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why is it illegal for like a 19 year old to date like a 14 year old?

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A 19 year old is legally an adult, a 14 year old is still a child (legally, physically, mentally/emotionally). Adults need to do adult things with other adults (traditionally dating is what leads to marriage, which leads to reproduction - you don't want to do that with a child). Children should not be worrying about dating (other than casual - hey let's all go to the movies and hang out).

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Wat up yo
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It's just kind of a big age difference
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the only thing I don't agree with on your answer is saying that teens (or as you said,"children") shouldn't be dating, but other than that I agree
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19 is an adult 14 is not

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The 19 Year Old Is Considered An Adult And The 14 Year Old Is Still A Minor And Considered A Child. This Relationship Could Be Considered Child Molestation And The 19 Year Old Can Go To Prison.

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19 yr old is an adult and a 14 yr old is still a child/minor

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It is not illegal to date a 14-year-old! It is the next step that gets you into trouble!
It is best to avoid even the appearance of an impropriety when it comes to "CHILDREN" so as not run afoul of people who want to look out for the child and view with suspicion older people dating children.

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Older people dating children is foul. It has nothing to do with appearances
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My family member fell in love with a fourteen-year-old when he was 18. He dated her until she was 17 then they got married. They have 3 children 9 grand children a 250 acre farm and no mortgage. They have been together for 40 years.
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What is there to object to? I did not even use a colorful word in the whole nerration! No vulger or lewdness, no profanity and no big words to confound you! So, just what is your problem Ask?
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Thanks for putting it back
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omg you have ppl who are 30 dating 50 year old sooo wats the difference
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Well it would be the same as that 14 year old dating a 9 year old. You want to babysit your date? Unfortunately most 19 year old these days are already sexually active and that's just way too early for a 14 year old. The other big problem here is that they have very little in common at this age. Also there is something terribly wrong with the 19 year old and needs to get some mental help immediately!

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That is an absurde analogy. By your own example there wuld be something wrong ith a 60-year-old dating a 56-year-old.
Or even a 22 year-old dating an 18 year old. How about a 21-year-old dating a 17-year old? Even if the boy just turned 21 and the girl wal about to turn 18? how about a 6-year old dating a 9-year-old. (We are just talking dating here not practicing baby making). The apperance of evil seems to incite the most pruient thoughts without the slightest benefit of the doubt. Jump to conclusions then think the worst.
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Ok smartie. I met my wife when she was underage. And we waited until she was not. A 18-19 year old has no business messing with a 14 year old. When people get older the difference doesnt matter because at that point, everybody is a friggin adult! If you cant see the difference then youre as bad as the perve doing it
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Sing it baby sing it.... That was my point there is no difference of 19- 14 and 14-9.... Wait I'm wrong there is. The 19 year old is a petofile. You preach this just dating nonsense all you want but here on earth, there's a HUGE chance the 19 year old wants sex and we as a society would be pretty damn stupid to think otherwise! I've got 6 kids with 4 under the age of 17. Let me catch some twisted 19 year old with one of them and show you how to take away ALL of his desire.!!!
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It's illegal because children do not have the decision making ability to consent. Because of this they cannot make sound decisions as an equal in a relationship with an adult.

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Thank you for saying that - I kept trying to come up with a way to mention that adults held positions of authority over children, but couldn't quite get it to come out the way that conveyed what I was thinking. You said it perfectly!
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Well thinkk about it,
A 19 year old is already considered an adultt. [over 18]
A 14 year old is NOTT Lol
So I guess, the 19 year old is actually doing a crime :)

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Once in this country 14 was an adult! Just because the law says it does not make it so. At thirteen most people are capable of making the right decisions (If they are not conditioned to think of themselves a a child).
Native American tribes considered 14-year-olds as adults and they were expected to act that way! (Mostly they did too). If he wasn't doing anything improper then just dating her is not a crime.
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No Lol. See my mom is like in her late 30's andd she still acts like she's like 14-15!!!! Lol.
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But now all 14 year olds are like all dingy in the head. Lmao.
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Ohhh andd also lol, a 19 yrs old has a whole bunchh if different priorities than that of a 14 yrs old. :)
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And because pedophiles need to be exterminated

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Amen, kuddabeen
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True, that
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This would not be classified as 'pedophilia'. Rather, it is in-between hebephilia and ephebophilia.
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Its classified as freakin pervert. No excuses
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Yes a pedophile needs jail time at the least.
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I don't know but we should be able to date whoever we want!

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sooo tru!!!
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Date is ok but if you go beyond that you deserve jail! Your date should be in her yard with her parents in attendence just to be above the board. If her parent object then hit the road.
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kuddabeen nailed it!

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Because it's not morally right

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Morality based on what?
Morality implies morals but without God there are no morals.
How old do you think Mary was?
Any man (Adult) who has his way with a 14-year-old needs to be permanently fixed.
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You sound sick. What could you possibly have in common with a 14 year old?? Stay away from her. She's very much still a child!

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yea im only 13 i was just asking
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because if your 14 your still just a kid and if your 19 your legally an adult and it would sometimes lead to marriage if your are dating someone and a 14 year old just wouldn't be mature enough plus it would just be wrong!

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Because like if you like have like sex with him/her then like if the parents find out then like you could go to jail and that would be like bad like really

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I see seven occurrences of the word 'like'. Do you see a problem with that?
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I was making fun of the person who asked the question because they said "like" a couple times. But I guess your too stupid to realize that...
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I don't even care if it's illegal, it's also wierd to date an 8th grader while you're a freshmen in college!!! What the hell is wrong with you?!?

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i just wanted ti no. jesus!
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What's wrong with you?!?!?! It isint morally right..a 19 year old wants a sexual relationship and a 14 year should NOT be doin that

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IM ONLY 13
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N what u wanna date a 19 year old or what?
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As long ad there is NO SEX and or making out your good. Movies and hangtime is okay, kicking it at the arcade keeping in mind she is still a young girl and not to be taken advantage of. If you can't do that get yourself a grown up

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Because the government has deemed that any sexual relations of a minor and an adult is 'harmful' to the minor. Thus, it is considered 'Statutory Rape'.

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Oh so now you believe our government tells the truth?
Which part of our government, Weiner?
Don't put this on the government, it is a matter of personal character and we need to be firm. All it takes is one pedophile to get elected to a federal judgship and things will change just like the other!
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Thanks for that?
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What is wrong with you? That's sick, we shouldn't even have to answer this that's sick and i pray for you...


~Spice

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IM ONLY 13 jeez
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The kid is asking a question that deserves an answer. Stop jumping on him.
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Ok, he isn't the pedophile but he lacks common sense.
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No he doesn't he's asking " Why?".
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Every youth is different and people mature and become independent at different speeds. The laws regarding Statutory Rape vary the age of consent from state to state. The age is really arbitrary, but it's the best way for a state to make children safe from a legal standpoint.

The laws are in place because of the ease an adult can have in coercing (tricking and/or forcing) a minor into a sexual relationship. Many minors are in a position where they can't say "no" to an adult's sexual advances and still be safe. So Stautory Rape laws say "no" for them. Even if the minor claims they want the relationship, he/she is legally not able to consent to having sex with an adult and the law makes it illegal for the adult to have sex with the minor. If the adult breaks the law, they can and will do a lot of jail time.

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If 30 year olds can date 50 year olds then 14 year olds can date 19 year olds POINT BLANK UGHHH

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