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Are there any consequences that come from having an abortion?

So i might be or might not be pregnant... im only 19 and my keeps warning me that if i ever get pregnant she will kick me out the house and not love my child...to be honest im scared i have nowhere to turn to if i am...i haven't had my period for two months already...and im starting to wonder if i am or not.. the baby's dad lives with me and my family and i already mentioned to him that he might be a father... hes scared to.. we both decided that we aren't ready to be parents and decided to have an abortion..but i was just wondering if there were any dangers to having an abortion that i should take into consideration.

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You should take into consideration that having an abortion increases your chances of miscarrying and/or causing difficulty getting pregnant later on. Not to mention the psychological effects. Killing a baby (sorry argue all you want that is what you are doing) is something you have to live with for the rest of your life. I know far too many people who regret getting one. One girl I know still wakes up screaming from dreams about it 2 years later. Almost everyone I know who has had one said they wouldn’t do it again given the time back. I am not judging or trying to influence you either way, it's not my decision to make. I am just trying to give you information to make a sound decision. Having an unplanned pregnancy can be overwhelming. I was in your shoes at 19, only I lived at home with my strong Catholic, no-babies-before-marriage parents. I had a bag packed when we told them in case they kicked me out, as they had always threatened to do. Realizing we were already on the marriage path they were very supportive. Moving out and starting your own family is hard but worth it. Get as much information as you can, breath, and make a good decision. Good luck, God bless :)

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Some of the physical consequences include: maternal death, breast, cervical, ovarian and liver cancer and also ectopic pregnancies. Psychologically, you can have self denial, flashbacks and nightmares, post abortion syndrome and also regret or guilt.

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This is not true. There is NO proven link between cancer and having an abortion, despite what anti-abortionists will tell you. And you are ten times more likely to die if you carry a pregnancy to term rather than having an abortion (abortions are not dangerous).

Psychologically, if it's what you want then there should be no problems. I have had an abortion and feel no regret - it was the best decision for me.
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Tell ur parents if they kick you out let them but DON'T have an abortion they will luv the baby when they see it if they don't just ignore them they just don't want to admit it:)

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Maybe guilt & issues you both may have to work through later on in life. Don't get me wrong I fully agree with free choice in all aspects. Your Mom will drop all that talk down the road & it'll be a struggle, no doubt, but lots of woman at 19 have had children and been successful in life, some without the support of anyone but GOD. If You do change your mind do yourself a favor & make sure wedding plans are in your future for the peace of mind of all involved.

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Abortions are bad and inhumane! Think about it this way... It is your baby that you are killing, it has a heartbeat and is living and growing. You are taking away a good life for the baby that could be your son or daughter. Really think about it. You did make the choice to do it and this is the result. Don't take away a good life. You will be fine. Have that baby and love it and take care of it like god would want you to do. Not trying to be rude or disrespectful but seriously think more in depth and think of that kid growing up and becoming something amazing! And abortions increase the risk of miscarriage so later in life you may experience that. Don't take away a little tiny life! let it grow to be something beautiful!

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I had an abortion years ago, and it was absolutely the right thing for me to do at that time. Yes, I "killed" a baby. Technically, it would be killing a baby if I used birth control. Not everyone is psychologically equipped to be a mother, and the business of giving a child up for adoption is no panacea, either. If the child who is born is defective in any way, it may never be adopted. Obviously, now that birth control is readily available and reasonably effective, that's the first choice. My personal second choice would be a morning after pill, but if all else failed, I would still have an abortion. Under NO circumstances should anyone other than the woman whose body contains an embryo be permitted to make this decision.

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