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What to do if your 20yr and your in love with a 40 year old thats attracted to you and likes you but is playing hard to get?

hi my name is wendell.i am 20 yr and i work at a warehouse in newnan ga. im very intrested in a older 40yr woman who thinks im cute and flirts but shes playing hard to get. she has no kids, never married, and is single.plz give me advice to seal the deal. thank you

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RUN! AWAY, NOT TO HER! that is too much age difference which will bear out in no time. and should it get real serious and you were to have kids...would she be there to see them grow up?would she want them, could she have them? would you be too old to get in to another relationship and have kids if this didn't work out 20 years from now? i don't want to be the wet blanket, love is wonderful but its hard enough under "normal" circumstances.

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I think it is not a good idea for you to go after her. It s possible that she has discovered the dangers or the risk in trying to date you and that is why she is trying to avoid you. A 20 year old is too young for a 40 year old woman.

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how eager are you acting around her ? and what is it that you like about her ? is it sexual or platonic ? and how does she like you as a friend or as a mate or as a boy toy - maybe your coming on too strong as like you want to marry her and maybe she is just thinking about playing - she is old enough to be your mother and vice i versa - you might ask her out to eat - have a bottle of wine and put it on the table and take it from there and if this dont work tell her about me

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Well, um just think about how she was probably in her first or second year of college when you were born. I don't think you should go after her. Ten year difference is one thing, but 20 year difference is a WHOOOOLE other thing. Also think about how she's twice your age...

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