as I teenager I thought everything my parents did or said was nagging. you have to set boundaries so do what you have to do. in my youth I did what was expected of me. because my parents could trust me to make the right choices...they gave me freedom. if I messed up (which I did sometimes...nothing too terrible) I would have less freedom. I understood that as long as they could trust me, I was able to be more independent. i wanted that so I always tried to do the right thing. I was able to be open and honest. that's the key. if you want honesty, be prepared to deal with things you will not be happy about. if you are going to flip out, kids won't want to open up to you. I don't know how my parents did it. you have to be a parent not a friend...but if you want honesty...you have to be somewhat of a friend. goodness, god bless them :) just remember that you may not be a nag but that's what kids are going to think regardless.
hmmmm that is a tough one. Parenting is when you are trying to guide a child to the right path. Sometimes it takes repeating the message. Nagging is what the child hears if they don't want to learn that lesson.