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If im 17 and my boyfriend is 30 can he go to jail if my parents don't approve?

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What does a 30 year old want with a 17 year old think about how sad his life is

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YES! what do you see in a 30 yr old and more importantly what does a 30 yr old see in a 17 yr old! this situation could become dangerous!!!

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I agree that's terrible
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Ya :/ I think you should ask your parents

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why would you want a 30 year old bf? my parents would not let me date a 16 year old when i was 13

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yes bad idea dating a 30 year old try dating someone around your own age

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Yes, because your still technically a minor, so yes he can.

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YES! te older the man, the bigger the charges if you are under 18!

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YES!!! stop dating him

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Yes. You don't want him to get a sex offense charge as you are a minor.

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Thats's a 13 yr difference!!

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He can only go to jail if you have sex, but you still should talk to your parents.

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yes you are a minor and he can go to jail because he is an adult and you are 4+ years apart he can go to jail for rape, child molestation and sex abuse. lots of years in prison, YOU WILL END UP RUINING HIS LIFE. he wont be able to get a good job, he cant be around kids,if you like him, dump him NOW

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Sure.

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Yes!

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No. As long as you are not having sex before you turn 18, he cannot get into any trouble.

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Survey sez: (see above).

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Yes he can

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ya and frankly i dont think you should be dating someone that is 13 years older than you but ya he can get arrested until your 18 he is only with you because he likes young girls and that's messed up really dump him now he is only with your for your body not for you you need to get rid of this guy

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Yes. If you two have sex or someone claims you two have sex(such as your parents) he could get thrown in jail and convicted as having sex with a child. My uncle had this happen to him even though she was the one who wanted to. For simply dating, I think it is still legal though just be careful that your parents don't get mad at him. May be best for you to not date him till you turn 18. If he likes you enough, he'll wait. Also, if he gets arrested, his life will be a nightmare. Cops don't take kindly to them, regardless of your age. He'll get arrested for dumb little reasons, he won't be allowed near anyone under the age of eighteen, it will be extremely difficult for him to get a job and a place to stay and when realised from prison, they expect him to do that within a month or two or he goes back to prison. Please just wait till you are eighteen.

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yes ..I'm sure ur parents wont approve ..why in the world would you date a man twice your age? seems he likes little girls ..the bad news is that if you end up with him your going to age with him and he will still be attracted to little girls think about it and run as fast as you can ..the man has mental problems I'm sorry ...

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16 is the age of consent in most states, but if your parents don't approve, it's probably for good reason. Also, ask yourself why a man who is at the age where he should be starting a family and settling into his life, is interested in someone who is still in highschool and who won'tbe ready for those things for 10 years. He probably tells you how mature you are and fills your ears with flattery, but ask yourself why he must go to a teen and not to a woman his own age. Finally, really think about whether or not you would let your daughter date someone so much older.

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well, maybe it's because he never took anyone that seriously before, he may be playing with her, but honestly if it was me i would let my daughter do what ever she wants, i would never hold her back because she has to learn from her own mistakes. You don't know maybe he really loves her.
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The laws vary quite a bit depending on where you are. Statutory rape or even illegal sexual activity can get you both in hot water if you are under the age of 18. If you want to know more about the legal repercussions .. you have to research locally.

Having said that .. I'm sure your 30 yr old boyfriend knows all too well that he is risking his freedom and his future ... not to mention self respect.

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I would call the police as soon as I found out. That is if you were mine. Your still a child for crying out loud

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why? there's nothing wrong with being in love! So if he was just a bit younger you would agree? She can date and have sex with those her own age but she can't with someone older? it makes no sense to me, if she is in love she should be allowed to love not told that there is no future for them! even if you keep them apart it will do no good, once she grows up she will leave and do what she wants and she will definitely hate you if she was seriously in love with him!
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I don't think you would go to jail but it is a bad idea

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Yes- the question you need to ask is why a 30 year old man would want to date a 17 year old girl.... Pedophile????

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Yes.

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it depends what he's doing you and if you get caught you will probably go to court so you have a chance

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Abolutely. And he should. Dirty old man. At thirty he should know better!

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Duh!!

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Contributing to the delinquency of a minor can get him arrested, and statutory rape(which a 30-year-old man having sex with a 17-year-old girl can be considered) can get him a LONG prison sentence. Add to that, a lot of people would consider your boyfriend to be a pedophile. What are you thinking?

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He should.

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What the hell is wrong with you?!

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There's absolutely nothing wrong with her, she's just in love. Don't be quick to judge if you don't even know anything about them.
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k cooool. obviously there is something wrong. it's nasty. he's almost old enouogh to be her dad... ew! they can find someone their on age. and it's illegal.
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You don't fall in love with a person's age, you fall in love with who they are. The woman I am in love with is thirteen years younger than me. I am 57 she just turned 45. And I fell in love with her thirty years ago when she was 15 and I was 28. The bad thing is I listened to people like the answers here and didn't do anything about it then. We were separated for twenty eight years and it was horrible. Now, she is back in my life and I love her just as much now as I did the first time I saw her. If I had ignored what everyone was saying, we could have had twenty eight years being happily married instead of living in misery.

And, while we were apart, she married someone her own age. That didn't work out for her, since it ended in divorce.
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Yes

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yes, he can but there is absolutely nothing wrong in loving him, even if he is 10-15 years older. just wait till your 18 then you'll be fine your parent's won't be able to do anything even if they disapprove. I know because right now my uncle and his wife have an age difference of 15 years and they are madly in love with each other and they have 4 kids.

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You're absolutely right. A person's age has nothing to do with why they are in love with each other.
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Thank you for agreeing, most people only follow what everyone else does and think that what's accepted by the majority is the right thing. Which I disagree with!
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I don't understand why you would date a 30 year old man, but yes, he can. And as, I think, you know, it is illegal to have sex with someone over 18 if you are a minor.

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16 is the age of consent
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I agree with you Korin
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16 is the age of consent but check your state laws to see each state is different

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Are you crazy Of course he can go to jail cuz his an age older than you

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age aint nun but uh number
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yes

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yes but only if you have sex if you dont then no

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he can go to jail but it doesnt matter if ur parents aprove or not if someone reports him thats child raipe he will get persucuted

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jst dnt say nun bby grl...nd evrythng will be ight:) dats if yew really "love" him...

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let me be honest the fact that your dating a 30 year old is quite stupid. they are the kind of guys who just want sex and you may not see it now but it is wrong, you have to consult your parents as a minor.

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Thats a harsh assumption. I've talked to guys and they said that they wanted sex the most as teenagers, not as they got older.
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Yes he can if your parents dont approve and if you are having sex then he can no matter what. Plus, most guys that date girls a lot younger are only looking for sex and like you for the way he can get away with things or use you. I know it seems like everyone on here is saying things like that but it is true. Men like to be dominant in a relationship and when the girl is young and naiive it is easy for them to take advantage and hold all of the control over you, and again, younger girls are easier to sweet talk and get sex from. And think about the future, if it lasted he's got like ten years on you, hes reaching mid life crisis age. hes had plenty of women in his life, passed the drinking and partying age and is more than likely "on his feet" or supporting himself and you are just starting out, you want someone that you can have all those experiences with for the first time, not someone whose gonna have it done or do it for you. You want to grow old with someone not have them grow old while your still young. Maybe its better off it you two were not together.

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sex offender. its illegal in every state .even your parents could be in trouble if they know about it

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yes!!!!!!

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if yhur under 18 yea. talk to yhur parents. :/

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Yes bc ur not technically a legal adult untill ur 18 he cant go to jail if ur over 18 but then he can bc ur under 18 considered a minor

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Yes, he can be charged with statutory rape for having sex with a minor. You must understand that this is not a healthy relationship. What in the world does a 30 year old man want with a 17 year old girl? I can think of only one thing. You need to consider the idea that he might be a pedophile who gets off on girls your age. You need to find the strength to end this relationship now--it's the best thing you could ever do for yourself and your future.

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Let me ask you this, did God create Adam at age 33 and Eve at 16? If not, then please let him go, for his sake. He could face serious charges if your parents get upset at him and claim you're having sex, even if your not. Put it like this, would you date your dad?

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you are a legal age and if you love him go for it but if not you should end it because he could get in trouble

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It actually depends what state you are in. In Indiana, if you are sixteen you are of the age of consent and can therefore date/sleep with anyone sixteen or older. But I have no clue where you are so I can't say.

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yes he can but love is love he doesn't mean its not weird though

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I am not going to lie right now ...I am surprised at "17" u even had to ask this question. YES he most def can go to jail

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You are a sicko!!!!

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Of course what a creep dating a 17 year old and he is 30!!! He has some serious problems stay away!!!! 13 years is not an issue when you are a mature adult but you are 17 and have much to learn and need time to grow and mature. This is a dangerous situation this man needs some help.

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of course ,,, what i saw in a 30 year old man,,think about it ,,you are 17 and u are not even legally eligible to take your decision ,,this issue is totally waying wrong,,,drop it ,find someone of your age

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It depends on your state. In most states age of consent is 16. So you can legally have sex with him AND date him. No charges can be pressed, depending on where you live

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