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Gisellegarcia: 1 year ago via Android

I am pregnant with second child now. The father is confused whether he wants to be there or not what should I do if were not in good terms?

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ScottX0706: 1 year ago via Android | Last edited at 2:00AM on 3/14/2012

That was the stupidest answer possible. Sorry, but don't take that advice.
No good ever came from 2 people staying together for the kids. If he's down to play dad again, good for you. But that doesn't mean he wants to be with you anymore. If he wants nothing to do with the kids, why would you want him there anyways?
Regardless, you can't force a round peg in a square hole. Maybe it's just over.

And as far as keeping it goes, that is your decision. Don't let some stranger who knows nothing about you tell you how to conduct your personal business.

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mikala53: 1 year ago via iPhone

Definitely a thumbs up!!

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Gisellegarcia: 1 year ago via Android

It being over in between us is not the big deal or my biggest concern.. What bugs me more is that he was a bestfriend since intermediate and he always wanted a bby we took the time to talk about it and I decided to remove my birth control a month later I was pregnant I am now 5 months pregnant with his bbygurl n refuses to step up.. And for the record hes not the dad of my 1st child.. And we are in bad bad terms were my family n his just absolutely want nothing in between us.. if u could help me with more answers I would appreciate it thank you

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SoloJohn: 1 year ago

You should talk to him and make him understand what you want to tell him. I think you should keep the pregnancy, because with time you can convince him and come into conclusion before you are due.

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aijazquraishi: 1 year ago

It depends on how many weeks you are pregnant, if it is already 20 weeks plus then chances of termination of pregnancy is difficult, but take some Obs/Gyan opinion and then think of the termination of pregnancy. Yes Mr ScottX0706 is right he has already made up his mind to leave you.

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lauralu2011: 1 year ago via iPhone

"Termination of pregnancy"??? Why not call it what it really is? Murder of a baby! Hmm,sounds harsh. I guess that's why some people try to make it sound clinical. Takes the guilt away I suppose.

Even when a woman makes the decision that she doesn't want or cannot be a mother there is ALWAYS a better option than killing the innocent child. Putting a child up for adoption is a difficult choice, but at least it's a choice that does not deprive the child of living.

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Gisellegarcia: 1 year ago via Android

Amen

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aijazquraishi: 1 year ago

Yes every child has right to live. I have mentioned the conditions when a pregnancy can be terminated, its medical and legal aspects. I am totally against any kind of termination of pregnancy until and unless baby has some congenital defects or the mother is at a higher risk.

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Gisellegarcia: 1 year ago via Android

Thank u

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leadchanteur: 1 year ago | Last edited at 3:04AM on 3/14/2012

Regardless keep the child it is the right thing to do. He wants to be a coward and leave, let him go! remember you have a person inside you a son or a daughter not a choice!

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Rorschach: 1 year ago via iPhone

I would suggest not to put him on the birth certificate if he has not made a decision by the time you bring your beautiful child into the world. If he can not support your choice, and is a negative influence, then this could be an indication of his lack of commitment to your family. Sometimes though men feel nervous about the whole thing and just need a wee bit of time. If he is a good father already then remind him. He could have a confidence issue.

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Gisellegarcia: 1 year ago via Android

I just wonder why would he be so confused after the bby thing was.his whole idea of course I had something to do with it but he told me he was always ready for a kid n since it was going to be his first I went for it.. N now its like confusion he wants to be with me but then he dont then he tells me he loves me my other daughter n the bby to come but then hes never there.. I doing know what else to do

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