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How do you get your mom to let you date someone older than you?

So I like this guys but my mom has never met him, she doesn't even know I hang out with him. This is because I'm afraid she won't like him or his family. They are kind of... Ghetto haha. But my mom and dad are classy. I really like him but I dont wanna date behind her back. What should I do?

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Respect her wishes. There is a reason mom's are a pain in the @ss, and one day when you are a mom. you will understand why.

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Yea but my friends mom is letting her date his brother who is waayyy worse than him.
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Different parents have different rules, i'm 21 now and I think back to some of the rules that my friends parents had and now i understand the reasoning behind it. Take it as they care about you and don't want to see you make a mistake
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mention him and how much u like him and he is a great guy.
Just explain to her how he is a great guy and that he never does anything wrong (goodie two shoes) and that he is a safe guy-won't do anything wrong to you even if he is none of that u just have to tell him to act like the way she thinks he is wen he is around her-good luck

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My advice to you is to have an honest chat with her, right now you are making an assumption about what she may decide, not on facts. Remember that parents are always looking out for their children's best interests and so her perspective may be very different from yours, that doesn't make every decision right, but ALWAYS meant for your best interest. When you do have the chat with her it is important to remain calm and objective. If you aren't it is more likely that you will be treated like a child. Tell her that you respect her and wanted to do this right but also let her know why it is that you like the chap, and then let them meet. In fact maybe they should meet before you have the chat with her. If they do meet before the chat - don't use the meeting as the time to have the discussion with her. Hope that helps, and good on you for wanting to do the right thing :)

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I'd just tell her. I like telling my mom stuff when we are in the car alone. If she says no then respect her but if you really wanna date him still I would just keep going behind her back until you guys break up?

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When ever I try to tell her stuff it ends in an argument though.
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Jessie, you asked about council in a previous question. You have a lot going on, if mom is trying to do her best to keep things in order, this isn't going to help any.

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Hard as it may be to believe, your mom nit only cares about your best interest, she also understands things you don't even know to think about.

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