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I think with anyone, the reason we don't leave is because of guilt. If she's your "new" girlfriend, (personally) I would leave and not because I don't want to deal with it. It just sounds like she isn't ready herself. Her depression maybe stemming from the divorce (along with money issues deriving from it). It's probably best to end it while the relationship is still fresh because the longer you stay, it only adds to her pain and yours... I think she needs to clean up her own backyard a bit; sometimes you just need to handle alone. Honestly, that is a difficult one.
Talk to her and tell her that you are willing to help her get over her pain, but that she has to be thankful for your help and not take her pain out on you because you didn't cause the pain
Great answer Aisa, she is not ready to be in a relationship, and if she is looking for you to be the prince, then she is also codependent. She needs to get help for herself. One cannot "save," anyone. Sometimes we need to save ourselves.
Get out of it. It will go on forever...
You need someone on your same level of financial and emotional health.
Fix it? Are you a trained mental health professional? No!
EJECT! EJECT! EJECT!
Sometimes all people need is to know someone cares and is there to listen. Sometimes a listing ear is enough. Just be there to listen to her. You don't need to offer tons of advice, just show her you care by listening. I hear you sometimes I wish I just had all the answers for them and could offer perfect advice but sometimes its better to keep our mouth shut. Like you said you don't have the answers, you don't know what to say, so just listen. There is no way you could offer advice having not gone through or experienced what she had, so there is no need to say anything.
And this is from a girl that also carries a lot of baggage, coming from a pretty dysfunctional family and has a lot of issues. We just want/need love.
But like aisa said, if you cannot handle it and it's too much, you may have to just walk away. You cannot rely on one person for your happiness.
If you really love her, stick by her. if not, run away from problems like every other little pansy of a man these days. WOMEN WANT A MAN. Someone who will stick by her no matter what, through thick and thin. someone who tells you you're beautiful on your worst days. someone who will be happy just to be yours. WHERE IS THE COMMITMENT?
If you love someone and want to commit to them, you both need to be at the same place at the same time. If she is suffering and you can't understand her suffering, its better to be a friend than her lover. Safer, Fairer, and far more helpful. Don't underestimate friendship. It can be a life-saver. She really needs a counselor to talk through her issues with trust and commitment. Some churches offer great social support and counseling.
Most people come into a relationship w/baggage, however this one takes the cake. Is there anything that isn't wrong w/her? If she is your "new" girlfriend, you should probably make her your "old" girlfriend and cut your losses now. It doesn't sound at all like she is in the right place for a boyfriend but looking more for a life saver. She needs time to work on herself before she could handle another relationship.
If she cant take care of herself, then leave her and move on
Walk away before she gets too attached. Your life will be easier.
Sounds like she needs to deal with all of her own issues before she tries to start a new relationship. She may be permanently stuck in the victim role until she receives some intensive counseling. The medical issues are not as big a deal as the emotional ones. Unless you're willing to let her suck the life out of you, I think you would be better off walking away until she gets herself sorted out.
Trust issues may be the main point here. sit down and talk things out with her. be completely honest with each other and get your worries out in the open. just always make sure if something is bothering one of you that the other knows about it. then once that is taken care of you need to decide for yourself if you are willing and able to be there for her through all that she is going through and commit to the relationship and do the best you can do and be the best person for her that you can be.
Run like hell
I'm sorry, but you just can't save the world. Your not talking Louis Vitton luggage, your talking Goodwill throwbacks here. That is way to much to take on the plane ride. I would suggest you find a really good Therapist/doctor for her and a new girlfriend for yourself. Sorry, but the truth stings.
I think you sound like a feeling guy based on your statement of "it's tearing me up inside", however you are also smart enough to know you will not find happiness in a relationship like this. My suggestion is you help her financially and emotionally find a therapist to help heal past wounds. Look into a therapy called EMDR (google for more info). I'd say you would really have to be in love w her though because if she has trust issues she will test your level of commitment until she knows you are in it for the long run :) good luck and God bless
Wow, I'm sorry, but I would usually say if you love her, at least try. But with all her issues, you may be the one who will end up with major issues yourself. I think she needs to get her life straightened out a little bit before starting a new relationship, especially with the depression part of it.
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