight you, they'd be down before they could even throw a punch.
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yea but they r aloit bigger than me but not stronger. i weigh 108 lbs. ( im 17)
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I don't think you should fight them. You should try to get some of your friends to help get them off your back. Like I said, I would definitely do that, but I'm over here in Texas...
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yea... i kno. but i dnt rlly hav alot of friends... im goth /emo and most ppl try to aviod me....
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You must have some, though, right? I'm sorry about that. If only they knew how great you were, then they'd realize how wrong they are.
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yea but they never will. u can lead a horse to the water but it is up to the horse if it drinks...
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and ppl dont lik me because iam different and i kno things tht others shldnt kno.... thts y.
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Yeah, oh well. I like you.
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thank you. not many ppl do. they can always tell that i am different.
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You're very welcome. I like you because you're different.
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aye. i am definatly different.... im also always alone. which i guess im ok with. iv gotten used to it.
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I'm the same way. But, you and I got each other, so technically we aren't alone.
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aye. but i am alone here....
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( in indiana)
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Scar???
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Sorry, I had to leave my computer. I'm back. I know, I'm alone here, but still, we can be comforted knowing that we at least care about each other.
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Btw, you should move to Texas. ;)
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ha. im movin to Lewisport, Kentucky!! But i wld move to texas if i could. HM>>> mayb i could own a few horses too!@! and a farm! ( im not bein sarcastic i rlly do want one)
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Well, you're moving a little bit closer. That would be awesome. Yeah, haha!
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cool :) na dsoon ( if they EVR unground me..... ) ill hav my own phone again!!!
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Great! I look forward to that. Seriously, though, if ever you are able to move to Texas, you should move to near I live, and I can show you around! I enjoy it here.
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cool. Will Do!!!!!! :)
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Yeah, I hope you get to! That would be fun!!! I'm sure we could be good friends (I mean, we already are). :) The people in Texas tend to be nicer too. And it's not as country as people think (not where I live, anyway).
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cool. i would lik to go there one day.... but i gotta go Scar. Bye :)
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Yeah, I like it. Alright, talk to you soon, I hope! Bye.
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hey scar. :)
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Hey, Raven, you still on?
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yea im still on. srry bout tht. couldnt answer u cuz i was in Chemistry 2...
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No problem. Glad you're on. :) So, how are you, old friend?
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ok i guess a little bruised but ill live. and u?
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What happened? :(
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nuthin much. just kinda got in a fight. nuthin new for me....
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soo... hows the weather ovr there? did ya get any big storms like i did? ( tornados, strong winds, etc.)
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No, come on. You gotta tell me about it. Btw, I'm slowly getting angrier and angrier...
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why? wats wrng?!!!!!!!!
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No, I mean I'm getting angry that you got in a fight and someone gave you those bruises. What happened?
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SCAR??? U OK WATS WRNG?????????????????????? uh..
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I'm fine. It's you I'm worried about...
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oh. nuthin rlly. just defended myself. they say i might be sore for a few days... but othr than tht im fine.
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nah im fine Scar, just got in a fight. which is nuthin new for me.... im always gettin in fights and stuff.... its just bad luck.
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No, seriously, tell me what happened. I care about you way too much to accept that nothing happened.
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hm... well alex and a few of her friends cornered me and well.... yea. all HE** broke loose. but yea. im good. :(
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srry i made ya wrry bout me. but gettin in fights is a daily thing for me. ppl just dnt wanna leave me alone...
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>:( I AM SO ANGRY... They are REALLY lucky I wasn't there. I make it a rule not to hit girls, but, Idk if I would have strictly followed that rule... I would have taken them out so quickly. Seriously, whenever I'm in a fight, a fit of rage comes over me. I've been in a fight with three guys bigger and older than me, and I beat them so badly they ran away from me. All they were able to do was punch me in the stomach (that was what started it all). Are you alright? :(
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uh.. u there?
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yea. im just a bit bruised. but i can hide the bruises with make up. so im ok.
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I mean, I wouldn't have hit any of them, but that would have made me very angry.
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yea but sometimes u just cant do anything about it. nd it wasnt fair cuz i cldnt hit em back. ( they were pinnin my arms bac) but ill get em next time!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! X(
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I'm so angry right now. Have you watched the Bourne movies? And the new Sherlock Holmes movies?
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And this has to do with what we're talking about, btw.
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um... iv watche da few of the bourne movies but not the new sherlock Holmes movie... but i saw the first one... may i ask y?jw
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oh plz dnt tell Killer90. hed try to come here and beat the crap outta them nd i wld lik it if he wldnt go to jail...
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Here's what you need to do (sounds funny, but it works): watch all of the hand-to-hand fighting scenes. Watch them very carefully, and study what Jason Bourne and Sherlock Holmes do to the person they're fighting. Watch every single move they make carefully. Especially Sherlock Holmes, since his fighting style barely requires any strength. That's how I learned how to fight. Seriously, if you watch them closely, it helps a lot. Also, if you watch how Batman fights in Batman Begins and The Dark Knight. And, btw, the only reason I wouldn't tell Killer90 would be so I could be the one to teach them a lesson instead of him.
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ok. but i dnt want u to go to jail eithr!!!!! So... yea. and iv watched the old sherlock holmes movie...
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I don't want to either. And it's a far way from where I am, so it's probably not likely... But, yeah, that's the best thing I can do for you. I'd teach you how to fight well if I were there, but, since I'm not, the best thing I can do is tell you to watch those scenes over and over until you think you could do the same thing they did, and, if you can, get lessons in self-defense. You should take some lessons in some type of fighting form.
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cool. but i mostly just use my speed. ( since im faster than they r) but yea. who knos mayb when i visit texas then u cld show me how...
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Yeah, speed plus some moves will make you good at that. Seriously, though, either watch those or get lessons (or both). Yeah, I'd love to! Idk how I could teach you, though, but I'm sure I could show you some holds and stuff. So, does that mean you probably will visit some day?
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yea. during the summer or possibly soon. idk which my mom hasnt made up her mind yet!!! ( hope she picks soon) but yea. ill also be goin to Arizona to c Killer for a while( hopefully he will actually b home!!!!)
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i hav a few minutes bfor i go to lunch so if i dnt answer bac then u kno tht im at lunch. idk if ill b abl to answer u til tomaro but if they start with me ill make sure i tell u.
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Really? I hope I'll be able to hang out with you or something! :D Btw, I live near Dallas. You know, Texas is a big state, so hopefully you guys visit the area I live in. Idk how to ask this, but: you and Killer are friends, right?
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You still on? I just saw your last comment.
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yea me nd killer are friends.
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i gotta go Scar. bye. ttyl :) wish me luck friend!!! :(
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Good. I was just making sure. Because it wouldn't have been a good situation since he has a girlfriend. Also, have you seen him before?
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Bye. I wish you the best. I'm still angry, btw.
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hey scar. and yea iv seen him bfor. when i had a cell he sent me a pic of what he looked lik adn yea i miss him tho,,,,
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hey. killer is bac!!!
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hey.
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HEY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! hey
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Ok u want this girl? It sounds like she goes for the jerk type, so start ignoring her and teasing her don't be so nice and mayb her feelings will change

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Good idea. I'll try that. Thanks for your answer.
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No problem, I mean don't be a complete as.... But don't be so nice and she should start to look at u different, I went through that... Js
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hey. and yea///
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wats up dudeman275
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Wats up!
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nuthin much. just bored!!
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wbu?
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Lol u like to talk to me when I'm not on here :/
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ha cool. and yep i guess so. LOL XP
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so how ya been?
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I'm good, u should jus email me so I kno ur tryna talk to me u kno! Lol
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yea i cnt. the school has blocked the email so i cnt get on it... Ugh. :(
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or i cld giv ya my number wen i get it....
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Ugh :/
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whats wrng??
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