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My provider seduced me, telling me not to tell, or he would lose his license. He violated me, yet said he loved me. I'm scared so bad.

I don't know what to do, am losing sleep, and my self pride.

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Call the police and report it. He is obviously breaking the law if he could lose his license. Stop him before he hurts others.

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Call the police,from the country where i belong if some one do such thing to me and i don't report to police then i am also a criminal because the constitution of India(beast constitution ever written in the history of mankind) says "ignoring a crime is a crime" .

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Brilliant 0.0!!!!!!
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What you need to do is to call the police and report it. He knows what he did was wrong if he knows that he could lose his license. If you don't report him, you can't be sure that he won't try do it again to some other person.

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Call the police! This man doesn't deserve love of any kind. Not mercy

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Please dont let this scum get away with hurtin u & others report him so they can violate his @ss in prison

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Sounds like your gut is telling you your answer. If you feel uncomfortable then something is wrong. Please follow your gut instinct.

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Sounds like your entering new territory here, my advice is to think things through, and come up with an outline of a plan. You need to know where you're going so you'll know how to get there.
And please, believe me, your choices matter. You have power in this situation, what do you want to happen? And turn that fear into action. Action conquers fear, it was an answer on a long ago exam, but it's proven absolutely true. Take action, feel the fear and do it anyway. action conquers fear.
And a suggestion, if I may, don't be like those folks for whom life always happens to them, be the kind to make your life happen. Something bad has happened and now you're in it, so make your actions count, work your way through, don't get bounced off walls the whole time, that's the hard way to go. Be strong.
Wishing you well.
PS. working from a plan saves you from avoidable stress, well worth the effort.

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THANK YOU ALL!! I went to my surgeon today, with a friend, and told him all I have told you here. I'm taking everyone's advice, putting it to paper, and once compiled, will take it to the police. If nothing else happens, I want him to lose his license to further his career, for I can NOT be the only patient he has done this to. The really sad thing is, after 5 years, and being divorced for 20 years, I was lonely, and did fall into his trap. For that, I am ashamed. If my name be drug through mud, so be it. He broke his Hippocratic Oath by putting his hand down my pants, touching my privates, and kept wooing me. I admit, the attention was needed, as I had felt unloved for so many years, To be told over and over "I love you", I love your long blond hair, and blue eyes, it made me want him. To believe him. I plan on sitting with his old boss and telling her the truth, and nothing BUT the truth, and since my friend had reported him, and they NEVER called me to confirm or deny, {he said deny it ALL}, I believe I have the law on my side. They heard it second hand, but no follow up??? I believe I may have a case against him AND the clinic in which he worked. I just want no other woman to go through what I did. What..he has a license to molest women? I certainly don't expect to get rich, but I do believe I have compensation due me, and perhaps jail time for hi. Thing is, I'm NOT Ms. FLUKE. I I don't want any one paying my way through life, but I do deserve a safe life..especially with a trusted ARNP. I feel I may have gotten the ball rolling today telling my Physician assistant, for doesn't he legally have to report this? I DID have a witness with me today, plus MANY witnesses in the past 5 years..maybe even 6. Yes..I did fall for him. Deeply. He enticed me with lies, pharmaceuticals, and promises. Is any of this my fault? OH FATHER GOD..FORGIVE ME!! I love you Lord, and give this up to You to help me along this winding, scary path!! LOVE YOU ALL, and thank you for your wise words. Lily....
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I applaud your courage, lily. NONE of this is your fault, you acted in good faith and only he is to blame. Remember, you were molested by a professional repeat offender who has manipulated countless victims before you.
He set a trap and tricked you into believing, he's good at this con game, you see? You've done nothing wrong, please believe me and the others. And now you're bravely taking action to him to stop him from hurting others.
If you need anything, information or support, I'm here for you.

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