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Is it ok if you are 21 and you are going out with someone that is 46

i am 21 texting to a 46 old man i and i really like him maybe even love him is that ok

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Jhamilton918

No. That is creepy...

What kind of 46 year old man has anything in common with a 23 year old young girl?
The emotionally stunted, sexually lazy, creepy one that drives a windowless van and lives with his mother kind.

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gross,....

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Age is but a number unless you are under 18 but when you are over 18 it doesn't matter anymore.

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PinkLotus

That's is gross but love is blind

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Yes as long as you are over 18 which you are ,it is not against the law.

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Um in my opinion its gross and wierd but if your over 18 its up to u

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DanCheshire

It's not so bad now but when you are 42 your friend will be 92. You will have to feed him and change his diapers. I always look for people my own age.

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Your gigure is waaay off. It is a 25 yr. Difference. Not 50 yr. by your calculations.
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One person is 21. 2 x 21 = 42 where I went to school. The other person is now 46. 2 x 46 = 92. I am an engineer by trade and that is very elementary math for me. No wonder America is getting to be so dumb. Use a calculator is you don't believe it.
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I did do my math wrong. When the younger person is 46 the older person will be 77. One person will be in the prime of their life and the other person will be on Medicare. It's still the same result no matter how you do the math. As they both age they will continue to grow apart.
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It's no worse than Hue Heffner and his playmates... but really I think you should maybe aim for someone your age that way you can both experience your lives together the same way. Your 46 year old man has already lived a lot of his life and you've barely begun yours. I'm not saying you shouldn't, but than again I'm not saying you should. Ultimately it us your decision. I hope you are happy with whatever you choose :)

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Hugh Hefner is a creepy old dork that is paying high priced bleach blonde prostitutes to occasionally tough him and hang out and be his friend.
I don't want to be that man's age and have to pay little girls to touch me...if he was a janitor more people would see that for what it is.

Just creepy.
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U r absolutely correct
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Ummm i would be disturbed

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No thats gross

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I just threw up

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Cough, Cough, "Sugar Daddy", Lol
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Here's the thing I see as a problem. Even is someone continues to be active and vital well into their 70s, after 50 lots if things change. It's at this time that the age difference gets real noticeable. You are old enough to make this decision but be honest with yourself for your sake and his.

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On my opinion love is love and if you really love him go for it who's anyone to get in your way!!<3

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To the ones who said it's gross you are all very rude rude rude what makes a 46year old man gross really what? He might be a really nice man who is good to her and makes her happy and feel good about her self and loves her without judgement . So you are just telling her that two people who love each other are gross that is just stupid and judgmental there is not one thing around with it Emily as long as you and he are very happy but next time you have a question of the heart go with what your heart tells you don't go online hope all works out great for you

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Happiness does not mean it is healthy.

I am sure that Bonnie and Clyde were "happy" as a couple but they weren't healthy for one another.
Relationships like that tend to be exploitative by nature.
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They are texting not robing banks and why is being happy unhealthy
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Lots of things people do to make themselves happy can be unhealthy.

Addicts shooting smack into their veins are all kinds of happy when they get their fix.
Fat guy woofing down a bacon cheeseburger is all kinds of happy when he is killing himself with food.
Smokers love their cancer sticks.
Some emotionally stunted old man man landing a much younger woman, I am sure feels good and makes him happy...but it isn't healthy for either one.

Like I said before, those relationships are exploitative by nature.
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So you are just are not for happiness then lol
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Not self-destructive happiness, or happiness at the expense of someone else.

I could legally go make myself "Happy" with a 16 year old girl here in my state. But that wouldn't be right to use that young girl for my own selfishness, and it would make me into someone I don't want to be.
Never thought I would see someone go to bat for the creepy old perverts of the world...but here you are!
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Well I guess I have to be nice on this thing so I'll keep my insults to my self unlike you i just have one last comment or question why do you have to be so nasty and personal about a question
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And by the way dents you decided to inform me that I was going to bat for perverts I'm not I'm going to bat for people being happy I rather enjoy putting perverts behind bars.
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Nasty How?

I just call a spade a spade, and a creepy old man a creepy old man.

I am a direct person...every where in my life I cut right to the chase and don't lie or mislead.
A kick in the teeth is worth more than a kiss on the cheek and a pat on the head.
Not all of us people are OK, not all of us are good people just misunderstood, and we all should judge some behaviors as being wrong.
Do what makes you happy, is a careless stupid persons motto.
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I would never he is way older than u

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Damn bet ya! Go get em Tiger!!!

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That is gross!

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He's more than twice your age. I think that's just wrong, but I'm not in your situation so I can't really judge. I think you should find someone your own age because you guys would probably have more in common.

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Number1EminemFan

Really there's billions Of people out there try again

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Im thinking the old guy hit a home run here
Im 46 and would love to sport a 23 year old on my arm bed or bed side witch ever happens second
Go for who cares what you think it is apaerant he dont how can he be so selfish asking you to waste your life to gain a troghi in his olders years but thats just the thoughts of a 46 year old man

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Sounds normal to me

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That is not gross. Age is just a number. What do gross about it. This is the only country where age us a factor in dating

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Eekkk..

No, it's not normal. If it doesn't matter to you now, maybe put some thought into what your life would be like down the road if you stayed together. It's quite possible you will be spoon feeding him and buying Depends. It's not natural, go through the phases of life with someone your own age, you will enjoy it more.

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