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She told me that she's ready to get pregnant. We're 13, for goodness sake! What should I tell her? She really wants a baby! But I think she's too young! I just walked away when she told me, and I know she'll ask me about it again tomorow at school. What do I say to her? She and her boyfriend are planning it all out... HELP! I'm scared she'll be a teen mom! I don't want her to! Help!

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Tell her about how they are going to get money, how will they care for the baby. Talk some sense into her. If that doesn't work, parents on the phone, don't delay.... NOW


We DO NOT need anymore teen moms and unwanted babies.

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Don't hurt her! if you get her preg it will be a life of torture!

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I'm not her boyfriend, I'm a girl who's friends with her...
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yea......really AWKWARD!!!!
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Can't this guy read? I said I was her friend, NOT BOYFRIEND.
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That has got to be the most ridiculous 'plan' I have ever heard .. "Ready to be a Mom at 13" This girl hasn't the foggiest clue what it takes to be a mom .. An infant is nothing like a dolly .. She will devastate her whole family, herself, not to mention the life of an innocent child.

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I just hope she can talk some sense into her, and you're right the plan is ridiculous.
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Tell her she is not financially, emotionally, or physically ready yet

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Let her watch 16 and prego

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prego...like the spagehtti sauce ?...it's 16 and pregnant...dag, u could'nt type 3 more letters
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4 letters
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4 letters! Prego consists of 5 letters...pregnant 8...it would have taken a measly THREE more letters to have the correct wording...get it Wesley!
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There's not a lot YOU can do at your age to stop her (no offense intended). If you are truly concerned either tell her parents or yours, she's going to be mad at you but it's better that than her having a baby at her age. You can always ask her parents not to say it was you. I'm sorry I'm not much more help but if my 13 year old wanted to get someone pregnant I would want to know ASAP :)

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You're welcome, I fell pregnant with my 1st child at 17, that was hard enough, let alone 13.
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I agree...an adult needs to step in B4 she gets pregnant...once that happens you can kiss ur friend goodbye cuz she'll have a whole new set of problems to deal with...btw that baby in the pic is just too cute!!
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Thankyou, he's a bit obsessed with Elmo... You're right, she won't have anytime for friends after a baby.
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You're right. I can't do much, in fact, SHE'S PREGNANT!
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They "did it" last night.
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They "did it" last night for the 1st time & she's already pregnant? Well I'm confused. Is she pregnant or they've just had sex?
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If they only did it last night it's possible she's pregnant but doesn't necessarily mean she is. There's a small chance she's pregnant, it certainly doesn't happen 1st time every time. Some people practice for months & don't get pregnant :)
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Oh, thank god.... I don't want her to be. They didn't really teach us that much on the subject, so that's what she told me.
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(my school thinks we're immature and "can't handle" it)
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I don't know! All she said to me was, "We did it up last night!" so I assumed she was... My mother never taught me this stuff..
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Well, maybe your school should be teaching you & then we might not have so many teen pregnancies. In Australia our kids start sex education in year 6. She can get pregnant the 1st time, it's not likely but she can. Now that she's "done it" once, she will probably keep doing it & it won't take long for her to be pregnant. I still suggest her parents are told ASAP.
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wow, your thirteen and don't have the facts yet about reproduction (having babies) or sexual activity..I agree it should be taught in school but sex ed should start at home..you gotta talk to ur parents rubberduckie..I know they see u as thier baby girl but maybe once u start asking questions they'll realize it's high time for "the talk"..def let them know what ur friend is going thru..good luck :)
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Okay, I will. My mom is on the phone with the girls parents.
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That's good to hear...I hope everything works out for your friend...it was really nice of you to get involved..you seem like a good person and a great friend..I know you'll do just fine in life! :)
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GOOD, your a really good friend for caring so much and making sure she doesnt make the wrong decision:)(i would love to have you as a friend!!)
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Thanks wicket02!
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You're a good friend but you can't stop her! Talk to her & try! Ultimately, she's gonna do what she wants! Maybe, go to her parents, she'll be mad but you might save her from her foolishness!

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VBMG you ARE here!! I've been keeping an eye out for you. I saw you were upset the other day & I stuck up for you, I though you were gone. Glad to see you :)
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She needs to realize all of the responsibility of being a mom. At 13, her life would be completely taken off course.

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I'm kind of mad at her.
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Tell her parents if she is really serious about it. She will thank you later, trust me.
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Noone shud have a kid til theyre 25 or 23

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Just let her know how whack that really is..there's nothing cool about a thirteen yr old pushing a stroller down the street with a crying baby inside..not cool at all..let her know of all the fun stuff she is gonna miss out on like the prom and graduation and just chillen with her gf's..she can kiss all that goodbye..let her know u do not support this idea at all and then let your mom know...an adult needs to step in cuz she is clearly not thinking straight.

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Thank you so much. I'm so shocked. I can't beleive her....
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well, your thirteen now duckie, your probably gonna have a few friends make some really bad decisions..just keep your head on straight..be a leader..not a follower and you'll make it thru these teen yrs just fine...good luck :)
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Thank you.... Don't worry.. I won't be a teen mom.
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your welcome...I could tell your too smart to make that mistake :-))
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:-) Yeah.
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Tell her it would ruin her life

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yea...big time
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Show her lisadell's and bikergirl's answers!!!!

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Thank you rumba4! :-)
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Ur welc :)
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Remind her of all of the fun things she is going to miss. Like she won't be able to stay out late or hang out with friends as much as she'd like to because she'll have a child. Plus who will raise it since she legally can't drop out of school yet? Wouldn't it be best for the child if it had parents with a stable job to raise it? Plus it's bad for her body. Most pregnant women get stretch marks, but since she's not even fully grown yet, she's bound to get them severely. I imagine you could probably look up some harmful side effects of getting pregnant too young. Tell her that she'll never get to have a prolonged 'honeymoon stage' with her future husband because when they got married, they'd already have a kid to take care of. Also, let her know that if she does this then she's going to face a lot of social ridicule. Good luck convincing her!

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TELL HER PARENTS! they have to be married! dont be afraid to tell them. so what if she gets in trouble. that would teach her

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I told my mom. She's gonna call my friends parents tomorow morning!
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THANK goodness!
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Yes, thank goodness you had your head screwed on right!!
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She and her boyfriend "did it up" last night. Pretty sure she's pregnant.
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is she still going through with her plan
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Tell her she will mess up her life for ever ...I mean having a baby at this age

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She's pretty sure she's pregnant. Not sure yet, though.
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ok, your job as her friend is to talk some sense into her. tell her that a baby's not just a walk in the park.tell her she should wait because she needs 2 do whats best.4 her and, the baby and if she is feeling THAT emotional about her bf she needs 2 talk 2 her family.and a doctor.
good luck and hope it helps! also tell your parents to tell her parents.

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I just told my mom. Thank you
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your welcome! :}
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Rubber - good for you. I will keep my fingers crossed she will come to her senses. You are her best friend whether she knows it or not.
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Thank you! I will let you know about it tomorow!
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I'm just shocked! She never thought like this before!!
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Is it possible that her boy friend is a bad influence on her? What do you know about him?
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I hate him.
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Well, she's pregnant.
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She's pretty sure...
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Not sure yet.
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I sure hope the adults are getting involved in this nonsense..I call it nonsense rubberduckie cuz u guys are not only thirteen but so uninformed about sex..therefore u guys r playing with fire..bringing a baby into the world is no jk..it's time to let the parents (or teachers) no that some of the 13yr olds r "doing it" so they can educate and prepare all of you..good luck 2 u and ur friends
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I told my mom, her mom and dad, and they grounded her for, well, LIFE.
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My mother was so happy I had the nerve to tell her.
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is your friend pregnat. did she ...
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how did her plan go through?
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I sure hope my "friend" is not pregnant! We're not sure. I don't know how long she has to wait before taking a pregnancy test. We're all really worried.
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Fingers crossed, ok? Good luck!
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Tell her that she has to be ready to give up her pretty years, her money, her happiness, and that not all people are going to support her.

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Wow! Please tell her parents for starters. Then, ask any other your teachers in school, or at the library if they have any short movies on teens and pregnancy. Ask her and her boyfriend, (his parents should be told too) how they are going to: Drive to the hospital to have the baby for starters, pay health, life, medical insurance on themselves and the baby, have jobs to support themselves and the baby, drive to work and go to school and study and take care of the baby. These are all things their parents do for them! I'm pretty sure, unless they are incredibly wealthy, overly educated, and know how to get a college education and a well paying job at 13, it's going to be tough. Show this page, and tell her you care! You Take Care of you too! :) Sweet Dreams & have a nice night

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I can't thank you enough! :) I would never, ever want to have a baby as a teen!!
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Your welcome! This thought makes my head spin! When I was 13, I was thinking of riding horses and swimming and going to "sleep overs" with my friends at my house and theirs WITH their parents HOME and watching us! Not owning and hosting them! I agree! Too scary with these ideas. Thanks for sharing with me and have a super night. :)
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Me too, horses, sleepovers, and candy are my priorities!!
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I love horses too! Sleepovers are always a blast! and I STILL have candy every now and again in the house... just for fun! You sound like you're a good kid, doing all the things kids should do and liking things kids your age should like! YeAA! Good for you!! Sweet dreams and I hope to read you again soon! :)
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Thank you. And yeah, I'm good! :$
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Hi! I know this is yesterday's news, but it's not going to be if another person is brought into this world. I looked under lol_girl and saw that you did talk to your mom right? You did all the right things that were safe and caring for you and your friend. "You did good kid!" this is an old quote from a movie even before my time! Happy! happy! good for you! I hope she responded accordingly. Good job! A million +1 thumbs if I could for you. You saw a problem, you interviened and you took approriate action! You are a star! Happy! Big smiles!
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Aww! Thank you! :)
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It's been a moment or two since I was able to get back to you guys and your serious dilema. I hope everything worked out for the best. I meant what I said about you being a good kid! Keep on making those adult desicions and enjoying being a kid all at the same time! :) Happy! happy!
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I did tell my mom, I told my friend to not get pregnant, my mom told her parents, I did every thing I can do.:)
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Good job duckie! Yipee! :) You take care and I hope your friend listens to you and her mom and your mom and everyone else that has two cents worth of sense! :) Happy Days and keep on making those wise decisions! :)
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Okay so she went to the doctor. They told her she WAS NOT pregnant!!
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i agree whith most of the peoples answer but i wanted to add that if she does get pregnant stick by her because after she realizes that it was a bad idea she'll need a friend

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I told my mom just now. She's gonna call her parents tomorow.
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Hi! This is a great angle to help this gal who is trying to prevent a unwise decision. Good job! Beautiful horse! Have a nice evening!
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Explain to her how expensive it is to have a baby and that a young girl who can't drive in school has no way to get that money. Also tell her that there are no guarantees that her boyfriend will remain loyal to her, and that kids at school will probably make fun of her for being a teen mom. She'll also miss out on fun things people do in high school. She'll also get fat

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I'm gonna tell her this:
"Hey. You really should not do this. I tell you this because I care about you but I don't want you to be a teen mom. Please, you'll have no time to hang out with us anymore and all your money will be gone! Please, lea (not her real name) do not do this!!"
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Good idea! Bring your feelings into it without making it sound all about you
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I'm worried! I can't sleep!!
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hey what happened with the whole situation?
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We don't know yet. I'm really mad at her though...
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Tell her the pain that she would have to go through. The unbeliveable pain. Tell her that she cant be the same and that its totally insane and out of her mind.

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She's pregnant...
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We're pretty sure, I don't know much about this kinda stuff. My school never taught us about this.
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she is pregnat?!
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I think.
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Tell her you want to go somewhere with her, like a movie or whatever the two of you like to do. Say that once she has the baby she will be too busy to go out because it will be her job to take care of her baby. Besides she will have no money since she is too young to get a job. Remind her of the spring breaks she will not be able to go to, and any other events that happen where you live. And then there is college, how will she manage to attend college? And all those parties you will be attending and she wont. She and her boy friend may be "planning it all out" but are they thinking of all the things they will be giving up.

And there is a sad statistic she probably does not know. Most teen dads abandon the relationship as soon as they realize how much work it is to raise a child. And if her boy friend is 18 or over he will be in jail for statutory rape. Either way she will probably wind up raising the child alone.

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Thanks so much!! And thanks to every body! I read all the awnsers!!
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Ask her questions on what she's going to do when you do she might think clearly

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Let her watch a cow hive birth on YouTube!! Game over:)

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NO she does not need a baby this early!!!!!!! its a bad idea and she is going to regret it later in life..she should worry about school first and i really doubt if she does have a baby that she will stay w/her boyfriend!!! TELL HER ITS A BAD IDEA!!!!BEFORE ITS TO LATE!!!!!!

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It is too late. She got pregnant last night...
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Awww...ARE YOU SERIOUS???
I feel bad now, i guess all we can do now is wish her good luck:(
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We're pretty sure she is, I saw her yesterday and didint talk to her. I'm so mad!!
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My school never taught us this stuff... Grrr.
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Maybe you should talk to a teacher or principle if you want a "health" class.........(i think thats the name of the class) Hope I Helped!!!!:)
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if you didnt talk to her how do you know she went through with it? and i dont mean this meanly.)
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Oh I talked to her the next day.
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I talked to her the day after she...umm... "did it".
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You could explain that her parents might make her put her baby up for adoption.She is a minor being coming a mom does not make her an adult,she is not of legal age to drive a car or get a job.This is so upside down 13? She should not even be on a date alone with a boy yet.Why? Do I say that? Because she is 13 wanting a baby? That is imature.I would tell her mom ,maybe lose a friend but save a baby:( Good luck

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I know!!! I don't want her around me anymore...
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Tell her she will ruin her life and miss out on all the fun of being a teenager and young adult.

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She is going to... She REALLY is....
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You need to tell her parents, a school counselor or someone right now, because she does not seem to fully understand what she is doing.
Take care!

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Tell her a babysit and see if she handle it...and soon enough she'll figure out she's not ready to take this big of a reposonsibility.

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what happened? is she pregnat? did she really ...(you know)? what did her parents do? give me all the detalis i want to make sure shes ok.(im not some creeper i promise im also 13)

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Her parents are so mad, they won't even let her see her boyfriend anymore. She's not allowed to have friends over, she can't watch tv, computer, etc. We don't know if she's pregnant yet, it's only been a few days.
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I don't know if she did 'you know what'. All she said to me was, "My boyfriend and I did it up last night!" So I don't know.
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I hope she isn't pregnant my cousin became pregnant at15 and can't have friends not cause her parents won't let her but because she is stuck at home taking care of her baby. I hope that doesn't happen to your friend and I'm sorry you got stuck in the middle of this. Will you please keep me updated(that's sounds creepy but I don't mean it in creepy way but you know what I mean)
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Okay, sure I'll keep you updated.
Main points:
?We don't know how long to wait until she can take a pregnancy test.
?Does anybody know how long we have to wait?
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Sorry I have no clue but I don't if a doctor could tell at this early but I mean I don't know much cause I'm only 13 and stuff so I'm not really an expert on pregnancy sorry
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Hey how ate things going with your friend
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Sorry I mean *are instead of ate whoops sorry
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I don't know yet.
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Okay she has to wait 3 weeks. She's like almost 2 weeks, but she can take it now if she wants but it won't be as accurate.
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O really tell me when you guys find out if she's pregnant or not
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Do you guys know issues pregnant or not
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wow, u really into this huh grawesome...I was wondering why this old question keeps popping up lol
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She's not pregnant!
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Well that's a relief! You did the right thing duckie...your a good friend...hopefully her parents keep a closer eye on her so this does not happen again..how's she feeling...is she sad that she's not pregnant or happy ?
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It's just that happened to my cousin exept she was 14 and she was actually pregnant I just didn't wanna see that happen to anyone else
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She's really happy. She came to her senses.
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I am so glad your friend wasn't pregnant and came to her senses. Tell her that foxtrot56 says she should only "do it" when she is married that way, she'll be more prepared and not miss out on too much school work.
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No she's not my friend anymore.
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I'm REALLY REALLY REALLY mad at her.
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tell her parents

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Oh I did, beleive me.
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I think you should report this to a trusted adult. I know it would toture your friend but, we don't want that do we now? If you don't feel comfortable with telling her parents or having her go to the counsler, tell her some reasons why it would be bad for her to get pregnant so young. If this doesn't work out, go do as i said in the first part. Hope i could help!

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I told my mom
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She needs to realize having a baby is a big responsibility, especially at an age like hers. Talk to her as long as you need for her to understand. Just remind her of how expensive a baby is, you can't just use allowance money from your parents. Remind her of how much work a baby is... Is she used to waking up at 1:00 in the morning because the baby pooped itself? Remind her that having a baby is hard work, a big responsibility and very expensive. And also, she can die if she has a baby at that age anyway! I hope your friend doesn't get pregnant.

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