focus ur love on your two kids. And find another super sexy woman theres plenty. I know its easier said then done but itll happen oneday. And if you only miss her cuz she was super sexy maybe its not exactly her you miss.....
I wish I had a good answer to that one. I'm having a hard enough time getting over a 5 year relationship that gave me one child. You've got double my problems, and I'm pretty much done for. All I can really suggest is that you find something amusing to distract yourself with until the pain fades away a bit. Try not to think about her all the time, but if it's at all possible, try to remain friends with her. Who knows, maybe after some time apart, you guys will give it another shot. Failing that, get a hobby that takes up most of your free time, so you're not always dwelling on what was and what could have been. Me, I come on Ask between rounds of computer games and good books, but that's just me. Good luck with everything though Ed, I feel for ya.
You got to face it that the children need your attention for now. Get yourself busy with something like a short course or other activity and get counseling if need be. You will in time recover from that relationship.
Well, be sure to put more focus on your two children first. Deciding on which woman should be based on which one you are happier with and if it's the sexy one then be with her. Don't feel guilty for leaving her if you're unhappy. Guilt can be humans greatest downfall because it can make you miserable for doing something you think you shouldn't do, when sometimes it's better just to follow your heart. Good luck mate. Peace.