Run as fast as you can and don't look back. I was married to a controller for 21 years. I was in a black depression for 18 years of those 21 years. I learned a difficult lesson. Save yourself good luck

FarmerGirlMaryJo: 1 year ago

Funny how the guys say "stay" and we say, "RUN FOR YOUR LIFE", isn't it? Green for you!

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In my view, I believe marriage needs to be taken seriously. Talk to your boyfriend and assure him that you love him. Let him know about some of the things he does that hurt you like cussing at you. Talk it over and find a compromise so that you can both be happy. This will help you to determine if you are willing to spend the rest of your life with him.

Nkathers nailed it. You need to talk to your boyfriend and it will all work out in the end

Hon, if he curses at you now and is controlling, it's not EVER going to get any better. If he's not financially stable now, marriage will not help that matter any, and things are only going to get worse, abuse-wise. Yes, I said the A word. You are being abused, plain and simple. If you really love him with the way he treats you, I agree. You ARE CRAZY about him. Get some self-esteem, get a backbone, and get gone. Otherwise, I guarantee you are in for a lifetime of misery and tears. Your parents are right.

He is controlling and abusive. He will just get worse over time and there is nothing that you can do to make it better. You should end the relationship now. If you don't you will regret it later in life. You will never be happy in that relationship, he will make sure of that.

If you want to marry him, then marry him... However, be prepared to slowly lose your family, have an unstable income, put up with abuse & divorce him in 4-5 years when he has taken all your self esteem & worn you down to nothing. In that time you will probably have kids & it will be even harder for you to leave. I think, deep down, you know this is no good & when your family doesn't want him around there's usually something very not right. Im sorry that you're going through this but I guarantee that if you do decide to leave him you will find someone better & you will be able to survive without him. All those things that he does now that make you feel like s**t will still be there when your married, probably even worse. Good luck & whatever you do, make sure YOU are happy :)