You can't do anything about it. Everyone thinks that their voice sounds bad, because what we hear in our heads is shockingly different from what we actually sound like. There's no reason to be self conscious about something you can never change.
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Last edited at 10:13AM on 3/5/2012
Try this: your lungs go down to the bottom of your ribcage, but most of us only breathe using the top half of the lungs. Sit up straight in a kitchen chair with no arms. Breathe in deeply through your nose and fill your lungs all the way to the bottom, then breathe out slowly through your mouth. Focus on filling and emptying your lungs as you continue to breathe in and out slowly and deeply. The point of this is to learn to breathe the way that singers breathe.
When you have become comfortable with the breathing, practice speaking using the air from the bottom of your lungs. This will enable your speech to become less breath-y and make your voice a bit deeper. It takes a lot of practice, but when you learn to control your breathing, you will be able to control your voice, and you will feel better physically, too!
I don't think anybody likes the sound of their own voice. Whenever I record myself I'm like ew as I am sure most of us do. But what can you do? We are who we are, weird voices and all. Just accept that that's your voice and own it and remember that other people probably don't think your voice is weird. People care more about personality then how your voice sounds.
Pay close attention to the exact situations that worsen or weaken your voice & don't forget them. Run these situations thru your mind & practice speaking out loud while imagining these scenarios. eg. if someone questions you about something personal; speaking up for yourself when you feel ignored; or dealing with criticism. I laugh very loudly & harshly in stressful social situations - it's awkward & annoying to others. Have to remind myself to stop & take a big breath before opening my mouth again. Takes a lot of self-control & practice, but mostly time to change negative speech habits to positive ones. You will slip-up occasionally but keep trying. Eventually you will get the hang of it. Your voice is a musical instrument, of sorts, that can be played well with steady practice.