1 year ago
Last edited at 12:49PM on 3/30/2012
Um, can't believe no one's said this yet: there's no reason you have to be married before having a child! It's often easier if you're in a committed relationship because you have another to help you take care of the baby, but you can simply be a committed boyfriend/girlfriend. A piece of paper that says you're married has no bearing on raising a child, and isn't a guarantee that you'll stay together anyway, divorce rates being so high! Mostly people who tell you you have to get married before you have kids are conservative Christians, and are just telling you that because they think only one lifestyle should fit all human relationships.
Because children need to be raised in stable, two-parent homes. Unless you are independently wealthy and can be home with your child every day, you cannot properly raise a child alone, especially a boy.
Children need a father in the home to teach them how men are supposed to behave. Boys need to learn how to behave like men, and girls need to see how a man is supposed to treat women. Both suffer without this role model in their lives and in their homes every day.
Divorce and single mothers are to blame for the fact that there are so many guys in America today who are nothing more than immature little boys in men's bodies. At some point, mothers have to be made to back off and stop babying boy children so they can learn how to act like men, and without a father in the home this does not happen. And without a father in the home, girls grow up completely lost when it comes to men, with no understanding of what is, and is not, acceptable behavior in men as they relate to women.
It's much easier to raise children with a partner whether it be a Mom/ Dad, Dad/Dad or Mom/Mom. Sadly in our country only one group in this scenario has 100% guaranteed marriage right. For some people, marriage is not necessary or desirable. Only you can be the judge of what's best for you.