look i can talk from those guys' perspective. the reason we are like that is because we aren't used to it. we're used to being alone. when we open our heart to someone, it takes a lot of strength for us to even allow that because we're afraid to get hurt again. that has happened to me at least twice already. its made it hard for me to love anyone any more. any ways try being more open to him. give him bigger signs that you like him. slowly he will want to be with you. we may like being alone, but it does suck after a while.