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what do you do when you live with your girl and she moves her 24 yr old son in with you he has no job & she only works part time its :-(

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I think that the best thing to do is to talk to your girlfriend about the financial implication of this act. Make her understand that the child would be an extra expense and it will therefore require her to look for a job in order to help out.

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her son has been living with us for a year now every little thing I say she's so touching towards me I love her with all my heart but it stresses me out if I bite my tongue a lot
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Look for a full time JOB

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easier said then done
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Woulda' , coulda' , shoulda' , thought of that one sooner. As in didn't the two of you talk about it before he moved in? If not send him to every car wash, Walmart, sign holding, dish washing job hunt ever! Send her with him! Maybe she can get fulltime employment. Things are tough but there are jobs to be had. Mane not the best paid or most glorious but a job none the less.

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Small children are one thing, grown children are an ENTIRELY different story.
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Your right everytime a make a suggestion she gets upset with,me
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he's picking he won't do anything he's been spoiled all his life she's to easy going with him
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I know that
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how is you and the son relationship first second if you got to think if you ever needed a place to stay and you was doing bad your mother will be the first to open up and help u you must sympathize and also have empathy third do you really love her. if so you would respect that its her son not just a totally stranger my true opinion last your are the bread winning so you help her more she's your queen

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but I'm the 1 paying all the bills she does buy food with the food stamp card that she applied for do I pay the rent utilities and everything else
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just pray man fa real my son was born with only one lung that force my baby mama to quite then a convicted felony of 6 years so i just became a manger at a store child support and all the bills it faith if i can do it you can its hard mane but i maintain Wisdom knowledge and understanding
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The first thing you said is that you live with your girl. The implication of this is that you are living with her in her house. If this is correct, then you have no right to tell her who can live there and who cannot. You should be working a full time job, and contributing at least 1/2 the house payment, and at least 1/2 of all the other bills. If you are doing this, then you can discuss the financial implications of her son moving in.

Make sure she understands that all of the bills will be higher if there is another adult in the house, especially the water and electric bills, and, of course, groceries. You cannot stop her son from moving in if this is what she wants, but she needs to make sure that her son gets, and keeps, a full-time job. He should contribute 1/3 of all the bills and especially, the groceries.

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they are both with me in my house I pay the rent
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In that case, she had no right to move her son into the house until she had figured out how she is going to pay 2/3 of the bills. Is there a chance that the kid can get, and hold, a job, or is he a complete loser? You should sit down with the boy and tell him that there is not going to be a free ride if he lives in your home, and that if he cannot get a job and contribute his fair share of the bills, he cannot live there. He is 24 years old, and that is way too old to be sponging off his mother.
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Try having a talk with the son? I know it seems crazy, but while your girl's out at work and the boy is home, sit him down and talk with him. Explain responsibility. Talk to your girl, ask her if she would mind if you talked to him about the situation. Always be honest. Explain that the extra person in the house is making your household as a whole financially unstable. Explain to her, or him, that you could really use some extra help with the household.

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I tried to talk to him it all backfired on me oh thing stressing me out
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I know it may seem tough, because you don't want things to go badly between you and your girl, but coming from a girl...
Talk with her. Let her know that the household is financially unstable and you need help in order to keep your "head[s] above water" (so to speak). Also let her know if her son is being disrespectful about you trying to approach him. If she's going to let him get away with anything he wants, then you need to start being firm about it with him. If he does disrespect you, and she still won't do anything about it, then explain to her that you've been more than generous to her and her family, but if you're not going to be respected in your own house, he can leave. He needs to appreciate what you do for him, and his mother. As well as her. She needs to appreciate what you do for her and her son. You work hard to keep them happy, they need to do the same for you. Explain to her that you love her, with all your heart, but that you just need some help with the household, and that you need to be appreciated for what you do for them. :)
PS: I'm sorry you're so stressed out!
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Is it her house ? If it is and u don't like the situation, move out.

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That sucks sorry no advise cause I would leave money's too tight to support anyone

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