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I love my boyfriend but i have a crush on someone else from school

i really do love my boyfriend ( Adrian ) but ive been crushing on a guy from school that rides my bus ( Jarell ). me and Jarrell always sit together and he told me he likes me a lot and i told him i liked him too but i have a boyfriend. we've kissing on the bus for the past couple of days which makes me feel terrible cause i dont want to hurt my boyfriend. i know im wrong in soo many ways but ive tried to stop soooo many times but i just can't. its driving me insane. i dont know what to do please HELP!!! i feel like im a slut for kissing someone else behind my boyfriend's back. its really hard for me. i DONT want to break up with my boyfriend but i dont want to stop talking to Jarell either. Adrian is sooo sweet and understandable i can tell him anything me and him have soo much in common and we love each other and Jarell is super funny and cute and he always makes me smile. when im with Jarell it feels great and i cant stop kissing him even though i know its wrong. But when im with Adrian it feels amazing and i love every moment of it. im really confused i need help BADLY!!!

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Break up with your boyfriend, he deserves better than you. If you actually "loved" him you would have never kissed someone else, period.

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Kudos answer. Moments of weakness are understandable in a few very slight cases... but not continual make-out sessions like she's been doing.
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Mahalo.
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Great answer!
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nwar is about as blunt as I, i like blunt ness! we should all get blunted, even you wow imagine that her name is lover.
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Wha?
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I've got something blunt...
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Bluntness is best! People want soft mushy answers when they've done something wrong... sorry, this is real world. Mikale.. I'm sure you do, just don't use it one me :)
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You're safe nwarguy...
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... for now.
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Bahahahahahaah! Omg I can't believe that I didn't catch that. I grew up in a goody two shoe home and am VERY naive when it comes to some things. Drugs are one of those. You can say mary jane and I think you're talking about my cousin! lol
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Youu Needa To Tell Yor Boyfriend Because You Cheated On Him && Honestly , Youu Need To Be Singlee Because A Person Likee Youu Don't Need To Be In A Relationship !

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yeah amaril and yourself are both right, you should feel like a skank, if was your boy and you told me (depending on how you look (no jk that messed up)) i would kill jarrel, problem solved? probably lol

as to a serious view on this, you fd up and its time to pay, tell adrian and let him handle it the way he sees fit, he might really love you and not care and just want to stay with you, or he might get super P-O'd, smack you where you need it, and go shov two buckshot down your boy pals throat, man i really hate relations ships because Stuff like this always happens.
good job with you self control and sorry im so blunt kinda comin off as an AHAT but im emotional and as you can see sometimes they get in the middle of me judgment and i turn into the green hulk and burstin to ripped purple shorts and start throwing tables and chairs and screaming! yah so, good luck is the best i can hope for you. i hope your boyfriend doesnt hate you now, i would feel like it.
just think about if you hadnt done this,ever, and he was the one doing it to you.
how would you feel and react? do you really think you deserve to be with anyone, try being alone for a while and then youll know what its like. to have to choose
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Kissing another boy while having a boyfriend... I think you hurt him enough. My advice is to stop your relationship and be with this bus kid.

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Poor bus kid... getting leftovers, but then again I'm sure that's what he wants
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hahaha, now thas f'd up! i was the bus kid once, but i never kissed i just grinded a little bit, oh yeah! it took me forever to get my comment on here they ekpt telling me, too coloful, still too coloful, havent got that curse word outa there yet?

and im sorry if i was too blunt maybe a little harsh but you gotta understand we all make mistakes, i understand where you have made a horrible mistake but if you cant even use you head to make the right decisions after youve messed up, well then, you dont DESERVE YOUR HEAD XD and that when i (as the admirable boyfriend, snap and kill you and your bus boy. the end :)
everybody dies, its not a happy ending lol
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When you love someone you don't do those things. True love that is. You said he rides your bus? You will learn what true love is about 5-8 years. Till then watch using the L word especially when you just end up hurting someone. How'd you like it?

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Wow! You need to break up with your boyfriend, because you obviously don't love him like you say you do. You're going to break his heart when he finds out :(

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"your a heart breaker, love taker, dream walker? dont you mess around with me!"
yep fail lyrics huh?
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um that is pretty slutty...and you cant love anyone that you would treat like that. maybe you tell them both how you feel and they can both kiss you? idk sounds like you need to talk to your boyfriend and tell him you dont love him or you would not have done that to him. and jerrel dont care about you. he is just having fun on the bus and knows you will never leave your boyfriend so he dont have to worry about dating you. he wouldnt cause he now knows you are a cheater

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damn, but its true he would be dumb to try to hang with you forever, youll dump him as soon as you meet a greasy rapper! lil wayne says what he likes to do to lil nastys, just listen.
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i mean dang, cant curse XD
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dont tell him!

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after all this on ask, just make it a game, tell him to sign up...tell him to read this question... ooops forgot thier names are all over this page hell be like wow babe, some other guy named after me is having a horrible relationship problem, and the cheaters name is...is...jarrle from football? NIKKA plz
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You need to end it with one of them. If you want to keep your boyfriend, end it with the new guy and come clean to your boyfriend. If you want the new guy, come clean to the boyfriend and end it. It's not fair to lead both of them on.

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no one is perfect, and tell him what has been happening
"never leave the person you love for some one you like, because the person you like will leave you for the person they love"

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btw if you didnt already know this from just basic feeling and intuition, your stupid. str8 dumb. go to school and accually learn in class, expand your mind, stop thinking of your boyfriend and jarrle and just relax. as i like to say, whats done is freaking done.
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tell him you hate him

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There are so many things that need to be left unsaid. You really have to stop flirting with the other guy. You have a boyfriend! Its a sin to flirt with someone, while your on a relationship. You have to make up your mind and come up with a decision. If your happy with adrian then spend your time with him. Whats the point of kissing someone if your boyfriend can make you feel the same way?

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well i guess for some ppl its not the same, my own mother is someone who likes to kiss other men, i have never been able to understand this bcas my parent problems, but on the contrary, my parents are stil married after 20 years, 10 full of termoil. theres always hope but you can make things ablot easier for yourself if you just do things as they are intended, and if you as how are they intended? i answer you to try to read the bible, or go to church, OR if thats both to much just talk to a friend that has spiritul background. they will help you and proabably have great advise for you bcas the bible is really the law for life, it tells you how your suposed to live. now you can read it and take it for what its worth, or as a "jesus freak" would say, forever be blind! idk lol, but really you need to get help, and stop not only for yourself but at least for everyone ealse who is involved now, had u never done this, you wouldnt be wondering now, you wouldnt have 30 ppl over the internet hating your guts, basically it would all be different, and OOOH you would know what jarrle taste like, i bet cigarettes lol (forrest gump any1?) so yeah im gonna back off before i commment on everything. i hope your sorry and i urge you to do as most of these ppl say and come clean with your BF he does not deserve to be left in the dark about this...its F'd up, really f'd up.
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walla txt! i had something like this happen to me so im emo about it hehe!
sorry i wrote so much lol.
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i dont like you

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now that just plain mean :| shakes head....
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First off my middle name is adrian :p oh nd honestly u dont love ur boyfriend since ur kinda starting another relationship with another kid...

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hay cesaaar want some candy????????/
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you shure didnt act liike you were in love with him... sorry. next time dont f' up, id suggest listening to rock and roll for a while :)
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if you dont want to hurt your bf tell him and leave him nd dont even think about getting with the other guy after you brake up.

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too late, you already got with the other guy, basically.
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but hes right, if you cant be with one of them then be with none, that what happend to me!
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Figure out which guy you like better, If its your boyfriend be honest with him, by not telling him you can make it worse. If its the other guy, tell him strait up that you don't wanna be kissing or anything more than a friend while your with your bf

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see this girls is got a brain like yours, yall can colabarate and come up with "A master plan", or you can just do whats right :)
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if you choose your BF, dont even think about the other boy, thats how adrian will feel, i mean come on hes already put his tonge in you and sheet! XD (man this is F'd up!)
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I think that relationship is depend on you. you just calm down and left them for a while. you should try not to near both of them, and ASK yourself. " WHO DO YOU ACTUALLY LOVE" ask your own feeling. From what you have said i think that . Adrian is already your boy friend and you love each other. he always makes you smile. SO you don't want to hurt him. you feel safe when you live with him, you can share everything to each other, LOVE time, DIFFICULT time... BUT Jarell , for you is someone you love too, But DO you always feel comfortable when you near him? Jarell is already know you got a boy friend, why he still kissing you? he may know the result if he and you carry on this relationship, YOU and Adrian will be suffer. And you will be the betray person on everyone's eyes.

What you have describe, i think you should ask your self. but if it still no answer, let choose Adrian. Tell Jarell the truth, see what he say. " THE REAL PERSON who love you is the person who happy when they see you happy." ,But he still not release you" IT is because He only want you and don't care where you HURT>>>>

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yeah basically she saying "the truth shall set you free" but really what that means is, the truth is goin to make this F'd up situation go by and down alot smoother. if its going to be smooth at all. i broke up with my ex gf, but she wouldnt tell me about "jarrle" either, good thing her mom told me days before i asked her. resorces lol
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can I ask who are you, the owner have comment something, but you are comment for every one's answer. if you know the real thing why don't you help her by answer the question.
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you have to choose which one is your boyfriend and which one is your friend, and that doesn't mean friend with benefits , and girlfriend, when you supply too much of you self to many guys, your value will drop, it the basic supply and demand theory,
make your self worth more

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lol suply and demand, never thought that way b4 (im a boy!) you girls piss me off everyday :D my ex makes me wanna go phyco rambo and the girls to flirt with at school are usualy to picky/flirty with everyone ealse so ppllike me get pushed into the shadows (and you know what they tell me?) BETTER LUCK IN COLLEGE! XD haha college, i bet its wild and crazy accually i mean you ever seen an american pie?
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just end the relationship you don't need to be in a relationship if you are going to cheat AN IF YOU TRULY LOVED HIM you wouldn't have cheated on him or even flirted i am the only girl an all my siblings an the youngest i have all brothers an just because there guys doesn't mean they get over it faster or it doesn't bother them as much if you don't know how to be loyal an faithful to the so called person you love then you don't need to be in a relationship just end it before you hurt him anymore an go with the bus boy an messing with a lot of guys makes you seem slutty an obviously you are easy an have no respect for your self an you have not as much value as you could

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ahhh what happen while caught up in the momment, if i had gotten caught up i might have boinkd this one girl who had a BF but she came over to me casa and brought drank but she was nervously breaking down about her abusive BF so i calmed her and smoked some bud i think (idk long time) and son enof i was playin cad waw and she was passed out next to me (GO ME!!! DRUNK BEECH SLEEPS WHILE I WRECK) chinese ppls!!! i am funny arent i?
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yha an that is different if ha BF was abusive someone need to come her down an what bud you be smoking.HOW OLD IS YOU?
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how OLD is ME SON!?, um 18 now hehe :/.
i just saw this post you made, and i dunno if youll see mine, but , i just wanted to say i liked it and judging from your profile pic i couldnt have told if you would agree with this girl, or disagree :/.

p.s. i have a little sister, and an older brother :D you remind me of her <33
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Well there are times when you have to make a choice even it's really hard to do. To love more than two at the same time is so painful that you can't maintain this situation that long. Then the point is that to whom do you say good bye even though it would be such a difficult choice to make. If you can't take one emotionally then what about drawing a comparison table between two? In this table on the far left column there are items(questions) and you give points from 0 to 10 for each question for two guys. After you've done for all the questions, then you can calculate total points for two men and this can help you make a choice. For instance one of the questions can be 'with whom I want to go to desert island?'

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you dont deserve to make a choice in my opioin i really wish for you that it never happend, its not right. none of it, dont care how it "felt" what you "thought" ou were just in over your head girl...
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your suggest is very great,:-)
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You must determine the difference between love and lust.

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this is definatly lust, which dont feel to bad im the worst about it too, but thing difference is im a guy whos been singal for 5 years, and your a skank :D no ofense
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Ahh... Just why are you calling me a skank?
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You shouldnt be in a relationship. & Shouldnt be going around kissing these guys thats nasty/wrong. If you really loved him you wouldnt of done all that in the first place he would be the only guy you think about. It would be best for you to be with the guy that you sit next to on the bus.. or just be single for a whie.. You did cheat on your boyfriend since you did all of that.

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Wow. Nice self control there. "oh I love Adrian but I want to be with jarell, blah blah blah." cut the soap opera. I hope Adrian finds out and dumps u bc ur nasty. It's a sin.

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Awkward....

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tell your boyfriend the TRUTH!! if that goes okay.. try to think about y you did wat you did...

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u need to be real with yourself! your the reason why men find it sooo hard to trust chicks, and remember what goes around comes around in bites that ass

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break up with him.. obviously you want to be with someone other than him. It is natural to be attracted to others, even married couples do. everyone does. but if you are cheating on him, you need to break up. why put yourself through that? your young, cut the cord.

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you say you love your boyfriend. IF YOU LOVED YOUR BOYFRIEND you wouldn't cheat. This is the part when you decide if you LOVE your boyfriend or this so called Jarell. Who ever you choose please know your hurting either one of their feelings. If i were you i wouldnt of got in that situation in the first place.

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