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I'm quiet and shy around guys and it makes them have absolutely no interest in me. What should i do? Advise from a GUY would be AWSOME!

I'm a cheerleader and im on the swim team but they still dont seem to notice i exist. Should i change my appearance? What should i do?

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daviddanny

That's the problem you got to stop being shy and really quiet you can't expect them to notice you if you don't put yourself out their good luck I hope u find what your looking for

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ive tried putting my self out there. we had a 'sexy carwash' to raise money for the cheer squad. i won 2nd place in a wet tee shirt contest, ive been to parts will them but nothing happens. you see my frustration here?
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*partys
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David, to tell someone to stop being shy when they are very shy doesn't do anything. I think that a person should be themselves and if a guy likes her, he will like her for who she is, not for what she "needs" to be. If you got the most votes for a sexy car wash, I'm sure you will have no problem down the road with guys asking you out. Trust me!!!! Guys can be shy, too, when they are young, but when you get older, you get more comfortable with yourself and the shyness dies down. And, guys definitely come out of their shells. I'm a married women, and guys still ask me out or ask or my number. lol But, I'm a bit older.
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David, btw...I responded to one of your questions (and commented under someone else) but I just now realized your question was from 7 days ago. You can go back and read.....:)
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Thx
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ellemacgregor

Dont change yourself for someone else, just show them some confidence

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LosXAngeles96

Become their friends that will end your shyness

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thats the issue. ive been firends with these guys sence we were all in 5th grade :c
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Then if your shy you guys arent really friends im shy and when I get a friend that's a girl im not shy around them and I'm really shy
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im shy around them because they all changed A LOT sence we were in 5th grade were seniors now! some of them are really cute....
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Just ask one it's now or never your a senior
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Just try to chill with them a lil more

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Be yourself always. Just try to put yourself out a little more. I personally notice the quite girls more, but that's just me.

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ive tried putting my self out there. we had a 'sexy carwash' to raise money for the cheer squad. i won 2nd place in a wet tee shirt contest, ive been to partys with them but nothing happens. you see my frustration here?
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I see what you mean. But don't try to pit your body out there (I say that because of the wet shirt contest) but if they are talking about something you happen to know about or you have an opinion on, then interject. You want to be noticed but you don't want to look desperate or like a try-hard. You know?
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yes i get what your saying and the wet tee shirt contest was for the swim team btw :P
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Ah. I see. Haha. Weeeelllll theennnnn..... ;)
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I'm a guy an u should act like your not scared to hang out with them and try to be one of them and slowly work your way up

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ive known most of these guys sence 5th grade. i go to partys with them. play soccar and paint ball with them. but sometimes i think im just considered to be another one of the guys.....
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Just txt one of them sayin I kno we've been friends for a long time and I was wondering if u would date me? Good luck!
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Allie, you keep saying you have been friends wth these guys for years. Do you have a special interest with any one? My daughter is very shy, too, and she is quite gorgeous. I'm a bit happy that she is shy for this reason. lol I was very shy when I was young and never talked with boys. By my sophomore year in high school, I had my fist and long term boyfriend but I think it was he who started conversation with me. But, here's the deal, I had to learn social skills when I was in college and had to be assertive in talking with others. Not easy when you are shy. But, you can start a conversation with any person by finding a common ground with them. Think of something you can relate with and bring up the conversation. The more you do it, the easier it gets. You can start by doing this with girls...not guys. If you are into clothes or hair or tatoos or whatever..just say something or ask a question. I can talk with strangers anywhere now. I may ask someone, "what is your tatoo?"

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i have an itrest in two of them. ones a football player the other one is on the swim team with me. their both really sweet to me but im just not sure what to do...
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hmmm...so do you talk with either of them at all? I can see it being a bit more difficult when you've already known them years. Have you tried just looking at them from across the room and smiling? Or, give them a bit of a longer look with the eyes if you talk with them. This may tell him you have an interest. Or, if you usually never talk with either one, think of a simple question you could ask one of them and have a reason to go ask. :) I know sometimes may be harder said than done.
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Allie, I was also thinking of another things and my husband confirmed this. When a girl is nice looking and really shy, it may not be fully known she is shy. She just may seem distant and not interested and guys can feel intimidated by her. This is when it would be good for you to learn the skills of small talk. And..try it on girls first. I know it is harder said than done. My daughter refuses to go up to a counter to purchase something. She makes me do it. But, she has suffered from pretty sever shyness since she was very young where it was very debilitating for her. She is better but not like everday people. :)
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I'm not a guy but I know they love to talk about themselves and things they are good at or very interested in and that's a great way to talk to them

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