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How does one know when she is being played by the boy that she REALLY likes?

he is always blowing off dates,doesn't really ever call me back, always wants to hang out with his friends, it feels like he's not really devoted to the relationship :(

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From what you describe it sounds like he doesn't want to be with you or is just using you for when he doesn't have "something better" to do. It is time to move on. Quit calling him. Once you start ignoring him, and acting like you got something better to do, he'll either become more interested, or you will find you really don't need him. You deserve to be treated better than what you described. Once you start acting like that things will change.

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Thank you you don't even know how much that helps me
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One of the ways you can tell include he doesn't show any active interest in getting to know you better. He can as well ignore your calls when you try to reach him.

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Ya that sometimes happens
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By him not wanting to try and work things out right, or by him not even trying to make the relationship work....i kinda know what your going through cause my boyfriend is a player to/: will "used" to be...but he's not that much anymore l: ... Anyways hope this helps and hope it works out(:

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Thank you and it does help and srry bout the bf sitch.
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Ur welcome and its cool im already gonna break up with him xD
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When he always wants things to go his way and secretly hides things from you!!!

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Well, that was blunt but thank you I'll keep that in mind
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your right he's not just forget him and look for someone better. (He sounds as if he may be gay anyway) .

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Thank you I've been debating wether or not to dump him yet but thanks for the advice
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while looking straight into his eyes, one asks "are you play'n me?" if he looks away or breaks eye contact while answering, one dumps the putz.

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Ok thanks
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If all he wants to do is sexual things, and never wants to do something you like, he is probably just using you/"playing" you.

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No he doesn't ask for sex or anything I'm still not quite ready for any of that but thanks
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The slicker you are the better player you are, like he used to be a player but not so much now. Bingo,he's been playing for a while, the goal isn't just to get friendly with others, but a fall back option.In your case age probably has more to do with the relationship problems, rather than being played.16 or 17 year old kids are just that kids. Of course hanging out with buddies is great, they talk your talk, & walk your walk. At 16 how many deep, meaningful conversations have you & he immersed yourselves in.People are in such a rush to get no where. Tell him what's bothering you, as men we've never been blessed with I know what she wants. Have a rational mature conversation, you may be looking for the same things, sometimes it time to say good-bye

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Nope I'm only 13 but still, ur advice is great and I think I am going to say good-bye to him even my friends have said that it's time to let him go but I didn't listen so before I become the Dumpee I will be the Dumper. I don't want to get hurt and my friends don't want to see me hurting. Thanks
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Holy Cow! 13, First you shouldn't have a boyfriend, dating maybe. Most men can commit to a relationship around the age of 20, 20 years after death. Be 13, it only comes once & you've got a long life ahead. Enjoy it while you can
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Thanks. And I hope I can I've been tryna live while I can and make the best of everything
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