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I'm 16 and my boyfriend is 19 and i want to know what should i tell to my parents because i plan leave this summer to go see him?

my parents don't know him at all i don't think.

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How long have you been with him?
And since you're 16 and your bf is an adult, I don't think your parents will approve of it.

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3 years.
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Doesn't matter. He's still an adult. It wouldn't be a problem if you were an adult too. (18+)
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..? If you meant that you knew him for 3 years, your parents still probably won't approve.
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awe okay.
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Yeah, and if your parents did know about this, I can just imagine what they would say. Are you aware that your boyfriend could be in big, big trouble if the two of you have sex? (Not saying that you have, but these things happen every day.) Even if you say it's consensual, he could go to jail for statutory rape and have "sex offender" on his permanent record.

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i could imagine what my mother would say she would flip out and ask me when did i start talking to him and what not and we both agreed that we'll wait until i'm 18 before we do anything grown like that.he knows his bounderies with me.
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Great.... but hormones and emotions are really difficult to control. Here's a question: if you don't think you're doing anything wrong, why are you hiding this from your parents? If they find out on their own, they'll have a very hard time trusting you in the future.
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because my mother is a very hard person to get on an understanding level and iv'e tried to explain my past relationship to her ( he was 17) and she flipped out and we went to the same school and we knew each others parents and everything but i guess that didn't matter to her. plus with my mother it's a no win situation with her even if you say the same thing she said just in a different way.
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Well I can just say this it all depends on what your parents think of it if ur responsible then maybe see I'm 16 and my bf 19 too but I've been with him for 2 years and even before that we were friends for a couple of months so it all depends and my dad his ups and down and saying that he was always going to press charges on him and he never did my dad nos that nothing will stop me from being with my bf he's my life:) but good luck to u and wait were is ur bf? Mines in the army and he wants me to go to his graduation from boot camp in a week:)
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awe well thank you my dad.... well thats a whole nother story but i know my step dad would protect me. and he's in little rock arkansas.
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how well do u know him

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about 3 years
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what u need to do is have him come meet ur parents dnt HIDE it from them
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well iv'e thought about that but i didn't say it to him about it so i guess i can bring it up sometime soon when we talk.
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ik how u feel but yea ur best bet is to have him come meet ur parents face to face hun u cld have a better chance if leavin
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awe, okay.
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Tell them that you want to go see him...if they say no...well too bad...you're only 16...

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sound easy.
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It's simple, just be honest and tell them the truth.

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i thought about it but she's way too much of the serious type.
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But it will be worst if she finds out that you lied to her. And she'll probably place some of the blame on the new older boyfriend and think that he may have put you up to it. And that will make her start off not liking him.
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awe true. but how do you get anything through an older non-understandable person? i you've tried to do things there way first and then you're way and neither way worked for anyone what do you do next?
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FIRST introduce them to him, via skype or whatever means, THEN tell them you would like to visit him this summer.

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i thought about that.
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wow that's really hard because parents these days are strict and the smart thing to do for you is to not sneak out tell your parents easy to let them like him.

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yeiah and trying to talk to my mother about anything is like trying to get a rock to drink water...... not going to happen.
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Are you independently wealthy? How do you plan to afford your trip? Why don't your parents know your boyfriend?

p.s. If they decide to press charges for statutory rape, he'll go to jail.

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no. he's paying for it. because they only worry about themselves and house priorities and they always argue about things so i guess you can say they have no time to sit and listen even after they say how they are going to always be there to listen.
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"Mom, Dad, my boyfriend is 19."

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lol yeiah there going to be all like O_0 lol
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This sounds creepy. Where did you meet this guy??? How far from you does he live? Are you certain he in an exclisive relationship with you? Have you met him before?
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well it's not. he's a friend of my cousins friend in little rock arkansas. two states. yes. we talk on ooVoo a lot.
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Maybe tell your parents your cuz introduced you to....... You want them to meet him. Go from there.
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alright.lol i'll try that.
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Good luck to you
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thank you for taking the time out of your doings to help a young mind like myself.
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Welcome. Hope i helped.
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alrighty
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Of course you should tell your parents .. you are their responsibility because you are a minor. They have a legal obligation to know what you are up to.

I can speculate how they will react..But, I don't know them, so it's hard to say .. I just know how I would react, if you were my daughter .. and you wouldn't like it.

That's just a very irresponsible plan, not to mention selfish ... Period.

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yes true, agree,....,okay.
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It sounds like you've never met him in person ... so I'd question how you *know* he's 19? Maybe he is, but there are a lot of pedophiles who say they're 18 or 19 to attract younger kids ... who then run off to meet that person, and wind up getting abused.

Basically, if you have to hide it from your parents ... you probably shouldn't be in the relationship.

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i try to bring it up with them but there's no kind of understanding in any level of it.
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Thank you for making that point! I was fearless when I was young and told my mother how I thought she was overreacting (the Zodiak) and dismissed the warnings. Several years later (still young but married) I drove to Port Chicago to pick up my husband on the graveyard shift. It was dark, desolate and cell phones hadn't been invented yet. A man repeatedly flashed his headlights from behind me, then because I didn't slow down or pull over, he drove up beside me and feverishly kept pointing down toward my tire/wheel. I am so thankful my father always told me to NEVER pull over if someone does that and you're not close to a gas station. My father was a frugal man, yet he told me to keep driving even if all you have left is a rim. I believe his advise saved me that night because when I arrived to pick up my husband, nothing was wrong with the car and that night the Zodiak struck again. To this day I believe it was him that tried to get me to stop. Thank you for sharing the realities of life with this young woman and hopefully more that read your response. Not everyone has a parent like my dad to warn them of the perils that can await any one of us, and does.
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awe man that's scary. well i hope you're greatful for seeing another day and listening to your father. yes thank you for sharing that with me i don't think i would have gotten that any clearer.
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if you realy wont to go see him tell your parents your going on a trip whith some freinds to the place that he is at

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I can see how that may seem like a good idea in the first place, but believe me, if there's an emergency and you're not able to make a call, where do your loved ones begin to look. It happened to my Granddaughter.
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lol no i'm alright.
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How do your parents not know you have a bf that is 19 ? Did you meet him online?You are jail bait to him if you do more than kiss.Your parents can file suit.I think you need to go tell your parents right now and take a step back from this.If he is 19 he should be coming to see you and meeting your parents your a minor.

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because they don't listen...... nope i met him through my cousin who was visting one of his friends where he stays ( little rock arkansas ) yes i'm not stupid gosh i know what could happen if anything else goes on between us besides a kiss.i mean iv'e been thinking about this for the longest now. i know the difference of wha i want to do and wha i can do.i'll bring that up in our next conversation.
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You do need t tell your parents.I'm sorry they do not listen so try just one parent maybe your mom?when you wrote go visit in your question it sounds like it a distance from where you are?Instead of being close.I would really try first time for him to come see you maybe with your cousin?Then your parents know who you are talking about.Word visit to me gave me red flags like for days or a week:( That is why I was making sure you had not met this boy online.I really try to protect young lady's from this so sorry I asummed that.If not in person you need to start talking around your parents all the time about how you want to go see him.Feel them out.
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Kathy! I'm back! congrats on the Ask hall of fame induction!
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it's okay, thanks for being an understandable lady.
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Nadiia, people like Kathy are here to be understanding :)
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awe, okay thankx King505 i now see that. :) i know who now reconmend when i have more relationship questions.
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Always go to Kathy. Go on follow her!
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lol okay sir.
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Hey King! welcome home a good trip.?? TY ooo Hall of Fame I'm smiling big:)
Hello nadiia nice to meet you:) So what city is next on your bucket list?lol
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Just tell them you LOVE him.

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and if that doesn't work?
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You can't go anywhere without your parents permission! You'll end up getting him arrested if you do!

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awe okay. well she's here but i don't want to tell her just yet.
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Vbmg, last i saw you were on Trisha50! Sorry I keep commenting on your answers, but I keep missing you!
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