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Why does my life just seem to get worse everyday? Please answer, you could be saving a 14yr old girls life if you do.

My mom threated me that she'll kick me out, I might go to the worst school in all of San Antonio, my crush's left & now the most trustworthy person I know won't talk to me anymore. I'm in tears right now. Why can't life be easier?:'(

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Hi, Honey. You're having a really rough time of it, I know. I'm here for you, Sarah, you know I am. Here's the thing: our lives are a bit like the ocean; there are high tides, when everything is going our way and all seems fine and good, but there are low tides, too, when everything just seems to turn to the nasty stuff--you know the stuff I mean. Right now, your tide is at a very low ebb. You had a fight with your Mom, and she's really upset with you--there's no more difficult relationship than that of mother and daughter. Particularly when you're a lot alike. Is that what you and your Mom are like? My older daughter and I have only in the last ten years or so, learned to get along without butting heads. I know you're scared, but I don't think your Mom would really kick you out. Try this: go to her and ask her if you two can just talk. Tell her you're sorry. Tell her about what's going on in your life, and how upset you've been, and ask her to help you. Tell her about how you get angry and you don't always know how to handle it safely. Maybe she will have some ideas to help you. And tell her--now, and always, and REGULARLY, that you love her and need her always. Because you do, don't you? One of the most important things you should do with ANYONE you love, is tell them so. You can't say it too much. I love you, Sarah. GrammaSu

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I've done so many bad things in the past that im still doing. My mom is sick of it & she even started crying. She's never cried. Only once & that was also my fault. But thanks:) I <3 you too
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Why not ask Mom if you could see a counselor or therapist. You may be able to work through a lot of those hard, angry feelings. A counselor can help you figure out where all that anger is coming from, and how to handle it in less destructive and negative ways. Anger can be like a drug. It feels really good when you build up a lot of anger and then blow your top. But when you wind up hurting the ones you love, it's not so good, is it? While you're trying to find out where the anger comes from, and even when it's justifiable anger, you need to figure out ways to "get rid of the mad" in a safe way that doesn't hurt anyone. I think I told you about when I first got cancer and my daughter, Felicity, said she was mad cuz I had cancer and she had to find some way to get rid of the mad. And we went to yard sales and bought up the ugly china and glassware that folks were selling for 10 or 25 cents. Then, when we needed it, we went out to the garage and smashed it--we wore safety goggles and long-sleeved shirts, BTW, to protect us. Or, we pounded on the sofa cushions, or bought some clay at Michael's and threw it at the big old tree in the yard, or we made bread. Yeah, we had a LOT of mad to get rid of, but this way, we didn't hurt anyone, and we dealt with anger is a safe, and kind of fun way. Worth a try?
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Yeah. Thanks <3 you
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Any better today? I hope so. Will you do me a favor? There's a boy that I'm keeping in my thoughts and prayers. Though he's 11, he looks 7 or 8. He's in hospital, doctors are trying to buy him a little time: if he doesn't get a new heart and liver, he will die. And it's horrible to think another child must die so he can live, I pray for healing for him, and comfort for his family. Can you keep him in your prayers, too? His name is Blake. But, in any case, as always, you are in my thoughts and prayers, too. Love you. GrammaSu.
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Of course I will. And today wasnt so great. But Yes I'll get over it, comparing to Blakes, its nothing. Love you too
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DaisyMartin

Sorry for whats happening, but things happen for a reason good or bad you need to try to have a good attitude and try to make the best of everything you have an education kids like you back then couldnt go to school, you have a life kids, back then died at a young age from sickness. The point is you might not have the best things in life but you should appreciate what for what you do have! and things always get better sooner or later

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I've been stuck here for a year now. I don't think its changing....
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well u never know
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I guess. Thanks
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welcome
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sweety, you're 14. Im 20. I've had a hell of a life so far and ive been through hell and back. Ive conquered mountains i would have never even thought possible. id love love love to talk to you. cause i know i could help you. but i don't wanna give out my info on here. go to stickam.com. I have an account there and i talk to people all the time there. my name on there is elizabethanne102010. hope to hear from you!

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Ok. I will
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Im 30....And I would do ANYTHING to go back to being 14. Don't take life for granted. Your mom won't kick you out. Be responsible for your actions. People come in go in life! It's those struggles that make us stronger. Nothing that life throws at you will break you. YOU are in control of your life...use it wisely. :) Trust me, It doesn't really get easier as you get older..there's just more bills, and responsibilities. Use this time as a time to learn!

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My mom will kick me out. But thanks
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It only seems that way for this moment . Tomorrow is a new day. Really your problems are fixable and being a teen comes with lots of hormones and emotions. Say a little prayer that you will be granted peace and you will get through your emotions. I too went through unthinkable times at age 15 but here I am today telling you it will all work out!!!

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to be honest, i would say because your attitude gets worse everyday. don't take life for granted, have a grateful heart. God does not make bad days, and you can start a new day anytime with an attitude of gratitude

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I wouldn't go back to my teen years for a million dollars. I had both good and bad times .being adult with my own say so is much better. just remember you will grow up, and you can do what you want then. all those people and things that seem so important now won't matter in the long run. hang on it will get better eventually. try to stay home if you can work it out with your mom if not try another relative. there are always other options than suicide. keep your chin up and look towards the future you wamt and make it happen.

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Well, the thing about the worst school, if your 14, you should be going to high school next year, so new school, you will meet new people and make new friends. I read in a comment you said you do bad things, Whatever it is you are doing, try to stop, even if it's really hard, and your mom will not kick you out since you stopped. The person you trusted, try to find out why they wont talk to you, whether you find out directly, or tell a friend to ask them. Hope everything works out ;)

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Little_Turtle

do not be sad and do not give up,we all go thru hard times,i did too,life is hard i know i understand,nobodys life is perfect,there will be better times for you too,dont worry please,ur only 14 u will overcome everything and ul be a happy girl.

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