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What do you do when your girlfriend cheats?

do u get revenge or break up or do u just forgive her?

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Well revenge is definitely not the right thing to do cuz then it'll be competing in a relationship which is dumb and pointless..do it's either break up or forgive..well the you need to ask yourself..
----can I still trust this person??.
After something like that happens it's hard to trust them and that's an important factor in a relationship.if you truly want to be with that person and can regain trust and not hold a grudge..then you can forgive them..but just the fact that u put should I get revenge in your question shows that you haven't forgiven and lost trust for the person..
Breaking up is a big step but it may be necessary..analyze the circumstances deeply and do what u feel us best..no one can truly make the decision but you..just keep all the benefits and consequences in mind and do what's best for you..

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The circumstances really matter. In the end it is your decision and yours alone. My best advice is the same thing I told someone on this site not long ago. If you forgive you need to forgive completely and move forward. You can't constantly hold it against a person. It will ruin any relationship you wish to have. It is also unhealthy to try to seek revenge and damage the other person. It will become a sick cycle that could ruin you both beyond repair. Third you may come to the realization that you won't be able to forget the severe betrayal and alas can not over come it and must move on from the relationship. Those are you options. Best of luck.

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Revenge(;

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Ask yourself do you love this person if so forgive and forget but if you dont love this person and dont see the relationship progressing its best to end the relationship

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Break up or forgive, just not revenge it could backfire!!! :)

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I agree with Jordan. Revenge solves nothing. Personally, I would dump her and move on.

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Thx!!
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You bet!
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I think it depends on how it happened? is she sorry? can you forgive her be honest with yourself., move on if you wouldn't be able to forgive

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Never take revenge. It makes things worse and makes you look arrogant. Try talking it out and starting over.

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I think it all depends on the story of what had happened before you go deciding your next move! But defiantly talk to her if your willing to give her another chance

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If u need revenge ideas. Let me know

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i need one
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pls give me an idea, so that i realise her the same.....
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that what is the result of cheating
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Follow your heart ! Me and my ex have went through the same problems she cheated on me I forgave her !! My heart is with her ! She understands she has to gain that trust back ! But there's still that thought in my mind but I'm prepared if it happens again ! Just follow your heart and you will have a good life !

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ReVeNgE!!!

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Tit for tat.

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2 wrongs dont make a right
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TWO minus makes a plus.
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Im sorry that your gf cheated in you thats harsh but, Breakup don't do revenge yet don't forgive her if u do revenge some fights gunna happen if u forgive her it will show that YOU my friend are desperate and that you will ALWAYS forgive and take her back and she WILL keep on cheating! Hope this works!

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Move on and don't look back.

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The only thing u should do first, find out why she cheated on u ( u can ask her why she did it ) some times it may be your fault that cheated on u. if it is your fault please forgive her and change but please if she cheated for no reason just because she wanted and she enjoys sleeping with many guys never give her and never look back

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I a 21 and my gf is 18...We had been in a long distance relationship for the last 2 years...We have met each other but dint hav sex with each other..N dis 1 day she was drunk n she lost control n slept wid a guy she knew as a frnd..The worst thing is she was a virgin before dat night, wich she lost it that night...to some other guy...dat hurts..
She told me what happened n all...But felt guilty with herself n dsnt wish to show her face to me again...
Whther i shud forgive dis girl and get toghthr agn..or shud i brkup?
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I suppose if she cannot handle herself and got drunk, she can get drunk again and cheat on you again. If she actually was loyal to you then she would have lost her virginity to you instead. Please think it over before you take any decision.
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i think this is very panic but you have to manage it at all no one can manage you

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my gf cheated on me and she confesssed to me the same day and told that she has done with her exboyfriend whom she met and he emmotionaly took her. and she regret to me that this and told me that she had broken my trust and it is good that u leave me.. but i love her very much and she too.. she asks me forgive her.. i did that but can i take her back or not?? pls tell... i am very confussed..

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There are 2 options: forgive her or dump her.
But just keep in mind that whatever you decide will not be easy, therefore base your decision on how you feel about the relationship and about her.
If you're worried about being able to trust her in the future, here's something you have to keep in mind: you wont for a very long time, and its necessary, if anything healthy to feel like that.
Also, this is where commitment and strength of character will come into play for the two of you. if you are both serious about each other you'll hang in there, communicate and make it work no matter how hard it feels or gets. Most couples who do this become stronger as a result.
If you decide to dump her, you might never know how strong you two could have been together and it might just be something that will haunt you for the rest of your life, but if you're not ready to do either one, just ask for some space to think your decision through.
When you make your decision, tell her, and let her know how you feel and why you think it's best to move on like that. If she loves you, she'll respect your decision, no matter how difficult it will be to.

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thank you this helped a lot in my thiought process!!! i love her and we can get through this !!
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What if you forgive her completely but she keeps talking to that person again and again. You love her too much to break up. You have told her openly that you cannot stand her talking to this person, this seems to be her bitchy side. On the other hand she also shows u that she loves you really much so you also don't have the courage to be mean to her. What should one do in this situation? Help...

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ive had this situation happen to me. shes just really minpulitive! it might be hard but ending it is honestly the best through this!
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