you ARE reaching out to this child subconsciously because he either looks like what you have envisioned your aborted fetus would have looked like had he survived or your heart is aching for the pain you caused that fetus and guilt is consuming you.you must detach yourself from this child NOW because you are causing irreparable harm to his family caused by the harm you caused to your family.you need to see an abortion counselor NOW to deal with your guilt feelings and quit attaching yourself to this child.it is normal to miss your aborted baby and feel guilty and your maternal feelings that weren't there when you had the abortion are springing up now.get out of this child's life!do not allow him to call you mommy!that's just sick.he has a mommy.if you can't distance yourself, then patiently tell him "no, I'm 'teacher' or whom ever" but for God's sake YOU'RE NOT MOMMY.please get the help you need to heal and get over what you did.you can't go back.maybe you can prevent others from having abortions and help them carry their precious souls to birth and help adopt them out.maybe a new direction in life?good luck.

It's a matter of your belief system as to the first part of your question. Obviously the child is attracted to you for some reason. I can't help but wonder which came first, his attraction or your belief. Perhaps there are things going on in his home life that are at play here. At any rate you must be careful about letting things go too far and risking the resentment of his parents.
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What's done is done and if there is guilt concerning your abortion you must find a way to forgive yourself.

Based on God's love, His goodness, His righteousness, and His perfect justice, it is appropriate to conclude that these precious children are immediately in the presence of God when their lives are cut short by the act of an abortion. Sad to say, having an abortion and regretting it later is an all too common experience. While what has been done cannot be undone, women can experience healing and recovery after an abortion. The God of all comfort and healing is more than able to bring ease the sorrow and pain of an abortion and can restore women to life and joy. (cont in comments)

strawberrygirl: 1 year ago

When a woman realizes the repercussions of having an abortion, she may find it difficult to forgive herself. But God does not want us to live with perpetual guilt; He wants us to learn from our mistakes and use them to His advantage, as well as our own. It will require a lot of prayer, which is simply conversation with God. This and studying the Bible helps us get to know God better so that we can trust Him to heal us and be better equipped to do His work. Instead of dwelling on the act, a woman should be encouraged to use her experience to help others. She may first need to go through Christian counseling to help get through the experience, as it can be traumatic. But in the aftermath, if she trusts in the Lord, she will be stronger and more spiritually mature. She will have gone through an experience that God is able to use to strengthen her character and prepare her for ministering to others.http://www.gotquestions.org/abortion-healing-recovery.html

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A spirit requires birth, as it requires breathing. You seem to be referring to a soul, which means consciousness. While science has not determined exactly when babies gain consciousness, it is somewhat accepted that they do so around 7-8 weeks due to being able to measure brain activity. No one really knows what happens to a baby's consciousness after death. Some who believe in Heaven believes the baby automatically goes there. Some believe the soul is sent back to Heaven to pick another parent. Some believe the soul rests until the resurrection when all will be brought back to life. Those who believe in reincarnation believe it moves on to another baby. Atheists generally believe the soul simply dies. Not too many people believe the soul stays to haunt the parent, but many women who have abortions have reported having remorse that feels like being haunted.

brittybee: 1 year ago

guilt sometimes is described as being haunted by what you done. but i fully believe that a baby is a baby no matter how early in development!!

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yirmeyahu: 1 year ago via iPhone

Just because it doesn't yet have a consciousness does not have to mean it is not a baby.

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