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My boyfriend wants me to stop and idk if im ready please help me i need GOOD advice please be mature.

My boyfriend wants me to stop cutting... we have been together for a little over a month and i started cutting again a couple months ago and i told him and showed him the cuts. he looked like he was gonna cry. he loves me and said he will help me through it and he said he really wants me to stop because it hurts him knowing that i do this to myself. I told him I would try to stop but Its really hard to stop. I tried once b4 and i ended up starting again. Im not sure if i want to stop but I really need GOOD, MATURE advice. This is really serious and dont say mean things because i dont know y but ive been really emotional since im trying to stop... help. btw my parents or any adult doesnt know just my boyfriend and a few close friends

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Please stop

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seek help, from parent or gardian

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or go to http://experienceshare.com and see how others get through there problems.
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I have been going through the same thing. Except instead of a boyfriend it's my friends. I try to stop and can't. Everytime you are about to cut yourself or want to cut yourself, kiss your boyfriend. If this doesn't work I recommend professional help.

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I have a question. Why do some people cut themselves? Wont it hurt themselves? What's the point of doing it? What's the cause of doing it?
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You know how they say that when people cut themselves the pain he's away? It actually does. Only for a shirt time. And I only cut myself when I get in a point in life where I want to lock myself in my room and never come out. And plus I only cut the top layer of m skin. So it's never bad.
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It's not good for you look at demi lovato people were torn by it I also have feelings to cut but I just think of all of the people who love me and care for me please try!:)

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I know its not good for me... :( I am trying though but its hard to stop
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:( wat even made u start this?
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I know that's what I'm wondering what makes people do this to themselves
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Try ur best get a squishy thing from the dollar store and keep it near wen stressed
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I just do it when im really upset and angry and it might not make sense but the pain kinda makes me feel better.../:
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i know what you mean.. everyone is defferent and we all have our reasons.. just because some of you dont think its ok to do it or its scary or gross or WATEVER... just keep your comments to yourself please :)
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i know how you feel KayleighxD im going through the same thing but i have been getting better try to make a happy place in your head and when you get upset go to your happy place or talk to ur boyfriend when your upset it will be hard but it will work i promise you you just got to give it time and i hope this helps you
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Plzzz stop u may lose ur life cuz U cut urself ur life shouldn't end this way!! Plzzzzzz STOP!!

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What's cutting and why you cutting please help me understand thank u

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It's taking a sharp object and then cutting yourself with it u bleed A L O T
It's a sickness and hard to break u do it under stress or aggervation
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Ok my first question is why do you cut yourself? I'm not trying to judge but my life has been pretty bad but you have a boyfriend who loves you so why? But for advice everytime you get the urge to cut again think about you boyfriend and massage the spot your about to cut. Call him before you do anything and tell him how much you love him. You don't have to tell him your about to do it just think of him and why your NOT gonna cut yourself then DON'T!

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Please. Stop. Cutting. Yourself. Seriously you risk infection and also seek guidance at least from you parents. But look at the bright side. You now know that he loves you and or cares about you!

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I'm 13, and I am literally in the same boat as you. Your boyfriend is right, you should try to stop, and I know it's really hard, but my friends told the school and the school called my mom and me and my mom had a very long conversation about it but she wasn't mad. Our parents are here to help us. And if your school finds out before your mom, you could get CPS(child protection services) called on your family. I find the smart thing to do is to tell your parent(s)/guardian(s). I wish I would have, because they are helping me to stop. It is easier to go to an adult you trust than it is the law. Trust me.

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Why do u cut yourself
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Hey I don't feel so alone now.
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I dont know how to tell my mom she would probably b really hurt and cry i dont wanna tell her :(
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When my mom found out .. she was pretty sad.But she wanted to help but so i think you should tell her. It'll help.MORE than cutting.
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tell your mom trust me she will help you my mom has been helping me
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Talk to someone when your feeling down or try to do some kind of sport like when im feeling down I go work out at the gym or go box but most importantly do it for your boyfriend :D

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No. Most importantly do it for yourself. (boy)friends come and go, but you are always with yourself.
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Hey dont cut yourself some people have the same situation but you have to be strong and you will be fine. Go to the movies and activities to get your mind off it.when I was little I had a huge rash but when I stopped thinking about it I healed

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Really you need to realize that u have people that love and Care about u.. Some people that cut don't have have the love and support like you do they take there lives.....

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Why u cut yourself girl?

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it makes me feel better...
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dont do it to feel better girl i was in the spot 2 years ago i was in coma for it for 4 months i almost died i use to think it helped me feel better to but after i got help and everything im alot happier i use to tell my self that it helped me feel better but i didnt cause i kept doing it and nxt thing i new i was doing it 7 or 8 times a day cause it takes the pain from inside and puts it on the outside but it dont do anything but make u think it helps replace it with something a sport or something i did that before i got pregnant and im clear of it now i do theropy now n everything please girl u gotta stop everytime u think about it hold your boyfriend n kno he there for u n ur friends r to talk to them about ur probs that is the best way to start....good luck kayleigh i hope everything gets better 4 u :)
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No one in the world wants to see you cut yourself! I may not know you, but I do care. You need to take a good look from other people's point of view and see that it is hurting them too. Please find help because no one wants to see you hurt.

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One day when your older, your gonna have big scars and everyone will judge you and you may not even be able to get a job with them if you don't stop.

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How rude. We are in the present, not the future. If she stops now, 30 years from now will be out of the question.
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Well exactly, if she stops... As I said above...
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dude thats messed up we are in the present not the future
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if u cut ur self & die u will end up in hell. jesus will take u himself when its time.

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Way to make a person want to cry i said I wanted good advice what u said was hurtful and im really emotional about this
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this is bull
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DUDE WAT R YOU THINKING you never tell someone something like that it hurts people plus she is NOT GOING TO HELL she just wanted good advice not hurtfulness !!!!!!!!
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why would you say something like that she wants people to help her with her problems as a person you need to be there for her cause you might have problems like that one day,think before you talk.
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Stop cutting is not worth it and seek help from a parent, councilor, or doctor and JESUS AND GOD

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Maybe you should try Jesus

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wow i never thought that i would find anyone who like gospel music ,do u,if not thats ok but keep helping people with there problems god is the only answer.
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Therapy

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ok who ever u r your ok u don't need therapy just relax kk.
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You have come to rely on cutting as a way to relieve emotional pain or stress. It has become a habit that makes you feel better when you are feeling overwhelmed and alone.

I think the first step might be to try to talk to your mom about it--tell her you want to talk with a counselor or therapist for a few sessions and see if she will agree.

It's very hard to give up things that make us feel better. Alcoholics drink because it makes them feel "different" than they usually do. Not necessarily better, but at least different.

It's hard to stop, but it can be done, and I know that you can do it, Kayleigh. It really helps if you pray to whoever you believe in--from this you will gain strength. There is also strength inside of you that you don't know is there, and it's just waiting for you to reach down deep inside yourself and take hold of it. You are stronger than you know.

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Thank you(: im trying my best but its hard to stop. I dont know how i could ever tell my mom, it would break her heart. :(
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Why not just give yourself a little more time, spend some time alone in prayer, ask for guidance and strength, and see how you feel about it in, say, a week? It takes time to gather strength and resolve, but I know you can do it. If you gather enough strength from prayer and from inside yourself, maybe you could do it yourself without having to tell your mother at all. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
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LISTEN TO ME NOW. You have a great life and you have no reason to throw it away. It may seem scary, but you need to find a trusted adult and tell them. They can and will help you. They will not judge you. You could get seriously injured, or worse. They are being (a) bad (boy)friend(s) for not telling. You will be happier if you stop. Solve your problems in a less antibeneficial way. Good luck, and i will pray for you. :)
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I use to do the same thing and when I look down I see the scars... It's hard growing up no matter what ANYONE tells you... But don't hurt yourself Hun. Work out that's how I got better! And DO NOT take any pills a dr gives you!! It made me try to kill myself!! :/ your strong you can do it!!! :)

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First.. cutting your self is not the only option to relieve any kind of stress or anger. no, its not an option at all. Please don`t do that. It may make you feel better but it hurts others around you. Im 14 and i have several friends that do it and i get really upset when i see scares on their arms. I suggest you talk to your parents or maybe a councilor at your school. Please let your boyfriend know that you are trying to stop.

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My girlfriend cut herself for awhile then she stopped because I asked her to. If he wants you to stop and you really love him, you should stop

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Oh please stop ur such a beautiful girl u dont need to do that to yourself please seek help for your sake u have so much to live for I cant believe all these people on here that do it or know someone everyone is worth something I hate bulling I hate people who think they r so much better than someone else everyone is the SAME! Please honey believe me dont harm yourself:-)

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im used to be a cutter my self. it really sucks to learn how to stop know it does. it's been at least three weeks since i cut myself. the way i've been getting by is finding a place where i can just yell and scream as much as i want. it really helps even if it wakes a neighbor or two. screw them. you should try that or find help with your boyfriend. when you feel pain or anger or sadness, just think of the man you love the man your happy with. just think of good things instead of something bad.

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yeah its really hard to stop right?
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Yes it is.. :(
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just follow what i told you and it will be easier to stop alright? its gonna suck and if you want i can help.
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he's right just do your best cuz i myself have almost stop cutting
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good for you fallen. and hi.
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hi and thank you :)
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no prb.
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STOPPPP!!!!!!!!!!!! not sure If this is helping but seriously STOP!!!!

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it might help to wear gloves often(arm length gloves)... i'm not joking, it could work how can you cut your arms when a piece of fabric is in the way.

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Cut thru the fabric
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But ur right it might b a good reminder not to do it if there is something blocking it
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And u could try writing something on ur arm reminding u not to do it and that ur bf doesn't like it
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I dont cut my arms i cut my thigh?
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O.....well dont that's horrible! Not to b creepy by asking but how old r u?
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wear jeans then
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It's not on what her bofriend THINKS SHE SHOULD DO ITS HER LIFE IF HE DONT LIKE THEN HE SHOULDNT BE WITH HER SIMPLE AS THAT BUT SHE DOES NEED TO STOP REAL TALK THAT SHIT IS IN THE WAY
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O ok c I sorta hav the same problem but I don't hav a boyfriend I hav a guy friend (best guy friend) and he doesn't like me doing it and he told me to stop so I am so just think bout him everytime u wanna cut yourself
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No prob hope it helped!!!:)
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it's good that your boyfriend cares means he loves you very much
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He broke up with me
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take everthing u can cut ur self with of ur home

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you should really seek professional help with this problem it is very dangerous. and props to your boyfriend seems like he really cares/loves you
Good Luck

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I know exactly what your going through. And I know a lot of people will suggest seeing a prof.(I know that you probably really don't want to) but I talk to my teacher that I really trust and he didn't tell my parents! He's the best. Anyway find an adult you can talk to. and instead of cutting try something else like screaming or dancing(Thats what I try to do).

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Next time you want to cut yourself, look at your skin and imagine that it is someone that is close to you's skin.

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So you are saying he isn't worth stopping for then right? There are times we need to choose to listen to the meaning behind the words. If you don't stop he will think you do not value him or what he has to offer you if you are cutting to feel better then he isn't doing it for you so you will now need choose what really makes you feel better. At least be honest with him and tell him that cutting is more important than he is, he's waiting to see if he matters to you at all.

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This is really rude! I said nice good mature advice and my boyfriend means the world to me! Please dont ever answer my questions im flagging u.
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Oh ok I completely understand you now!
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I had no intention of mean. You may have misunderstood my intent to ask you to look at it how he might be looking at it. You said he loves you and wants you to stop I believe he cares so much for you that he is trying to give you a reason to stop, that he is there to make you feel better and that there are deep meanings behind his words. My intent was to have you think of the choice to stop for him as more important than the one to continue. You defended and that's ok I'm not taking offense. I know this is very serious and emotional for you. And very difficult as well. I try to give honest thought provoking answers that help people to think in different ways and I don't usually tell people things they just want to hear just so i can spend my time answering questions in a bland 'everything will be fine sorry for you answer'. I do hope you you are able to stop cutting because your boyfriend is your best friend. And you know that cutting is bad. I hoped to give you a good reason to stop as he is trying to also. Please reread the meaning behind my words as trying to get you to care enough about what you have that's good in your life to stop . Misunderstandings can sometimes be clearer by listening to each other. Id like you to think wow that person really took the time to answer in a way to make me think. I wasn't saying you didn't care about him I was saying do you care about him enough to hear that he's there for you and that you don't need to do this anymore. Sorry if I upset you and please take care of yourself.
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That says he really loves you. I would stop for him<3

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Seek some help. You're better than that. If you think of it then squeeze something or do something else to prevent yourself. Hope this was helpful I wish you the best!(:

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Please stop me and my friend used to cut and she once went so deep she cut her vain a few days later she died and it took a lot of re strength to stop but with the right help and guidance you will stop but keep your boyfriend he seem like a keeper good luck <3

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omg!! im so sorry for your loss
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i know how losing a friend like that can be hard
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look, i have been doing this also! and let me tell you something.... someone close to me told me "if your already emotionally hurt why would you physically hurt yourself even more??" and another person told me "your very beautiful....." (I'm sure you are too!) "....but if somebody sees those cuts....ehhhh....i don't think they will think the same" and its soooo true! like to be honest its dumb....theres sooo many other things to do that are better and so much useful! please just stop! its not worth it! what if he dumps you b/c you can't stop? what if you cut too far? what if an adult sees that and reports you into a mental hospital to get help? trust me, this stuff happens! i understand it won't be easy! but it will be a really wise choice! do it for him! do it for your friends! do it cause we all need/want you to! do it for your life!!! god bless....hope this helps!

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Look. I know you must be having horrible emotional pain. But think about the day when you told your boyfriend. Think of his face and how he looked like he was going to cry. Remember that face every time you get the urge to cut and remember that he is trying to help you but if you don't let him help you then you won't be able to stop. Think about him, your boyfriend and then decide whether or not you should cut

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please stop cutting ur self

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We as people have a tendency of being self destructive... whether its the way we eat or just little things that prevent you from being your best. Just know that whatever is going on in your life that seems bad or too tough that it is OF THE MOMENT! your young... your emotions are going to play tricks on you! be smart and use your head and know better! yes, people say follow your heart.... but think of all the women that let their husbands beat them because they "love" them. Soooo.... about the boyfriend thing..... that's great that he wants to help.... BUT know that if you rely your happiness and peace on others... YOU WILL NEVER BE HAPPY. That simple. Rely on God. I'm not gonna preach because... well god has his way of revealing himself... :) so be safe and know things do get better! and plus honey scars on your wrist aren't cute! or when your older it will be harder finding serious work! so don't do something now that will haunt you!!!!

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i agree with your boyfriend you need to stop...i use to cut myself....then i stop because i found a person who cared for me and loves me the way i am....this person keeps his promises and loves me no matter what i do no matter how much i hurt him or reject hem he forgives me and takes me back every time....HE WOULD DEI FOR ME!!!!!!!!!!!!! ............... he died for me...

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I really think yuh should stop b/c everyone deserves a long good life span with health and with enjoyment

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i have seen things like these before the only way to stop is to go to a rehab center and i am not joking . its the same thing any adult will tell you and i'm a teenager so.....

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You don't HAVE to go to a rehab center; plenty of people stop cutting on their own. Having said that, it is much easier if you have someone to whom you can be accountable. That is where it is good to get professional psychiatric help.
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a rehab center or any therapy what so ever is CRAP! therapy only makes it worse. i know from experience that therapy makes you only want to cut yourself more. therapists think they are helping but all they're doing is filling your head with darker, more ominous thoughts. people that are closer to you are the best help compared to the so-called "professionals" of psychiatrics. they actually care about you and all the rehab centers and therapists just want to get paid.
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i've been in a rehab center and i was attack so ya those guys are rigtht i hated the place i was at it was hell on earth
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cutting is wrong and it probably hurts

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you should stop cutting

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girl i used to do the same thing. my boyfriend did kind of help me through everything but in order for me to stop i had to want to stop. sometimes i look at my scars and just want to cry. my best friends helped me stop too. maybe you should ask your friends what you should do. if others want to help you that's cool but you have to be willing to help yourself first. PLEEZE STOP CUTTING YOURSELF!

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Thanks for understanding(: sometimes i look at my scars too... I feel bad about it and i havent cut in like two days but i still dont know if i can stop or if im ready to../:
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thats great progress. ur stronger than i am. wen i first thought about stopping i started back in about three hours. at first ur gonna feel the urge to start again and ur not gonna know if you're ready, thats why you have to take your mind off of it. think of some happy times or do something with your boyfriend or friends. BE STRONG YOU'LL GET THROUGH THIS! :-)
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keep it up you are getting better just think of the good not the bad if you ever want to talk you can follow me if you want well i hope you get better
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you should never cut your self, your going to look back at that moment and wish you would of never done it. that is not cool.

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not only will that hurt u but it will hurt ure parents my parents found out the hard way about me and they were broken so not only is it good for u and ure bf but it is also good for ure parents when times get hard just run it off as in jog or talk to him or ure friends if u dont want to seek help then stop or things will get blown out of proportion

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ok how old r u now,you look twelve 2 b honest.
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look ik what your going through cuz im doing the same but if ur bf wants u to honestly stop then think about other things that will get ur mind off of it it will work trust me

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Cutting can lead to more permanent measures. It's a very serious thing. It not only hurts you, but others as well. Obviously your boyfriend is trying to look out for you. No one here knows your home life, and everyone has their bads about home, but cutting is never the answer. believe in yourself and stop. Nothing is ever easy, but you got to make yourself strong. People love you, and are looking out for you. Your boyfriend is worried. People are going to be worried. Think about it for yourself, and then after reading EVERYONE'S answer, decide what would be best for you and others.

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I wish you would have said why you have been cutting. When I was teenager I cut myself ,then I learned that I was loved more than I would ever know be my parents, my friends, my teachers, and people I didn't even know. I don't know if this will help ,but I will be praying for you. Just remember this: YOU ARE LOVED!!

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please stop!!! For your health. See a therapist or talk to your parents. but please stop

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Your boyfriend is telling you to stop because he loves you and wants the best for you.

Please do not get mad at him or say that he is you or trying to change you. He is not trying to do any of that; rather, he is begging you to stop because he does not want to see you hurt yourself like that.

If he is offering to help you stop, I would do it. If you feel that he is trustworthy, he could be a very good source of help for you.

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Stopping will benefit you, really. I help a ton of my friend with their problems, so I may be able to help. There's obviously a reason why you cut yourself. You need to figure out why/ face why you do and conquer it. You boyfriend seems like agreat influence, and seems like he will help you do this, Your not alone but you need to find something to distract you, so that you don't even have to consider it anymore.

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Stop cutting. It is harmful to you, and doesnt only effect you, but clearly the people around you who love you. The pain you are feeling and wanting is not worth it. know that you ARE loved and you are beautifully and wonderfully made. think about the reasons why you do it, and talk to your parents. I hope things get better.

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you need to stop you look like Ariana your pretty but,my girlfriend is hotter

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That's not the girls's picture. That's Ariana grande
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wow that's the girl from the tv show Victorius and even if that was her that's mean to say
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you should stop cutting and i know what it feels like to be addicted to something like that. it may not be the same but still i know how you feel. i dont know what religion you are but you should try to find GOD and he will pull through for you. you just need to trust in god, belive in GOD, and get support from your Boyfriend. hope this helps best of luck:)))))

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Before I say anything, I want to say that I feel your pain. I have had an OCD for two years now and have numerously attempted to quit. However, every time I quit, I feel this emptiness and cannot seem to be satisfied with myself. My physical appearance has been affected horridly.
Just because we have both tried stopping ourselves to no avail doesn't mean there is no hope. We can conquer these disorders. (Please don't take "disorders" offensively. It is just what I seem to have observed as our vernacular.) Just tell an adult or someone you trust (maybe a counselor?) about your... problem(?).
I hope this helps!

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o i know how you fell but cutting your self is not the way to solve your problems you have to pray and if yo keep cutting your self seek professional help asap sorry about you and the sharp things

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I agree that your boyfriend is right my ex did this and what ever it is that's bothering you just stop and think. Instead of cutting go talk to a close friend or even your boyfriend

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dang you have a lot of comments but all i can say i use to cut myself to and my boyfriend wanted me to stop to and he would help a lot by telling me to take it out on something else like we would go out on long walks while i would tell him why i was in pain but also nobody can force you to do something u dont want to to change the first step is to want to and if you dont want to its going to very hard but all i can say is at least try i would and i would go back to cutting again but with help,patience,and time i eventually stopped so its possible but you gotta want it
hope it helps wish you the best

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okay first of all I know what you're going through i had this problem of cutting too except the only person that I had was my friend best friend all you really need to do is trust in your boyfriend he seems to really care about you ,you need to let him help you and instead of cutting tell your boyfriend what's bothering you or what's causing you to cut . He can and will help you stop and when you tell him the things that r bothering you don't be afraid to cry you need to let out all of your emotions even if that means to cry in front of him. Your boyfriend is supposed to be like your best friend they need to know everything that's on your mind or bothering you and they also need to or will become someone you are close to. I hope I helped you with this and good luck!! :)

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My sister used to cut herself and whenever she quit doing it she started to wear a rubber band around her wrist so whenever she got the urge to cute herself she would pop the rubber band and eventually she didnt get the urge anymore

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I think that you should tell your parents/adults. I know it may seem hard but cutting is a very SERIOUS problem and can have life threatening results. Please. They might be able to help.

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How am I supposed to tell them? Im scared of their reaction and Im scared to even tell them. I dont want them to b mad at me/:
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I know exactly how you feel. But don't you think that they would have wanted you to tell them before something serious happens? I KNOW it would be hard and I'm by no means saying it would be easy, but I REALLY think that in the long run, they would be the people that could help you:) I hope for all the best for you darling!
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First, find someone you can trust to talk to. Usually a parent is good, however, your boyfriend seems to care for you. Talk it through with him, such as why you do this. The best way to stop this I honestly think is to think about your future. What will your kids think when they see those scars? As for the emotional part, talk to a doctor about depression. You don't have to mention that you cut, but most likely they will give you a mood stabilizer. Once you think about doing it again, just remember how shocked your boyfriend was when he saw it. He cares for you clearly, as do many other people I'm sure. It's a habit easily outgrown with strength, courage, and guidance. How do I know? I did it too. And I'm perfectly happy now.

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this happened to me and i know its really hard to stop and when you want to cut call a friend or your boyfriend! and DONT listen to demi lovato :)

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if youre having a difficult time stopping, maybe try to find a less harmful way to experience that feeling in the mean time. wear a rubber band around your wrist like a bracelet and snap it anytime you have the urge to cut. you can do it as many times as you want and it can satiate that need at least until you work through whatever it is that makes you feel like you need to cut. if you want, talk to your parents about going to a counselor. most health insurance covers it and if you ask, i highly doubt they will say no. if they wanna know why, you can say youre stressed about school work. then when you see your therapist, you can tell them whatever you like (doctor patient confidentiality means they cant tell your parents anything unless you are hurting yourself). or just talk to a good friend, and you can keep snapping away until you have overcome whatever is making you want to hurt yourself. hope this helps.
p.s. when your older you wont remember 99% of the things that set you off to start cutting yourself. i dont.

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Stop cutting.It's addictive,i know.Everytime you want to cut,get a sharpie and draw a butterfly in the spot you want to cut in. Name it after your loved ones. Dont cut<3

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For your body is a temple of the Lord.
God loves you and promises to be with you.
Get a rubber band. Put it around your wrist and
every time you want to cut yourself, snap the rubber
band on your wrist.

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i am in this too. my fiance is so protective of me and when he sees it he thinks he isnt doing it right. So stop for him and you becuz other people start blaming themselves and it ends badly

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Your boyfriend obviously loves you a ton. I'm sure he will help you through the whole thing. You should also tell your parents, they can help you too.

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tell your parents i am an ex cutter to i learned the hard way i almost died from cutting but i used that experience to get me through it when i feel like cutting i just think about what happened to me and what almost happened to help me from a ex cutter to a cutter you need to stop if it helps think about what happened to me and what almost happened to me i dont want you to end up like me!!!!!

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All you have to do is stop...I know it's probably some deep dark issue. Not to be a jerk or anything but I don't get why so many girls do that. Just stop all there is to it.

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Well lets put it this way...if you cut yourself you can end up killing yourself! You seem like maybe you have some troubles going on, but you have a boyfriend who loves you and cares about you, that means your worth living! At least to him and idk you but you seem cool! So don't do it.

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First of all Kayleigh, don't cut yourself. You can get a disease using those nasty razors or whatever you use. When you're upset, try something new that'll put your frown upside down. Like eating ? or even cooking. I draw when I'm down because I know if I cut myself it'll only make things worse and it looks gross.
Try fixing your problems. Whatever causes you to do this, change it. BC you know once you cut yourself, the issue is still gonna be there. Like smoking cigarettes. You're only harming yourself because of "stress" or whatever, but once you puffed your last hit, the issues are still right there in front of you.

Remember, the things you do behind people's back reflect on you so make it something worth telling others about. Occupy yourself with something that'll help. Try singing, dancing, drawing, spending time with happy people, etc. Anything really.

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you need to tell your parents before it gets really serious. that's really good that your boyfriends support you and wants you to stop. dont think about what other people say because at lease you enough common sense to seek for help. but PLEASE STOP i dont want it to become really serious i dont even know you and i am worried about you please stop

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My ex-girlfriend cutted her self idk if she stil does but it hurt me a lot when I founded out I would stop if I where u its not heathy and it's not fair to ur boyfriend to go though this pain that he is going though

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Stop, find help. You said it yourself this is a real problem. Please stop and find help.

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you should stop cutting your self because it can scar. it could also get infected.

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Seek help from a psychiatrist, well, whats making you do this anyway? please answer me back

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Depression, stress, sadness..
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seek help from wat lil mama 16 said
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hey look life is not worth ending ask GOD to help you go to church one time and talk to the paster if you are scared to talk to your parents im 20 and i use to be a teen and i know how you feel.I sometimes feel down and depressed but i have to look up and tell myself no more of this it is time to get my life back on track and get right with myself and GOD. The way you say your boyfriend cried tells me that he is in love with you pray and have faith and keep your head high and never say i quit.

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Why don't you try an alternative? Like popping a rubber band on your arm. The object of cutting yourself is to hurt yourself in order to relieve pain. Popping the rubber band should do the same thing

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I used to cut, so personally, I think you need to talk to a counselor whether its at school, or a hospital, but you should try. It sounds like that he really wants you to stop and that he really cares. And you might get emotional when you try to stop, I did, and that's because once you do it long enough it can turn into a habit, or even an addiction. I think you should try to get help, or talk to somebody about the root of the problem.. I hope what I said helps you, if not I hope somebody else does, and your boyfriend keeps trying to help you because it is not healthy for you.

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Hey i have been in the same situation as you are in right now and believe me cutting yourself is never the best answer for anything.. I mean you could lose your boyfriend and all that and i don't think you want that. So here is my helpful advise to you go talk to a person who is an adult and you know you can trust and ask them for help.

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Honey, that's a really bad thing to do. You're hurting yourself as much as the people that are close to you. You need talk to an adult that you trust about this problem, because it could turn into a very dangerous or deadly situation. Please stop for your boyfriend's sake, if not for your own sake

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First of all, to all these people calling this girl stupid-LEAVE HER ALONE! It is unbelievably hard to stop, and I know you must be horribly torn up inside. Whoever is causing you the pain, resulting in the cutting, probably doesn't have a clue what they are doing to you. Please try to stop. Even though I don't know you, it hurts me to know that you do this to yourself. Even if you can only have an hour long period that you don't cut, please try. Get help. In the end, you will be so thankful you did. Good luck to you, and your boyfriend sounds amazing :)

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i know perfectly what you are going thro.. no joke. i use to and my boyfriend helped me get out of it. i had it bad and did it for about a year before we started being together. it took me 6 months to fully stop and it was because of him. if i felt like it he'd call me and wed talk and hed make me laugh and giggle, when we were together and i wanted to hed kiss me or hug me or hold me or whatever. it took a while and he made me realize that me doing it, yea stopped the emotional pain for the moment and replaced it with physical pain which most people can handle better.. but then after your stuck with your emotional pain again and physical so your just delaying everything and adding more to it. try real hard. you seem like a repsectable girl, sweet and you shouldnt keep doing this to your self. try real hard. i hope everything goes well :) <3 best of luck
~Nat

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Hi KayleighxD I had a few friends who used cutting as a way to get out. and ive helped them stop by telling them what their worth in life and how to find other things to help with your stress. i know you dont know me but iff you want to talk i can help. u can tell me anything and i will give you my best advice i can if you want to email me u can at mlname4eva@gmail.com
and if ur BF wants you to stop then do it cause that goes to show how he truly feels about you and your safety whoever it is is a GREAT reason to stop cutting :) and nothing can be bad enough to want to end your life because if you cut the wrong spot it could end up really bad for your family and yourself. so if you feel that you want to talk email me :) hope you get through this

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You should seriously get help. I've been there! It's hard being a teen, and you feel like at time everythings pushing you over the edge! You can't just stop, it's not that easy! So my advise is to talk to someone you trust, maybe a family member (i went to my aunt about it) someone you trust will help! you should go to a doctor, counseling. I went though many things to stop! you'll find something, now go! get out there, and do something about it!

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please stop

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You need some help, obviously.

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This is a very touching topic, especially since you have what sounds like a WONDERFUL boyfriend to support you, I am in your situation right now, and I can tell you that I completely understand that it is extremely difficult to stop, I haven't told my parents either I am also quite scared, but what I am trying to do is think of my boyfriend and how much I love him, and how much it hurts him, i've watched him cry before last time I had done it, and deep down seeing him that upset, it upset me too :( I don't know you personally but your story made me cry considering I am in your situation, you are probably, certainly beautiful and don't let anyone or anything let you feel otherwise, all I can say for now is to please try to think of your boyfriend and all the good things in your life and HOPEFULLY it should start to at least stop a bit, good luck <3

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