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candybar

Why is it, when a tween asks a question, and they don't like the answer you give, they totally turn on you and become rude and offensive?

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Mr_FadedGlory

I use to listen to the show "Love Line" on the radio. It was back when Adam Carolla was on there. I would sit and count how many people would dispute and argue advice given by Dr.Drew. People are ridiculous! They won't even take advice from a board certified doctor!!! They wanted one answer and one answer only!

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Just when I thought it was safe to go back into the water... :0/
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candybar
Ha! Thanks FG!
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Excellent point! You're absolutely right!
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Dude former good laughin
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DrDougie

Well, they just don't like to be wrong. No-one likes to be wrong, but tweens can be immature about these things and get mad.

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Thanks Dougie. You're a good and intelligent young man.
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DrDougie
Thank you very much candybar, you're really nice to everyone. Thank you :)
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I can agree with that bob/rob
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DrDougie
got it rob!
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peacefriend
Dude Robert you keep sniffing on that Candybar got the ideas
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Oh candybar it's happening to you too :( I think it's because they have not yet had their minds expanded & therefore think they are correct about everything. They can also be extremely stubborn. Now, not all of them are like this, I have been extremely surprised by the maturity of some teens on here. It happens to me constantly & I'm a massive complainer of some teens on here ruining it for everyone else. Ask. is being ruined, it wasn't like this when I 1st came on here.

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candybar
Exactly what I said to Rob! It wasn't like this when I started either! Go figure.
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No, it's getting out of hand. That's for sure. I personally think it should be 18+ but that's just me.
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I think that's a great idea, Jucks. Maybe there should be an AskJunior.com for all these children and their repetitive, endless questions about the same things over and over again.
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@Texas.. That's a great idea! I mean, the under 18's would still get on but it wouldn't be as bad.
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Like most here have said. They already know what they want to hear, so if you do not answer accordingly, you are a "hater".

Not all teens are like this; there are some great kids on here. AND not all adults are polite either. We all know some of those as well. I do to think this behavior is limited to teens at all.

Look at the guy yesterday that asked if it was okay for him (married) and another married woman to be together because they are soul mates and unhappy in their marriages. Of course he knew it wasn't right. He only wanted to see if someone would tell him it was ok.

It all depends on the maturity of the Asker. If they are emotionally challenged (not mature), they get defensive and retaliate by being rude and offensive. They are not mature enough to accept that they are wrong. Hopefully they will learn there are other ways to think besides their own.

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Yup...no bogs for them!
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candybar
Nice answer, YNP. As always...
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Very nice answer!
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Thank you ladies!
Hope you are both having a great day!!!
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Good answer YNP..
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Thank you Jucks! I hear you're having a rainy season? I think some of us Yanks would like to trade you. We had several days over the past couple of weeks that were in the upper 80s. Not much rain this season either.
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Wow Candybar, I totally understand what you mean. I've been bit several times. I always look at their profiles, even then you can't really tell how old they are until they start to reply, but by then it's usually on and they want to argue.
Its not always the teens either, the adults do it too.
I think everyone needs to keep in mind when you ask a question you might not always agree with the answers you get. But be respectful enough to know that this is only their opinion, and they have the right to voice their opinion, after all, you asked them to. It doesn't mean they are right, and it doesn't mean they are wrong, this is only what they think. We all are entitled to our own thoughts. Especially with different beliefs in God or no beliefs in God. Don't blast people for what they think, you won't change them and why would you want to? This is what makes us different from each other, enjoy who each of you are yourself and don't push your opinions on each other. We will all get along great then!

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@Robert, you know it won't work though, right? No one would have any fun like that. What can I say, I'm guilty of being a smart ass sometimes, I just can't help myself, I guess as I get older I find it harder to tolerate stupid stuff.
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@Robert, I know right! I'm like you, I look at the questions and think " am I gonna get blasted" then decide if it's worth it or not. Sometimes it's pretty cool when you get a great responder that can actually make it fun going back and forth. For me it's all about fun, but if I can help, I really do try.
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Because they are teenagers! They think they know everything but they only know what teens should know!

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"I am not young enough to know everything." --Oscar Wilde
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candybar
I like that quote, Texas!
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Me, too. I love Oscar Wilde--he is so clever and sly.
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its cause they are getting the truth and arent hearing what they want to be hearing it hurts i know coz im one !! and our parents are always proving us wrong coz they say they now better !!

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Because they want you to tell them what they want to hear. Sometimes young people ask a friend a question just so the friend can reinforce what they already believe to be true. If you don't say what they want to hear, they get defensive and angry. It's a passive-agressive tactic that puts you on the spot, and is indicative of a very immature person.

Honesty is always the best policy in life. You don't have to be mean or anything, but don't let people put you in a position of having to lie to them. Telling someone only what they want to hear just helps them to not grow up and act like an adult.

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agreed!
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Thanx, y'all!
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Here's good advice:
Don't argue someone else's
OPINION
It's a known fact that arguing an opinion will likely be a very negative experience.
There's an old joke that goes:

Opinions are like people's backsides--
Everyone's got one
And everyone thinks that theirs is the best.??.

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Thanks bluepencil! Very sound advise.
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Hey blue! Great advice!! How ya doin?
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I agree with everybody...I'm just wondering what my pal kuu said!!!

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I was being silly and said something like: wha? U dnt no nuttin. U tink u so smrt. And u not.
Jk 8D
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Too funny!! That made me laugh really loud...all the other drivers are looking at me & backing up!!
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Because they're children and children know EVERYTHING.

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candybar
Thumbs up my friend. Sometimes it just gets so frustrating.
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Have to agree with you there Tony, my 13 year old made the mould for that category.
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Because we are going through an ocward stage were its not puberty but it is. And If you are a parent then the best thing I can say as a 6th grader is to remember what it was like for you when you were at that stage in life.

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Oh, I agree completely that you guys are going through an awkward stage. I do remember that & it is really hard. The difference is that there was NO FREAKIN WAY we would have talked back to our parents or other adults with such superiority, disdain, and downright nastiness. Sure we thought about it...but we knew with absolute certainty that we'd get the living daylights knocked right out of us. Plus...I think kids are raised totally different these days...it's good that kids are taught that their thoughts and opinions matter, the problem is they don't seem to be taught or able to understand that their thoughts and opinions aren't always the best, and to be able to respect a different opinion. You can disagree...and still be nice about it. It would also be nice if kids (and mind you, I'm speaking in general...not about ALL kids) knew how to accept not getting their way or what they want without thinking/acting like it's the end of the world. One of the biggest problems is the "me me me" attitude (kids and adults alike suffer from this).
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