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How can I forget a traumatizing event?

I'm 14... when I was in 6-10 years old I was bullied phisicly an mentally. ( definitely not anymore) how can I forget it all?

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I'm 15 and still get bullied. I usually try to ignore the people that do it but I know how mentally and emotionally frustrating it can be.
Whenever you find yourself thinking about the situation make yourself stop. Eventually you will stop thinking about it. Do the things that make you happy and stay with the people that make you smile. Good luck :)

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Excellent answer! :)
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I too was bullied as a child and those events have remained with me forever. I took up martial arts and worked out such that afterwards I was not picked on again. The funny thing is that bullies leave you alone when you fight back. They mainly pick on those they believe are weak.
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Excellent advice! Pretty wise from someone so young (I am 44!) and still haunted sometimes from childhood bullying. The point is not to hold onto those bad memories. Let them go like water flowing away with the current and turn your face to the positive things in your life. The good in your life is going to outshine the bad!
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In truth, it is almost impossible to forget traumatic events; they will always be in your subconscious. Talking to a psychiatrist has been known to help people cope with such events and is very effective, so you should talk to one.

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How we are treated can affect so many things about us. You might be helped if you could talk to someone like a therapist or counselor to help you understand and realize what the bullying did to you. Some people never get the help they need to overcome things and it can have some bad affects on you as a person and on the direction you take in life. Sometimes we avoid certain places or situations even tho those things are not still happening. Have you talked to your parents about this? A school counselor might be able to help you. Sometimes just talking to someone who understands helps a lot.

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I tride that and the school tried outing me in a mental clinic
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u just put it behind u and go on living. or u can call your doctor and ask for zoloft but then u may forget more than u wanted.

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What does not kill us makes us stronger! Do not try to forget, use it to develop yourself better than the others. The ones who had not that experience can not know what you know.If you are full with anger wait and get prepared to take a revenge, a good and smart revenge, a legally acceptable and a no crime one of course. Also help stopping bullying and violance among kids so younger ones do not live the terrible experience you had.

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That is the best advice I have
ever gotten. Thank you
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I'm not so sure you should go for revenge...
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The lingering effects of trauma we experience is mostly due to a powerful thing called FEAR. There's 2 things that assuredly combat fear; forgiveness & courage. Forgive those that bullied you. Doesn't mean you'd hang out with them, just means you no longer give them control over you. Courage comes to everybody differently, but the suggestion to help other kids being bullied is one way to obtain courage. Courage also comes when we no longer give the traumatic event power over us. The words "move on" seem cold, but they put the power back in your hands. Know too that where there's life, there's hope! Sincere wishes of good times ahead for you! :)

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Stop trying to forget. Make yourself a new life, new friends new hobbies. After some time you will feel good about everything and the memories will fade a bit.

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or you can see something even more traumatizing, and forget about the previous traumatizing moments, or you can jump, jump, jump, jump, jump

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VOODOO!!!
no not really you just have to fight fire with fire
go through something slightly less traumatizing and then go through something slightly less traumatizing then that, then that, then that, then that, then that, then that, until there is no trauma

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Take it from me. Time heals the wound. Therapy is a very bad choice. They make u remember things u wish to forget. My uncle killed my aunt and himself in front of me. It took me time to get over it.

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How on Earth did you get over it?
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thats awsome that you overcame that obstacle like that, cheers to you
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I didn't get over it. I just found a way to live with it.
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Youu Can't Sorry Im Telling Youu Straight

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Forgetting makes you weaker . You now know what you can survive and you learn from the events. People have endured far worse and come out alive. Review what happened, if you could have done something, you know for if it ever happens again. Being bullied is not a traumatic event. It is a series of events. Also, elementary school bullies are not half as bad as middle school/high school bullies. Life isn't meant to be a walk in the park. "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger."

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Not helpful. Poor advise. I would be willing to bet that you have never been on the receiving end of a bullying incident. If I don't know about a topic, I keep my comments to myself. That is my advise to you.
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have another tramitizing event. jk. tell someone about ur prob. it will help u in ur future.

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Get a doctor and pray for the thought to go away.

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u really cant do much. 1 way to help a little is when you remember getting bullied, just think of happy times with your family

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Get a cat. :) They're really calming.

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You can't. Just do your best to get over it. Those people are a-holes and don't matter.

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1. WATCH A SCARY MOVIE
2. SEE A OLD NAKED LADY
3. CONSOLING
4. MAKE TOOOOOOOOONS OF FRIENDS
5. GET A GIRLFRIEND
6 OR JUST MOVE ON
7. [ 1-5 JUST MEANS ANY OTHER TRAMITIZING EVENT]
8. PRAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Bullying is a group event. Usually one person initiates the attack, and many others stand-by and watch. In the witnesses silence is complicity and guilt. You may get over your trauma by simply witnessing someone else being bullied. Instead of standing silent, you might speak-out against this horrible violence.

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I'm the same age as you and I went through the same thing you did... I don't know how bad they traumatized you but there may be some things to help you stop thinking about it. You could try talk to someone you trust. It might sound bad but it helps a lot! You could also turn your attention to things like music, sports, arts, etc. I hope this helps you out at least a little bit.

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I'm 64 and still remember being bullied in high school. Speaking to someone about it helps. Also growing up and being all you can is the best revenge. Help someone you know is being bullied might help. I have come to understand that those bullying you have little self-esteem and take it out on those they think are weak or different. They believe you won't tell on them out of fear. Take the fear out of it and they have nothing to base their bullying on.

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hey im Lexi and i was always bullied inn middle school. people never knew that it effected me but it did. Everyday id go home and cry. i didnt really have anyone to comfort me. i felt like crap im not going to lie. but then at the end of the day i realized that it didnt matter about what they said, because at the end of day i new who i was, and they didnt matter anymore. i mean there just some a-hole in are life that we dont have to deal with. they mean nothing to you, theyre not going to be in Ur future so ignore them, itll irritate the hell out of them. Move on.. and if this doesnt work.. just hand around people whom like you for you, be around people who make you laugh and smile and if you want to forget it the the best thing to do is make the situation funny. like when they started to make fun of me and stuff id just laugh in their freaking face or tell to shut up. or you can walk away :)
hope this helps
remember your family, friends and god loves you and that all that matters

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I was bullied from a young age. I was also abused at home and in a private school. Because I didn't know how to deal with the emotional issues, the anger began to build. At 15, I began attacking bullies. At 20, I joined a motorcycle club (gang) and began fighting on a regular basis. 7 years later I woke up and realised that I had become the bully. Be careful of the fighting, it can lead down a very dangerous path. The traumatic events in life can never be completely forgotten, but with time, the pain subsides and you can look back on those events as another chapter in life.
I strongly agree with the advise of therapy. I go to a weekly meeting of a society of christian men who meet to discuss our issues and help each other work through them. At 30 years old, I am one of the younger guys in attendance. Most people wait until later in life to address the issues. If I had begun dealing with my issues at your age, I believe that my life would be in a completely different place.
Thanks for reading my rambling, hope it helps.
Pete

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The best thing to do is talk to someone about it,sometimes it's not easy to express your feelings but it helps. You might want to tell yourself that, that chapter in your life is over and that it's not happening in your life no longer & your not going to let that jerk get the best of you any longer. You can try to keep your mind off of it bye doing things you enjoy and make you happy or make you feel good about yourself.

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You cant really. i know how u feel. in 3rd grade 4 me, (4 years ago) this boy ws bigger than me, and older then me beat me up. i never forgot about it. u cant 4get the past. but u can embrace the future.
<3Em

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Awe guys are idiots sometimes
Its probably ca's he couldn't beat up boys his age (hes a wimp)
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