To say that you're "madly" in love with someone who is hurting you is indeed mad, i.e. crazy. It is also a declaration that you are not in love with yourself, and you should be. You come first, self-protection comes first. If you do not take steps to get out of this abusive situation, you are encouraging and perpetuating the abuse. Wake up, be free, and protect yourself.
Don't tell me ... he apologizes and feel real bad the next day ... Pfffttt! You already KNOW what to do .. Tell your parents .. and stop seeing this joker! If he's THIS abusive now, what do you think he will be like later in life...when REAL grown up problems affect his demeanor.
If he has abusive tendencies when he drinks .. he is displaying a very common side effect of alcohol. It's almost like an allergic reaction for some people. A mean drunk is not someone you want to spend time with .. Run, and don't look back .. You deserve better than that.
Whatever you do, don't spend another day next to that monster. I've been in such a relationship for over a year. he tried to strangle me in the end so I called the police. That is the single one thing to do. Go to the police and get him out of your life. Move if you have to, tell a friend you trust to keep you safe untill he leaves for good. Life is great now for me, don't let yourself go!
The boyfriend you are so madly in love with is weak. He has an addictive personality. He has an abusive personality, that is easily brought out by alcohol. He shows no remorse or he would stop drinking. Actually stop drinking, not saying he will stop. Would you want to have kids by him and have them be abused like that also? Abuse is a very good reason for divorce, luckily you are not married. Now about you, you want to be with a man who abuses you. A normal mature woman would have nothing to do with a man like than. What does that say about you? Leave him before you get pregnant. NOBODY should tolerate that kind of treatment. You deserve better.
Oh geez I feel for you! Fact you have put this comment up, tho you love him it's good you realize it's wrong what he is doing to you. He may be a great person when his sober but alcohol can unfortunately bring out the worst in people! Fact he hurts you shows his not happy in himself, there are few things that anger him which he lacks CONTROL over. I hight light the word control because he knows you love him and when he drinks he has CONTROL over you! He DOES know that his hurting you but the alcohol would cloud his guilt for him not to feel anything accept unleash his angry. The angry is not about you. As they say we take our frustrations out on the ones closest to us. This is only helping him get a 'quick fix' NOT fixing his problem and extremely damaging to you and your self!!! Oh I feel for you because loving a person like this is so painful because I know you see good in him but you can't help him. You need to give some really tough love right now. Tough for you prob more at this stage because you will need to not see him for a while. Write him a letter tell him every thing how you feel then go stay with a friend or family member and don't let him know where you are. Let his close friends and family what's happening but DON'T tell them where your going. Go stay somewhere safe and try work on healing you. It's up to him to get better and once he does and if you two do stay together you want to be healed in yourself because last thing you want is him to get better you two together yet your living on edge rest of your lives because you haven't healed your trust.
Well only thing after reading your comment on other's.Is your in love.So do you hurt the one's you love too?You wrote been together from 6 th grade now two years so your 13 and he is already getting drunk?I think your answer to this question is in your question.Does it sound normal for a young boy to drink and abuse his gf?Listen a heartache from breaking up hurts way less than being abused.Your 13 go live life take control of it instead of letting someone control you.Tell your parents.Love does not hurt:)
Really? Use your head. Run! Geez. If you think it is wrong for anyone to hit you, then join the rest of the human race. He's a jerk. Leave him and find a guy who respects you and cares about your feelings.
DUMP HIM!!! Before he do something much worse!!! It's the only way,it's for your own betterment. Someday someone who truly loves you will propose to you and you'll be a happy couple,so just be patience :) Stay straight n' virgin :) Have a nice day :)
You can also be madly dead or destroyed with him. You know what the option is there's only one, take it or leave it. If you take it more is sure to come if you leave it. You will be free once the habit is broken.
Leave him, there are plenty of NICE guys out there that will treat you better. He is replaceable. An abusive man is no one to cry over, because he isn't a real man. You deserve better and you need to get better. You are strong enough to leave and don't ever think your not! Best of luck dear.
You obviously have grown up around this situation before. It is common for women who have seen this in their childhood to become enablers. I have no doubt you love him and see only the good in him. But he has to be held responsible for his behavior. I suggest that you go to an al-anon group. They have them for teens and adults. It is easy for all of us to say.... Run!! But until you have seen the cycle yourself you won't. You will continue to live this life. So please try and educate yourself and find other people that can help you along the way. All al anon classes are free and are for people that love alcoholics. I grew up all around them. I still surround myself with them. I haven't become one but in a sense I have... Since I understand them and forgive them. I myself go to therapy for this same reason and al anon. It helps to hear other people's stories and process. Good luck.
Leave him! Even though you are madly in love with him, you have to leave. I mean, how stupid can you be!? The guy might just end up beating you do death or just killing you! You need to leave him and go as far away as you can. Restraining orders won't work. Believe me. You need to leave him and go as far away as you can! Don't be stupid!
I was in the same position my kids father use to get drunk and high hit me,burn me,and I finally had enough and got out of there...you need to do the same anybody who loves someone would not hurt you like that..trust me there are many guys out there that would treat you with respect that you deserve