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My cousin is being abused by her friend, what do i do?

My cousin is like 42 and is being abused by her male friend, i'm not sure if its a boyfriend. No matter how many times he does it she still goes back to him. She stays with him on the weekend, once she came over and had a bruised eye. He also goes through all her stuff, he said if she tells someone he is going to kill her and dump her body in a garbage. She had pictures but he deleted them from her phone. I know his cell number, address, and first & last name. So what do I do?? PLEASE HELP.

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Take it to court, get a lawyer and file a protection or restriction order on him for her. I think she has to do it herself however, which means you will have to convince her to get it herself.

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tell the police

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But im like 13, and if i do something all she'll say is 'dont get into grown ppl business'
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It's better to protect her, if she gets upset, so what, her safety is more important than anything. She will get over it. Do something before something really bad happens.
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CALL THE FUZZ if it gets too serious.

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call police

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Get evidence before you do anything

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I'm so sorry your cousin is being abused, and even more sorry that it affects you.

I would talk to her first. let her know how the visible signs of her abuse are affecting you too. tell her you love her and that she is a wonderful, beautiful woman who deserves much better. tell her you support any decision she makes and that you will be there for her.

be persistent and patient. people who are being abused tend to believe that it is their own fault.

i too would want to call the police, it is noble of you to want to be involved, if you do decide to call the police on her behalf, call while she has the big bruises and try and convince her to press charges.

i am so sorry darling. be very safe.

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Call the police, right now. Don't wait. Your cousin's safety is involved here-- possibly even her life-- and because she doesn't have the strength right now to help herself, she needs you to save her. She might be angry with you at first if a part of her believes that she loves this man, but if she gets therapy at some point then she'll begin to heal and be grateful to you. Call the police, tell them that a man has been assaulting/beating up/abusing your cousin, that he threatened to kill her, and that you're scared for her life. Tell them where they can find him, and they will go after him and arrest him. if you then talk with your cousin and can convince her to press assault charges, he can be put in jail where he cant hurt her anymore. Please don't delay, you could be saving her life.

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Tell you're parents or an adult. It could result in something worse if you don't speak up soon. Protect you're cousin. I hope that she is protected.

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