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People ARE more rude these days. I am old enough to know that it didn't used to be this way. It all goes back to the same place as all our other societal troubles: the home and parents who do not expend the time and energy it takes to properly raise a child.

It was not that long ago that boys were raised, by a mother AND a father, to respect women and girls, and girls were raised to be worthy of respect. Not so today.

Today's children are raised more by the TV and the internet than by their parent(s). Anything goes, and the more disgusting, the more it's celebrated. Guys have always been kind of gross when it's just them together, but now they are as gross, it not more so, when there are girls around, and the girls, most of them half-dressed, just laugh right along.

Our society is really sick, the sickest in the world, and I can't imagine the American people ever recognizing how sick they are and doing something about it. After all, you can't give what you don't have, and you can't teach what you don't know.

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I think you're so right! Society has changed. Whats good is bad and what's bad is good. Immoral an inappropriate behavior is not only accepted, it's celebrated! This would so not have been acceptable before. People are lazy and want instant gratification now. It's just a mess. On my blog somebody compared then and now. They put a song called "pretty woman'' and now put a song called sexy b. it's terrible. What happened to respect?
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Say Hallelujah! I've said verbatim the exact words you wrote, at least a thousand times.
David O. McKay, an LDS prophet said "No success can compensate for failure in the home."
That was 50 years ago. Parents need to be parents.
If my folks got a call from the principle...there were consequences!
If I lied to my folks, the consequences included a belt. I only lied to them 3 times before I decided telling the truth and being grounded was the way to go.
My parents knew the difference between discipline and abuse, because they were taught by their parents.
Today, if a kid deserves a whack on the butt, dad goes to jail.
But if the kid steals a car, dad is responsible. Anyone besides me see a problem with this?
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I honestly think that it goes back to single parents. They hate me when I say it, but it's true. One person cannot work full time, AND properly raise a child. Since children are alive all of the time, they need a parent there all of the time. Bad behavior cannot be corrected hours after it happens, it has to be right when it happens for it to mean anything.

The other place it started was actually a time: it started with hippies, flower children, and liberals, in the late '60's and 1970's. They despised everything their parents stood for, from working full time fathers, to maternal, stay-at-home mothers. They named their children things like, "rain, flower, and sunshine," and turned them loose to just "be themselves." These children were your grand-parents. Since they were raised with little discipline, they grew up to be less-disciplined parents who flouted society's taboos, especially the taboo that said it was WRONG to bear children out of wedlock. Well, years and years went by, and your parents' generation became adults, and there was almost nothing left of society the way it was when it was good.

The schools had been ultra-liberalized during the forty years that Democrats controlled both houses of Congress; the playing field was leveled so many times that now it's just a big hole in the ground, and the bar was lowered so many times that today it has grass growing around it. It used to be that parents and teachers worked together to raise children UP to the bar, including keeping children back a year if they were not reading at a first grade level at the end of first grade. But not any more, oh no. It might hurt their itty bitty self-esteem if they had to stay back, and that was held, by liberals, to be more important than learning to read, even though reading is the foundation upon which all the rest of education is built.

And here we are today, with a 55% divorce rate because young adults have no self-discipline and no morals. To be continued...
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Society no longer has any taboos at all, so anything goes. The teens of today have no respect for anything, including themselves. They start dressing like streetwalkers when they are twelve, dating when they're fourteen, and are pregnant by sixteen. If young adults had any self-discipline at all, they would wait a decent amount of time (like three years or more) to get to know each other, before they decided to shack up and get knocked up. If they had the self-discipline to wait, the divorce rate would go down because people would actually know each other beyond the "honeymoon" phase of a relationship, and would know if they could live with the other person permanently before they selfishly and thoughtlessly bring children into the world.

The saddest thing is the girls of today. They have no respect for their parents, no respect for each other, and, most importantly, they have no respect for themselves. They have no sense of modesty, and often dress like hookers. The boys run around with a half-hard-on all the time because the girls are only half-dressed, and they start mating and breeding before they even understand what they are doing.

They don't learn about birth control, and they don't know anything about their bodies, but they think they know everything about everything. I don't even care if they roll around on the floor together at school, if only they would be adult enough to responsibly use birth control pills, so they don't bring innocent babies into their sad, wasted lives.

That's a pretty bleak picture, I know, but it's a pretty bleak society we live in today. I certainly don't mean to say that ALL children or ALL parents fit into these examples I have given. Not at all, because there are some parents who ARE raising their kids to be good kids with some sense of morals. But I think that most of our kids are lost and wandering, and don't know what to do to make their lives better.
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because they think being a jerk is cool and they just want attention. they need to understand that there is another person on the other side of the screen and being mean is not they way to go"/

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its human nature

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Jealousy, Insecurity, Immaturity. and basic lack of common sense

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Exactly what I was going to say.
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when someone picks on someone its can be because they like them, it can be because their life sucks so they try to make themselves feel better by bullying or picking on someone. or they just do it because they want to fit in with a crowd

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It's not often because they like someone, unless they are in third grade.
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uh not really bc this happened to me when i was in high school
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i have been alive for a long time yet it is the same it is ignorance that the homozapians contain that contains pure spite and anger it is also caused by religion for many holy wars have started to worship the same god

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Sometimes people are born this way. Now, please understand I Truly did not believe this for the longest time. I believed people became "mean" because of their environment and humans they were around as they grew. I was proven wrong when I met someone who premeditated harmful things to people he "loved" and neighbors he had. He was the scariest and most dreadful human I have had the displeasure to know. The rest of his family were/are as sweet as pie, but he, wow! He was born with something very scary. If you happen to run into a human like this,.. steer clear! You take care and love the people around you! Happy! Happy!

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There ARE people who are born evil, Merlin. They are called sociopaths. A sociopath has no emotions that relate to other people, only to themselves. They can feel sorry for themselves, but they are completely unable to feel empathy (it's what makes us human), sympathy, guilt, or remorse. They are very dangerous people, and there are more of them today than at any other time, simply because our world is so over-populated.
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Hi Mommadog! Thank you for showing your true insight on this topic. I enjoyed reading your clear examples and knowledge. I was devestated personally when i met him. You and Don (my husband) are on the same page. He warned me of him. I had never been exposed. To back up what you so beautifully wrote, I'll give you an ex: Don said, if he comes to our house, don't leave him in any room alone. Being the trusting person I am, of course I did. I was making chocolate chip cookies at the time. I went to the bathroom. When I came back, I jokingly said "man, I can't remember what I did with the 3/4 measuring cup." He relpied, "it's in the 2nd drawer on the left of the stove." REALLY! I wasn't gone but long enough to pee and wash my hands! Then, he asked to use the phone to call his parentsk. I've never to this day heard any person speak to another person in this fashion especially his mom.

He threatened to come and kill her in the night if she didn't wire him money. He had already run their dog over, then backed up over it 17 times to make sure it was dead. The same night, he wrecked and totaled his dad's brand new Lincoln. I was so appauled I was speechless. When Don got home, he made him leave. I never finished the cookies, I just sat on the couch and stared at him. .. who couldn't have been nicer to me. SICK! He died last year at age 32. Don and I still to this day don't know if it was self induced or murder. He certainly didn't have many friends. If any. Thanks mommadog for making others aware, it's scary out there and be aware! Enjoy Life, but watch out and if something seems wierd, make sure to shout! Have a nice night! Think happy thoughts, not bad ones! :)
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Because people aren't taught manners anymore

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oh so true...
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I agree. I think they weren't taught manner to begin with, and if they were, they found a way around it.. I hate to say, kinda like calling "wolf."
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Agree -- people get their manners from reality tv these days -- that goes for young and old alike...and they top that with angry rap music -- think about that -- hallelujah for modern ways...no....um...thank you...oops, I said 'thank you'...way too polite...I must go and reprogram myself back to no-manners-land and find another reality tv show --
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We Are All Mean To Eachb Other Because . . . .We Might Dislike Each Other.

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Hurt people Hurt people.... say it slow and think about it.

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You are right. It's a vicious circle-cycle, and it's almost impossible to break.
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