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Is it normal for a 13 year old girl to date a 20 year old?

My friend is 13 and am 15. we're like sisters and tell everything to each other. So 3 days ago this guy who lives next to her is 18-20 (Am not sure cause he has 2 FaceBook with different bday year) and in facebook he was calling her cute and pretty and all that so as always she says Thank You then he ask her out and if she said yes she can't tell No one so she said she will think about it. I really love her as a sister and I think he is a player I saw him with a other girl and I Just want my friend with Good Boyfriend :/

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thats illegal

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she isn't even old enough to have FB let alone a bf .. Who is 20? :O

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hahahahaha, littleboy XD - got a long way to go
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yeah, people start getting facebooks at age 10 these days. keep up. lol
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Yeah Jazzyx =! And the official age for facebook is 13...
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What the heck? No! Pedophile!

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thats the same exact thing s a 22 yaer old with a 29 year old or a 27 year old a pediphile would be a 13 year old with like a 40 year old
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She's 13
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she's 13 dude. Meaning she hasn't even grown up yet. while this "20" year old is just preying on young innocent girls. the difference between the 22 year old with a 29 year old is they are bold legal and adults.
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It is NOT the same thing as a 22 year old with a 29 year old! A thirteen year is still a child. She is below the age of consent, and if a 20 year old guy (sicko) is chasing after a little girl like this, he goes straight to jail--by the way of the place where sex offenders get registered.
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Nooooooooooooooo tht guy just sounds like he has mental problems

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No.

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That guy is creepy and thats how bad things happen

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hell no, thats illegal

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hows it illegal!!
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a adult dating a minor is illegal!!!
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Absolutely in no way is that right..

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No that's disgusting. Besides its not even legal

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Heal yeah

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rlly? well im 16 and my bf is 23 so i would say yes!

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meaning your bf's mentality is that of a 16yr old creep. I mean who goes looking for minors? It's illegal for one, and you haven't lived your life yet. I'm not saying an age difference makes a difference in love. Just wait to you are more mature.
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Your boyfriend is major-league immature, at best. Girls his own age probably think he is a loser and a creep, and they are RIGHT! A guy who can't make it with girls his own age and who goes trolling for little girls has something terribly wrong with him, mentally and emotionally.
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YOu guys have no right to dis her bf like that....you dont even know him.!
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You need to relax and think about what she is asking here. She is a child, and he is a legal adult. It is ILLEGAL for him to be out hunting for little girls. It's very possible that he is, at worst, a pedophile and at best, a pathetic loser who needs someone very vulnerable to dominate and control. Either way, she needs to stay as far away from this creep as possible. Wise up.
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yeh its nt wrng bcz he is nt old egh to be ur dad
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No, thats just wrong on so many levels

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yehhh ryt on ur levels
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No

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I think no

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No she is a young to even have a bf

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are u old eng to hve 1
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People start dating in 5th grade now adays keep up!
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Heck no he is way to old for her that's illegal

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but they say love is nt abt age.......
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Please tell this girls parents. Nothing good is going to come of this. A twenty year old adult has no reason to date a 13 year old girl other than to exploit her.

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no no no!!!

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THAT IS SO WRONG! Thats ulillegal. Whoever this is better just die or sumthing. Cuz what does a 20year old REALLY want from a 13 year old??

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no if you are this childs parent this is illegal he needs to be locked up !!! before he knocks her up !

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That guy is a stalker he is a creap he is doing sexual assault call the popo!!!!!

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No, that's just strange

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No it's illegal, he is an adult since he is either 18 or 20, You Think It's A Bad Idea Too You Need To Tell Her.

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Don't asked here go with someone older tough and better right like family

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That's illegal! Is she insane?!

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Gatesriver

If this is a serious question, then the 20 year old should be turned into the authorities. Child molestation, pedophile, and sick. If this is a joke, how dare you make light of a situation that us so serious.

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i agree that is a bad situation. there is something wrong with that dude. he must be a "chester the molester" absolutely NO

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Your friend and yourself, are too young and don't have the life expirence yet to understand way this is not ok. Pay attention to all those answeres you have already received. In five years you will (at least you should) understand why this is not acceptable. Stay away from this boy.

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That's what I told her and she said she would Try to get away from him so she did but every time he see her he stares at her and sometimes smiles at her
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If you two are already staying away and not interested but he is trying to make advancements first tell him youre not interested, if he doesn't back off you MUST get a parent or trusted adult involved, probably police. This dude could potentially have some real issues in the head. Good luck, be safe and pay close attention to your surrounding for a while when your out doors playing.
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Good advice, Crystal.
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from wat i read THIS GUY does not sound good i recomend to tell someone she trust like an aunt mother or uncle something like that talk to them and it not going to be easy because he is her neighbor but if she is determine to stay away she will
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Good Lord really? Ok let's see she's a child he's an adult what's the word for that oh it's right on the tip of oh yeah child molester! It's not only wrong it's illegal (why do you think he told her she can't tell any one) you love her like your sister you say then protect her like one tell her to say away from him that he will surly hurt her and tell her parents or better yet be with her and have her tell them about this guy he is dangerous and her folks need to know now

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My friend is engaged to a 21 year old and she is 15 so she has to go to court.

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Something seriously wrong with the girl's parents.
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there are many reason why she has to marry
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i ment there might be many reasons why she has to marry
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No its not

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No, thats too much of a mental age difference maybe when she turns 18 it won't seem as weird and as much as an age difference then. He will be 25 and she will be 18 that sounds a lot better and appropriate! Lol

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No dude thats illegal

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I'm sorry but that's nasty. Really, when u get older and look back you'll understand. Men shouldn't want a girl. And sorry to say there's no way a 13 year child can make a "man" happy. Let alone give him what he desires. Too immature and inexperienced. Really no it's just wrong in so many ways

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No way

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No no no. 13 & 15 yr old are jail bait. If this 20 yr wants to date a 13 or 15 yr something is wrong and parents should be told. you need to go to your parents and hers tell them what he's doing. You could saving yours or hers life.

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Umm first of all that's creepy n he sounds like a child molester... Second of all it's illegal..... Third of all you need to tell her parents... Last but not least....... She's not even old enough to have a facebook

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Actually that would depend on their feelings and in this case mostly on the guys mentality as well.
There is a saying, something like this:
"Love knows no age." or "Age, height, weight are just unimportant numbers in love."
Besides what is illegal is sex between them, it definitely is NOT illegal to like someone and just spend nice time with them, no matter the age. They can still talk or have fun. Not everything is about sex as most of the answering people probably had in mind.
But as I wrote it depends on the guy and since I do not know him (or your friend for that matter) I can not make any conclusions about what could possibly happen.
I just wanted to point out that not every guy thinks of sex only. There are those among us who are nice and responsible and have feelings... well at least I hope I am not the only one these days.

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Would you want your 13 year old daughter dating a 20 year old man? Or would you question his motives and try to protect your little girl?
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you must be a stalker yourself. Sorry dude. Yes love knows no age, but you should be with someone who can communicate with you on the same level and experience. If this 20 year old was in anyway shape or form a decent person at all he wouldn't even consider dating her til she was atleast of legal age.
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hey to both ppl who comment this i was 13 with a 18 year old and he respected me waited for me and everything yeah i know many guys that age only want one thing but now nd days almost everyguy at any age want that too and now im married so that proofs many people here wrong including both you guys i undrestand for parents this might sond bad but honestly and boy wants that iv heard of 11 year old boys having sex already
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The people answering this question are NOT wrong. You are. If you were thirteen when you started dating this loser, just exactly how long did he "wait" for you? A few weeks, a few months? How long until he started pressuring you for sex? And why are you married--did you get pregnant? That is not a success story, Vanessa, it's a tragedy.
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no im not pregnant fyi i got married becuase i was better off living with him than in my house and if i where to be living with him i wanted to be married and he did wait a nice good while and i dont regreat it i understand for some ppl this might soung wrong but honestly i did good im doing better in schhol now im gradutating and im not trying to kill myself like i was trying back at home some ppl need a nice older person to make them feel safe and loved not everyone is like me but it shure made my life a whole lot and im not telling this girl she should be with this guy becuase i know not all guys are like my HUSBAND but im teeling everyone not all guys are taking advantage
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you should really not judge people's opinions j/s
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There is only one thing a guy that age would want from a girl that age ~ and it is not a good thing for her

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noooooooooooooooo

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Be A Good Friend To Her By
Telling Her That This Guy
Is Trouble a n d Also
Since He L I v e s
So Close, Tell
Her Parents
Too :(

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No frekin way! Seriously?? He's an adult and shes a young teen!! Omg tell her NO! That is just W R O N G wrong!

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No. Your friend needs a bf her age and he needs a gf his age.

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just tell her to tell him if he is willing to wait 4 years

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No, that won't work, because he will still be the same child-molester kind of loser-creep that he is now, he'll just be older.
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texas dog mom:she'll be older too
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noooooooooooooooo. b a nice sister and help her

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Hell naaaa! Use you're brain!! That's not legal!!

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No! not only is that dangerous, its not legal for them to have sexual intercourse with each other, which is obvious that they will because he is that old. And the danger is, if she sais no. he is strong enough too force her.

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actually that would be horrible

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How would it not
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okay so not all guys are the same some well take advantage of her and some want a nice relationship i was 13 and was dating a 18 year old we lasted four years dating and now im married young but im married to him no babies but married because of love so that means that guy could be a nice boyfriend another thing this is illegal so more likely there is going to be problems i had many problems with parents school and the cops so i dont recommend it but it could be love age is just a number!<3

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Thats probly why u got 2 kids for your pic
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A thirteen year old child hasn't the slightest notion of what love is. Do you really think it would be illegal if there wasn't anything wrong with it?
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He STALKS little girls through facebook. He is dangerous and sick. If you're supposed to be an adult, you need to do a whole lot of growing up.
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look im not saying this guy is good im saying not all guys are the same and fyi to the knower that is just a pic i have no kids dont you read my answer it says no babies gosh it is my opnion stop judjing
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Right vanessa113. These people are dumb.
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how can you judge someone without knowing him. im a guy who is in love with 13 years old girl but that doesn't mean im having sex ,or molesting her i never did that and never gonna do. its been 2 years im living with her and even her mother is ok with that. she knows we both love each other and trust me that i wont do these things to her. i just spend time talk with her and go out with her and have fun thats all i do...
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No this is not ok! Tell her parents!

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No, that is not okay. He should be adult enough to not pursue anything. Obviously his morals aren't in a good place.

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Um hes 20 thats iligal and your 13 what do you see in a man that old

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no thats just creepy

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How long has your friend known the boy ?

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April 2011 he nice to us and funny but he always adds girls that he doesn't know in facebook plus he asks my friends for phone numbers and I found out that he cheats and in Christmas eve (well the 23 of december 2011) he went to jail...
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Yea, he sounds like bad news but remember she is your friend so for now tell her to not date him because he is too old and she hasnt even know him that long and also tell her if she dosent leave him alone then you will tell her parents i mean it is fine for your friend to be friends with him they should be friends but JUST FRIENDS he is too old (etc) but also when u tell her if she dosent she will prolly be mad but dont worry she will get over it so just do this and follow me on here and tell me what happends good luck :)
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Do your friend a favor and tell your parents and her parents about this right away. Why would this guy need two Facebook pages with different ages on each one? He is obviously using Facebook to troll for little girls. He's a pedophile, honey. Don't keep quiet because of that stupid thing that kids do about being loyal and all that. Your friend is in trouble and she needs help fast. She is out of her league and in danger. Tell your parents today and ask them to help you approach her parents so you can do something REAL to help your friend.

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NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO enough ppl are mollested in this world already run run run as far as possible run kid run!

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he will go to jail an u should tell her this an make her realizer how much trouble he could get in an that he is wayyyyyyyyyyy to old for her im 14 an ive been there done that i think she should just tell him nooooooooo!!!!!!!:)

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That's kind of the reason he went to jail but not from us :) (he was in jail for one day)
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well if u need advice im here cuz my bf is 19 an im bout to turn 15 so i kno how it is
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Not all guys think about sex ok my boyfriends 18 and I'm only 15 and all we do is hang out so not all guys think bout sex

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I think you are immature and plain silly. Any guy who has gone through puberty thinks about sex once every 2.3 seconds. That is a fact.
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not all relatships are the same and honestly i think what makes you mature is what you been trough not your age so no allyact32 your not immature becuase you 15
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Ive gone through puberty and i dont think like that texasdogmom. Stop generalizing, wtf??
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Pedi file!

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NOooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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She should run the other way ...and as fast as she can.

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Oh my gosh, what the heck is going on with our young adults? They've gone wacko to even go near a 13 year old girl. Hope he likes the view from behind bars, cause thats where he will be if her parents find out, and they will sooner or later, I just hope for her sake it's sooner.

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He has been in jail for one day for txting his ex that he was going to kill her (but he was joking) so then the next day more than 20 polices where in his house and around my friend house (she lives next to him) even the Swat team came (this happen in the morning)...
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He sounds like a real catch, please convince her to stay away from him, tell her you'll tell her parents if you have to just to keep her safe.
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Ew no

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, Yeaa if he trynaa spendd a few years in ( JAIL ) !!

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no its not, that means her mother didnt teach her right, and she has no respect for her self !!! <<

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No because its illegal!

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its not right at all for this man to be doing this,she is only 13 he can try and do something to her you need to tell her that all he wants is booty an basically that is really all he wants

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No, that is really wrong and also illegal. I was in a similiar situation and I outright told the guy to leave me alone and blocked him on facebook and his phone number. My parents almost called the cops on him.

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uh no that is not a good idea!

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whoever she is im sure she has more class than to fall for this guy, baby, he wants one thing; DONT DO IT!!!

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thats just wird, but it is your choice

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NEVER go for a guy like that. It will never end well and you need to show her this! She needs to know hes not good!

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No, matter of fact its against the law.

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im 13, and that's messed up. hes just gonna rape you and plus, that's illegal. i think this was a pretty obvious answer.

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nooo!!!! he is wayy too old for her and is probably using her for his own satisfaction she should stop talking to him

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This is illegal and he is a pedophile who should NOT be going out with girls 7 years younger than him! what a creep!

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No it is not normal and you need to somehow tell her parents. He is a child molester if he is going after 13 year olds and needs to be locked up!

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no. its not normal. she should b dating guys her own age. isnt that kinda akward 2 b dating someone older anyway?

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oh my god, no way..

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NO!!!! Thats gross and illegal!! You really should not have asked that question cause that is just plain stupid!

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its not illegal but he might just want to use her as a *** toy i would tell her to see if hes safe to be with have her parents go and talk to him and agree to let her date and be with her every time she goes to see him and make shure they dont have ***

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HELL NO!!! That's sick!

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The biggest age difference in a relationship
should be 6 years.thats my opinion

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tell ur friend that is a bad idea. im srry, but if this man wants to date ur friend without meeting the family it would be concidered inapropiate... very inapropiate...
the age thing is a different story. i dont think it is illegal to date a man that age, but i do know he probably has bad intentions.

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It's not illegal ...your friend can go out with him ..but they can't have sex ..or else the guy will go to jail ...so just tell her not to have sex with him instill she is 18

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i thnk all he wnts is to sleep with her......................

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All ya, shut the f up. Do you. Just no sex until youre 17. Dnt listen to these dumb f

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Lol "sorry babe cant meet you tonight im grounded" xD

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