2 years ago
Last edited at 6:09PM on 6/26/2011
no its not bad, that's life we change our views on things as we grow,and experience life, could you imagine if we all still thought and behaved as we did when we were 5 yrs, or 13 yrs, the world would be a very different place.
I agree with the posts on here. It's great you want him to cut back or even quit, for you, yalls relationship and most important your kid. All kids look up to their parents on how to act and live in life, you are their biggest role model. It's best all around for him to sober up so your kid doesn't have a drinking problem like daddy when he/she grows up.
no. that's good! i speak (or write) from experience...i drank hard for many years. i have not had a drop of alcohol for over 4 years. not a drop! because if i have one drink i am right back where i was! honest. in my case, and i speak only of me, i had to check myself into rehab and start my life over, so to speak. now i go to AA meetings for myself, and hopefully help others. i love it! i learned i can live totally without alcohol...just like i did befor age 13. i am now 57. my life now is fine, actually usually great! and when i do have a problem (and we all do at times!) i can deal with it with a clear mind (and heart)! i hope this helps. i will be looking for your responce, should i be needed for something more...
But if he had a drinking problem when you met him, and want him to stop now, it's not entirely fair. If you knew an alcoholic wouldn't make a good father, you probably shouldn't have made him a father until he wasn't an alcoholic any more.
No alcoholic has ever quit drinking because someone else told them to. Something in him is going to have to change in order to make him want to stop. You'd think a baby would be enough, but then you and I aren't alcoholics, so we don't really get it.
Pressuring him, nagging him, giving ultimatums isn't going to get you there. It's only going to cause more stress.
I would allow him to see the baby only when you're sure he won't be drinking (and that probably means you'll have to be there), and continue to offer support and encouragement to him to slow down.