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cutidede: 1 year ago via Android

how can i change my boyfriend so he is not being so lazy?

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knitwitjules: 1 year ago

You can't really change a person... to use an old saying, change must come from within. Your boyfriend has to *want* to change, for it to really happen. You can not change his views on life; you can tell him how you feel, and tell him that you would like it if he did ___ or was more ___, but ultimately it's up to him to make those changes. Honestly, though, it sounds like you are having much bigger issues than just this. You have asked three questions about your boyfriend in the past day, none of which indicates that you are particularly happy with him. My mom always said that adults don't change, they just become more like themselves-- so If he's looking at other girls, doing things behind your back on Facebook, and not being as active as you'd like to be, you might want to consider moving on... because if he's like this now, he is not likely to stop anytime soon. Ultimately the decision is yours, but unless you're willing to spend the rest of your life being treated like this~ and very few women are~ you will need to move on and find someone that you are more compatible with. I hope this helps you, sweetie... good luck <3

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knitwitjules: 1 year ago

Thanks again, Robert <3 I got your e-mail, wasn't able to respond yet... my phone ate my response :( I haven't forgotten you, though, just wanted you to know!

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kivetttome: 1 year ago via iPhone

I love your Mother's quote, knitwitjules!

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ynp.214: 1 year ago

Awesome Jules!
Mom is tres smart!

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cutidede: 1 year ago via Android

thank you.this really helps and open my mind and have me thinkn twice.thank u so much

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knitwitjules: 1 year ago

Thanks guys-- momma would be proud! I'll tell her the advice came in handy <3 Cutidede, I'm glad that you found it so helpful. You are more than welcome, and I wish you much luck going forward with this!

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maryanneotieno: 1 year ago

You can change your boyfriend from being lazy by letting him admit to his situation. If he can come to terms with it then you won't make any effort to change him. Let him stop delegating, lazy people like to delegate a lot. For example if he wants a remote, let him get up and get it himself. You can also make a plan by writing down all things about him that are lazy. Read more on http://www.ehow.com/how_4698674_stop-being-lazy.html.

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THEREVOLUTION: 1 year ago

depends on why hes being lazy. is it a lack of motivation or a lack of energy? if its the former maybe he just needs to find something to be passionate about. if its the latter maybe he needs to look into what hes putting into his body. as a former lazy guy i had trouble w both these issues. i found my solution and it changed my life and attitude. now i have more energy than i know what to do with and im passionate about it too

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Joculator3: 1 year ago

what was your solution

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THEREVOLUTION: 1 year ago

monavie rvl. its amazing! i lost 22 lbs in the first 2 weeks and im down 30 right now and its only week 3! i cant begin to tell you how great i feel! and the weight loss is just the tip of the iceberg...

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THEREVOLUTION: 1 year ago

if youd like to know more let me know and ill add you as a contact

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Joculator3: 1 year ago

Heck yeah! add me!

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THEREVOLUTION: 1 year ago

not sure how this works new to the ask scene. but i went to your profile and followed you

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cutidede: 1 year ago via Android

he loves to play the game all the time heck 24/7

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THEREVOLUTION: 1 year ago

im sorry was that directed at me? and if so, what? game?

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THEREVOLUTION: 1 year ago

oh you mean video games. touche lol thats not really laziness then thats more preoccupation w something that doesnt involve you. sounds like you need to give him the choice of you or the game. not to where he never plays again but to where him playing doesnt conflict w your quality time together. if he chooses the game you found out his priorities in a much better way than most, kick him to the

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THEREVOLUTION: 1 year ago

curb and find someone who enjoys spending time w you. if he chooses you youve got a winner and smile cause your better off than most!

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ynp.214: 1 year ago via iPhone

You can't change him. He needs to want to change.
He may simply need to find something that sparks his interests.
He may not believe that he is lazy. Your idea of lazy may be different than his.
You could try asking him to go do certain things with you and try to involve him more.
It would be easier to help if we knew what specifically you mean by him being lazy.

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kivetttome: 1 year ago via iPhone

I've spent the last 12 years trying to get my husband to pick up... sigh.. ;)

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cutidede: 1 year ago via Android

he doesnt doing anything i mean anything!he ask other ppl to go get his stuff.ugh!

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lulabelle: 1 year ago via iPhone

You may as well learn this now, at a young age: you cannot change people. You can only control your own thoughts and actions.

If he's lazy now, in 15 years he'll still be lazy.

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cutidede: 1 year ago via Android

smh

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kivetttome: 1 year ago via iPhone

You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink.

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knitwitjules: 1 year ago

I completely agree, Kiv... <3

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ynp.214: 1 year ago

How very true!

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cutidede: 1 year ago via Android

right my mom says this all the time but its so true

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Kathy2kathy: 1 year ago

It takes work to be lazy,if it is his clothes on the floor leave them.If his side of the bed is junky.Leave it for him to sleep in keep your side nice.Do not do anything for him or he will stay lazy.

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Kathy2kathy: 1 year ago

ty robert when your 2nd best yu try harder,lol

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Kathy2kathy: 1 year ago

Oh it is just a saying around our house not really meaning anyone,,lol,

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kookiegirl: 1 year ago via iPhone

You might not be able to change him, but don't enable him either by doing everything for him. He probably thinks why should he do anything when he has you doing it for him. Shut that down, he'll learn pretty quick once he doesn't have clean clothes.

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cutidede: 1 year ago via Android

amen to that

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