All relationships require negotiation. Consider, first, what your "fight" was about. Is the conflict resolved? Was it something important in the first place? If the conflict has NOT been resolved, there is no "make-up".
Secondly, some things are worth fighting over; some things are not. Examples.... IF he/she forgot to put a bill in the mail on Friday (but took it to the post office on Saturday morning) you shouldn't be fighting. That's trivial stuff. If he/she didn't pay the rent because he/she bought something else (eg, drugs, booze, gambling, video games, porn, ... ) you've got more than a fight... it's time to break this relationship..
Third level (you've resolved the above-points...) Is the problem with YOU or with your BF / GF. If YOU are in the wrong... ADMIT IT. Can you honestly stop doing what started the conflict? It's time for serious growth and self-examination. If your partner is the one in the wrong, they need to do the same, and come to you asking for forgiveness.
Hold to your standards... for YOURSELF. Don't "make-up" simply because you have no spine and don't want to be alone. Life is too short for that crap!!
2 years ago
Last edited at 4:43AM on 6/19/2011
You should first of all find out the reason the two of you are fighting. Take him or her for a walk and hold his or her hand all this time and talk gently and do the things that excited him or her. On your way back get him or her some present and possibly a bottle of wine for the two of you.