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klovejazz

Can someone 16 really, truly be in love?

Most would say Hormones.

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depends how serious it gets or how mature the relationship is and how it turns out

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nadlydan

Hormones xD

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klovejazz
Alright then.
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yes it does not depends on age but sincerity is really matter

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Anyone can be "truly in love" it's just the fact if your partner is also feeling the same way.

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klovejazz
Haha, well that kills it. Thanks though:)
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Well, make sure your partner is always feeling the same way, I am 15 and I had a girl that was truly in love with me, I didn't feel the same way, now we will never get back together.
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klovejazz
We were never together, probably never will be.
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HeavensAngel

yes you can but most are hormones its a 2 out of 10 chance. its very rare to be in love at such a young age but it is possuble

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no your young and you think that you are in love because you havent experienced it befor. you may love someone but i highly doubt that your "in love" because you can never be "in love" until you truley go through heart breaks

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Can I if this person does not love me back and I've cared for him for years?
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YourDemons

Yes, that is when we are most vulnerable. As we get older, and after getting hurt in relationships, we tend to get more jaded and callous. In my personal opinion, it is in our late teens that we are more likely to fall head over heels for someone.

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Yes its possible. Love doesn't have an age limit nor an age requirement.

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I say no but it could feel like it things change just be prepared at least

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sunshine_gurl

I think so
I'm thirteen and in love
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I'm sorry but that's not possible
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sunshine_gurl
Whatever you want to say, I'm not going to argue. I just want you to know that my parents even say that we care for each other like they have never seen before. Believe what you want
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Hhaha... NO u might love him but ur not in love because the chances of u getting married to him (because ur 13) are slim to nothing at that age u r it is not possible
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sunshine_gurl
Okay
I will come back in a few years to update you
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You do that
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bradahh
Let me ask you this sunshine...what is love? You answer this correctly and I might believe you.
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sunshine_gurl
Love is when you would do anything to keep harm from reaching the other person.
Love is loving who the other person is, flaws and all, and not wanting them to change at all.
Love is overcoming challenges together, while the opinions of the other never once changing.
Love is trusting, believing.
Love is being able to look at each other and have a whole conversation without using words.
Love is when two people act as one
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bradahh
Aww. That's cute. Your on the right track but still a bit off. Look, you're 13... The person you are now is completely different than the person you will be in 10-15 years. Everything about you will change; your body, your maturity level, your wants, needs, and desires. Everything from what you look for in a man ( notice I said man not boy ), to what kind of foods you like. These changes will include your view of love. Love is not a feeling, but rather a decision. A decision to spend the rest if your life showing someone everyday how much they mean to you, and having those actions reciprocated. It's knowing that even at that persons worst they still bring out your best. It's having a base foundation to build a healthy relationship upon. A foundation that was built and is maintained at all times by both parties involved. A foundation comprised of trust, communication, compromise, commitment, and mutual attraction. Without anyone of these a relationship can crumble and the decision to love begins to deteriorate. But if you both decide to truly love one another; you will both spend the rest of your lives working hard to maintain that foundation. You can hang all the bs "feelings" on it you want, but that's what love really is.
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sunshine_gurl
So your resorting to treating me like I'm 2 now?
Look, everyone thinks differently of what love is.
Love cant be chosen, and I realize that everyone changes, we have known each other almost all our lives and started dating a year ago.
We loved each other before we started dating, but it is different now. True love.
You can try and change my mind, try and force your beliefs on me, I dont care.
I'm standing my ground because I am in love with him, and he is in love with me.
We have seen each other change, experienced change together.
I am alot more mature than you think I am.
I have had life experiences that have changed me and have matured me.
Keep thinking what you want, as I will do the same.
I just want you to know that we are in love with each other, and always will be
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bradahh
Haha! Ok. You are right...everyone does have different opinions about what love is. But they are wrong. This is what love is. I'm not treating you like a child, I'm giving you sound advice from someone who has had more life experiences, with more partners, in multiple countries, under unspeakable amounts of circumstances. Iv dated and Been in serious relationships with more girls and women than years you've been alive times 6! And I'm just trying to share with you the truth. I'm not saying that you shouldn't date this kid. Just understand that you are just a child. One day you will look back on this conversation and realize I was right. I promise you that.
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With u believing that sunshine ur heart will be crushed 1 year (ur 13) of dating doesnt mean u are "in love". Also at 13 u can't say that u u have gone through a lot and understand a lot... U JUST CAN'T! I was in a relationship for 2 YEARS and we just knew we loved eachother but it's pretty obvious that we weren't "in love" cause at an age like urs it's not possible!
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sunshine_gurl
You can think what you want, but I know what I know. I have been in different relationships, but this is different. Indescribable. It really is true love. I dont know how I am supposed to tell you that, but it is different with us. Everyone that has met both of us knows it too. The thing that is keeping you from understanding that it is true love, is never meeting us. Never seeing what a connection we have, how we treat each other, how we truly are in love. I'm not trying to get you to change your mind, just understand where I am coming from. Understand that I DO know what love is
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sunshine_gurl
Smooth, I wasnt talking about understanding relationships when I said that I have been through alot. I have been through things that have changed me emotionally, mentally, and changed my maturity level drastically. Has nothing to do with relationships, but I have learned life lessons that some people dont learn within their life time. It has changed my judgment of a person,and so much more
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bradahh
Oh sunshine : / ...you are in for a rude awakening. All these life changing experiences you keep talking about...unless you have a child and he dropped out of middle school to get a full time job and support his new found family with a home and a car and bills and groceries and medical insurance and all the rest of REAL LIFE. you havnt really experienced anything. Maybe you got pregnant and had a miscarriage...maybe you were "cheated on" on the playground...maybe you've even kissed a few boys! Huh!!!! Ooh Noooooo! You are a child and have absolutely no idea what the real world, real life, adulthood, or true love in a meaningful adult relationship is. Nothing you can say or do at thirteen can change that. One day you will know all of this. But you just can't right now. And there's nothing wrong with that you just have to respect it.
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sunshine_gurl
I hate that you have just jumped to conclusions about me.
Do you even care about what I have been through, or are you just going to turn that around into a practical joke, too?
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bradahh
Well you keep beating around the bush about what you have been through so... All I'm saying is that there are very few things that you might have gone through that I havnt already seen ten fold.
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sunshine_gurl
Whatever, you dont even care, and thats fine with me.
The reason I havent told you is because I didnt want to waste my time typing it all out if you are just going to be ignorant about it
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I agree with bradahh because ooooo ur parents divorced, someone died in ur family, moved away from best friends... This are not even the most difficult situations in life. So u can't say u have matured through these type of things. A lot of things have occurred in my life but that doesn't mean ive matured like a grown up.
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bradahh
You know what...I do care. I'm on this site to help people and give knowledgeable advise. You just have to be open to hearing it. Throughout your whole life you are going to be told things you don't want to hear and given constructive criticism. You need to understand that.
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bradahh
So tell me... I'm all ears. Maybe it's something I can help with
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sunshine_gurl
I just feel like you are both judging me when you dont know me. I feel like I am being attacked. I can take criticism, just not when people make assumptions and criticize in rude ways
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klovejazz
No disrespect here, I really do respect and admire your wisdom Bradahh. But...

Why burst her bubble? Everyone has a opinion about her age and how she is or is not in love. I feel that it's good for her if she's happy. If and when any heartbreak occurs, she'll learn something for herself. But everybody commenting back and disagreeing with her statement obviously is not going to change her mind. I just wish everyone would let her be. I mean no disrespect and I don't want to start anything, I just feel that we should let her be happy with the relationship she has.
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bradahh
I have not been rude. And you're right. I don't know you personally. However, I've known plenty of 13 year olds and I have been one myself. I remember what it was to be 13...how my mind worked, and my view of the world. If you want an honest opinion of someone who has been through it before and much more...im happy to oblige.
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sunshine_gurl
Okay,
I was four, and my mom was pregnant with my brother, I was so happy to be a sister, but I had no idea what was coming.]
When he was born, he went right into surgery because it turns out he had a very serious condition that no one could figure out at the time. Turns out he had spina bifida, which is difficult to explain. Anyway, the doctors told my parents that he wouldnt survive but a few days. Every time I would get a chance to visit him, I would go up and talk to him and hold him and sing songs to him. He was so little, but it always seemed that he recognized me when I walked into the room. We created such a tight bond that was impossible to break. After 6 weeks, he passed away.
A few months after that I would always be looking for him. I would draw pictures of him. I only somewhat understood what happened, so I kept hoping he would come back. At my pre school, I would always tell every one all about my little brother and that he was in heaven. While everyone else was playing with the blocks making houses, I made a funeral home. That time was very very hard for me.
A few years later my mom was pregnant with another boy. He was to have the same condition, and wouldnt survive birth. My parents went across the country for 4 months to go through a series of tests to see if they could help him, I stayed with my babysitters. I would talk to them everyday, but it wasnt the same. After those 4 months, they said they couldnt do anything for him, and sent them home. Basically told them to bury him next to my brother. When he was born, he came out kicking and screaming, something we never thought he would do. He is now six, a strong as a boy as any. His wheelchair does not limit him to do anything that he wants to. Has a walker and crutches, and talks a mile a minute. He has had 16 surgeries, during all of those I just sit and hope that it all works out okay. Nothing else I can do. I get left home alone alot, get kinda put out of the picture alot, and I understand why; he needs more attention than me. More next....
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Through all of that I grew beyond my years. Having to take care of myself while he is in the hospital, getting passed along by friends and families, Never really getting to hang out with kids my age.
But I started my own charity in honor of my brother, To help siblings going through some of the same things.
I know that I still have a lot of growing up to do, I realize that, but through this experience, I have learned more than I honestly believe some people can go through a whole lifetime without learning. I cant explain it, but I know it.
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bradahh
That is tough. I know how you feel. I was in 4&5th grade when I lost two of my brothers. It was a car accident. One was killed instantly and the other was in a coma for a year and a half before my parents insurance company told us they wouldn't pay to keep him alive any longer. My parents sold our house to pay the bills. But that could only last so long. We had to watch him starve to death over a period of two weeks. I'm 28 now ind I still get choked up about it. They were everything I wanted to be...the reason I surf today. On top of that we moved into a new town after we sold the house so I lost all of my friends and had to start over. After highschool i spent a lot of time in central america i had some pretty fightening as well as great times then. I'm a fire fighter/EMT now. I deal with death of all ages on a regular bases. But even better i get to save one every now and then Being that young, you're right, it does change you. You are wise beyond your years I will give you that. But believe me when I say that everything I have been telling you still holds true. I'm a completely different person than I was at that age. And even though I was, like you, wise beyond my years I still had MUCH to learn; as do you. I'm truly sorry to hear about your brothers. I hope all goes well with you and your boyfriend. If you take nothing else from our conversation; just remember my description of what true love really is, work hard for it, and don't settle for less that that. And don't rush into anything. Take your time. Get your self set up with an education and a career. Remember this...if you can't be happy with yourself, then you'll never be happy with anyone else.
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And I forgot to mention...over the course of my life I have been with and dated over 70 different girls and women. Inane been in what I thought was love and I turned out to be wrong several times. Now I am engaged to be married to the most wonderful woman on the planet. And I wouldn't know how much we truly love each other without my life experiences.
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sunshine_gurl
That comment, it made me tear up just reading it. I am very sorry about your brothers. I am taking your advice, and Im going to use it. Thank you very much. My family does alot of programs now that lets us interact with other children with disabilities, and its great because not only do I become exposed to new people with new stories, but I also meet siblings who understand. Thank you for your comments, they mean alot
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bradahh
That's great! Your welcome. Sorry if I came off rude or judgmental. I really truly wasn't trying to. Theres much lost in translation when you are reading words off of a screen. I just wanted to try and help you realize that although things seem perfect now. They are going to change. Just be ready for that.
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sunshine_gurl
True, you can't tell facial expressions and tone of voice
Thank you, really, truly, thank you
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bradahh
You're welcome. And thank you as well.
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Yes I believe so my first love was at 16 and was devastated when we broke up 3 years later so to answer your question definitely

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Sure, we're in love with our mothers at birth, love your siblings while growing up, fall in & out of puppy love after discovering we're not all pacing the same equipment. At 16 you can be in love with what you know & understand. What I mean is, I fell head over heals in love with a beautiful young lady. She was gorgeous, intelligent, funny, came from a good family, & loads of fun. I loved her more than anything, we were talking about our future together, marriage etc. I joined the army for college $, & was posted 30 minutes from home. Every thought was of her, the pain was incredible, but it was the smartest move on my part to achieve my goals. We talked almost every chance we could, care packages, the works. After AIT, & another school I was homeward bound, & ready(a hem). She picked me up at the airport, we had a great weekend, & it was over. The relationship ended, in my heart I still loved her, but a change had occurred, she was the same (more beautiful than ever), I had changed, I didn't want the things I thought were important. I realized that even though she was the only girl on earth for me, I'd matured, & I no longer saw her in the same light. Puppy love.

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I think yup, cause for be in true love, the age doesn't matter, Just you should be sure you're find really your best person, not as the first you think you are so happy and this is the best life with your crush you can have, but after while, slow, slow, you'll find out, that person was for you the king or the queen right now, he/she. is nothing for you, you know what i mean ? just make best decision and be surely about your choice, and think about future, good luck,

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bradahh

I think it is highly unlikely, but possible. At 16 you are still basically a child. Your body and mind has not completed the physiological changes it will go through. Most of today's youth have a incomplete understanding of what love truly is.

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klovejazz
I can respect and understand that opinion, thanks for the answer.:)
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Ryght on bradahh n I think hormones play a part too lol super answer
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bradahh
Well love is not a feeling, but rather a decision. A decision to spend the rest if your life showing someone everyday how much they mean to you, and having those actions reciprocated. It's knowing that even at that persons worst they still bring out your best. It's having a base foundation to build a healthy relationship upon. A foundation that was built and is maintained at all times by both parties involved. A foundation comprised of trust, communication, compromise, commitment, and mutual attraction. Without anyone of these a relationship can crumble and the decision to love begins to deteriorate. But if you both decide to truly love one another; you will both spend the rest of your lives working hard to maintain that foundation. You can hang all the bs "feelings" on it you want, but that's what love really is.
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Hmm. Very nice, I like that description. I've never been in a relationship though, I just admire from a distance. That's all, I guess the situation shouldn't be taken too seriously. But I do appreciate you talking to me like a adult instead of a stupid kid.
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bradahh
Well it seems that children will respond better if you address them as your equal. But you are sixteen...it won't be long before you're my age ad you will completely understand. And don't worry about not having been in a relationship yet. Trust me they are nothing to rush into. Youre better off waiting.
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klovejazz
So I've been told, I believe it too. A boyfriend would be a bad thing for my life, truly it would. I tend to hyper-focus.
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I believe you can if you actually truly love the person. Good example is my aunt and uncle he was 16 she was 18 now they're still together and hes 30 shes 33.

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Oh yeah Jazzy. In fact I think young love,first love is the most deep, and hurts like nothing else when ended..The problem is the lack of life experience. common sense, and unreasonable expectations get in the way. We don't see the struggles that might be ahead, think we are invincible. Absolutely, I think a 16 year old can love.I think many will say nothing comes close to that rush.

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I always enjoy your insightful answers, Bubbles;)
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Lol I know ur ryght bubblious n u r dead on it is a lustful rush lol
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klovejazz
Actually, there really is no lust involved in this particular situation. Not all teenagers function that way....
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Hi Guys! Jazzy, meet my friend J, J meet my friend Jazzy! Jazzy is a super cool bright, sweet, funny, talented young lady and I adore her. J is a mother of 8, need I say more??? ; )
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Lol, Bubbles, thanks.:)
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first off sunshine_gurl i dont think your old enough to think your in love...13 really? like what 6th grade? and yes at 16 i thought i was in love but it ended horribly and now im 18 and im about to move in with my boyfriend...dont know if im "in love" but i do love him..

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Why burst her bubble? Everyone has a opinion about her age and how she is or is not in love. I feel that it's good for her if she's happy. If and when any heartbreak occurs, she'll learn something for herself. But everybody shooting back at her statement obviously is not going to change her mind. I just wish everyone would let her be. I mean no disrespect and I don't want to start anything, I just feel that we should let her be happy with the relationship she has.
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I'm living Prof, I was fifteen he was fourteen now I'm thirty five and he's thirty four, and twenty times better! Yes young love is fanciful but just as strong as time.

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yes.
i fell in love when i was only 13

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Maybe

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No

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adealfan1

of course!

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oh ya. im only 14 and im pretty sure i am.

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what is love, baby don't hurt me

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