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DewayneRice: 1 year ago via Android

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I have a son by another woman how can we get close because i haven't been in his life but know i do

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MonaSez: 1 year ago

Don't try to start out being a father...begin slowly with "Big Brother" type activities. Start with short visits and activities. Depending on his age; if he is 4 or less, maybe you could offer to babysit him. 5-7 maybe walk him to school or keep him after school (once or twice a week) and help with his homework. 8-12...go fishing, go-carting, paint ball then lunch or dinner. 13-16 teach him some skills like working on a car, carpentry, bbqing or whatever talents you have.

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stars_in_the_sky: 1 year ago

Good answer!!!

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crowtrobot: 1 year ago

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marianada4323: 1 year ago

Be his friend first.

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doctaa: 1 year ago

Hang out with him may be go see a basket ball game together

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1Direction_Mars: 1 year ago via Android

Take him out to see a game or something just you two. You guys can get closer for sure.

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TheBlackParadeMCR: 1 year ago

Babysit

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TXDIVER: 1 year ago via iPhone

Depending on how old your child is Start easing your way into their life. If you go full throttle your child may not be receptive and wonder why all of a sudden you are so involved out of no where. Build a fatherly friendship ( don't let him get away with things, but be friendly and caring.) keep the mother involved and express your true intent and ask her help you. Express you want to be a father.

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jjcc: 1 year ago

Take him out but don't buy him stuff cuz then he will think you're trying to bribe him

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DewayneRice: 1 year ago via Android

cool

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jjcc: 1 year ago

Yeah me and my dad are the same way

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Gillon: 1 year ago

I feel ya' man. I was apart from my son from when he was 12 until he was 20. Now, he is 25, we live and work together. It is very difficult sometimes. I missed out on being there for some of the most important and formative years of his live.

We try to talk things out calmly. We go to a councilor once a week, and that seems to help a lot. We love each other, but having been apart for all that time, we did not grow together through some very important times of his life. We try very hard, but sometimes we have heated arguments.

We have found out that rather than resolve or come to a conclusion in the arguments, we can just leave them, and go on to something else. Sometimes I feel like this is cheating, but at the same time it seems to work, and things go better for us.

I think if you truly want to be close, it will be a long and difficult journey for you both. You both have to want it, and as the older, more mature of the two, sometimes you will just have to suck it up and be willing to be wrong.

Your son will always be one of the closest persons to you in your entire life. It is a blessing to have him in your life. Never give up.

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DewayneRice: 1 year ago via Android

thanks man i am going to see what i can do

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MonaSez: 1 year ago

heartfelt advice ;)

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DewayneRice: 1 year ago via Android

your right

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no1kiwi: 1 year ago via iPhone

I think all of the above answers Are good answers ! just remember this is going to take time

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