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is it wrong for me to pay my spouse's child support even when the child isn't mine?

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No. It is never wrong to love and care for a child. You don't legally have to but morally, you are a saint for doing so.

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ditto...some green
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so it right for my taxes to get intercepted cos my wife is ordered to pay it?
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bigred50..great answer! "there are worse ways to spend money"!...
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Mike. You can file a form with the IRS to get back the money they took from you. I think it is called the wounded spouse form or something like that.
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it's really something to discuss with your wife but it is her kid and I suppose if you care for her then pay it and consider it a good investment.....what goes around comes around.....unless there is more to the story than your question as asked....and isn't it still in there somewhere ' for better or worse ' anymore ?....just my opinion tho
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Yes, unless your name is on the child's birth certificate and you WANT it there.

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If you want to ...it is not wrong....if you don't want to ......yes it is.

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kind of
because the the real dad has to take care of it

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Or mom.
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true. im married. my wife is ordered to pay it. but since shes in debt, they intercept my tax return every year
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Definately!!!

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The real dad should take responsibility, not you.

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yes i think you should not have to pay thats what the father is for.

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Yeah, thats kind of rediculous to support someone elses kid when your spouse can support their own kid with no problem.

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I wouldn't but birthday gifts and Christmas gifts I would

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Only if you don't want to pay it. Or they can't.

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No that is just you affection for the kid and your spouse's pride

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I think it's very nice of you to step up and pay it, however why isn't your wife doing it? She needs to be the bigger person and step up to her responsibility. If she is not sending the check herself I can only assume she is not visiting her child. The courts only care if payments for child support stop, not who sends check.

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her child stays with us, but he just wants the money. plus shes on SSI anyway
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If he stays with you then there is no need to pay child support. You are supporting her child by providing food, shelter, clothes and everything else.
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No. You don't HAVE to. But it's better to, you know, like if you cared...
But the real parent should.
Legally, yes. Morally, not at all!

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its messed up o should get my taxes taken cos she ows child support. Thats a fucked up tax law
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its ok because when you marry someone, you agree to take on all the baggage that they come with

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No, if ur spouse doesnt work because you decided that they wouldnt, then I dont think its wrong to pay their child support. If you make more money than them and are helping them out, while ur spouse does other bills. As a parent you know a child still needs things in life, whether its paid by you, the parent the child does stay with or the state. If you dont mind taking this responsibilty, then kudos to you and be your spouse's partner.

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