Look for subtle implications of change in his behavior. Record these changes. Consult with him about the changes, without an accusational tone. Note only justified evidences of his behavioral changes in the conversation. Do not absorb any biased facts (E.G. His friends' inputs or hear-say). Note his willingness to cooperate. Some people will become defensive when hiding information. If he does not offer- or allow viewing of personal information, it may mean he is hiding something, although some people are extremely private and you must decide which of the two applies. In more extreme measure of obtaining information, you may consider covertly obtaining information by espionage means, but, if caught and nothing is occurring, you will appear distrustful, so perform at your own risk. It is important to only evaluate the facts based on logical conclusions and not through internal emotional responses. Some people experience behavioral change from many environmental factors, so consider his environment as well. I hope you discover what you are seeking.
Well, you can ask or you can spy on him. Either way the truth will come out eventually. If there's no trust in a relationship then there's no relationship at all. Think about it maybe this is not the right guy and your just finding out. Life is short, live to the fullest, good luck :)
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spy on him or ask your friends to keep an eye on 'em and tell you if they see something odd , you need more than 2 eyes for this kind of thing. I once got a friend's GF cheating on him , I told him immediately and he was already expecting it , he never caught her so he asked his pals to remain alert (including me).