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Why did my dad do this?

i have worked so hard to lose weight and i have finally lost 15 pounds. today, i asked my dad if he has noticed anything different about me and he told me that i "got a little chunkier.... have you been eating a lot?". i felt so bad. i weigh 109. he almost made me cry. he hasnt even noticed yet. we have a great relationship, we stick together all the time. but... ugh.

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Tell him he hurt your feelings and that you had been working really hard to lose weight and did lose 15 pounds.

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Maybe he was kidding.........? but maybe since he see's you everyday he doesn't notice.

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It's nothing to be upset about. He could've been joking around.

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why would you even care? you are on the right way, keep it up(y)

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I'm so sorry that happened. You've worked hard and you should be very, very proud of yourself. I'm a grown woman and it's taken me many years to learn to say the kind words from myself that I wish my dad would say. Chin up, be proud and love yourself.

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Men are historically dense about such things...I wouldnt let it bother you...Just be proud of yourself and soon the compliments will be rolling in from others to validate your hard work

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He really didn't mean to hurt your feelings, it's just that noticing weight loss is usually not high on a dad's list of priorities.

Dad's tend to see the overall picture and not always details because they are so busy trying to work and support their family.

If you want to know if your dad has noticed your weight loss, you might need to que him in advance you are dieting and then later say, "Hey dad, I have lost 15 pounds on my diet, what do you think?"

He may still not notice, but this does mean he doesn't love you, just that you and your dad see the world through different eyes.

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Don't listen to him sweetie :) how old are u? 109 may be under weight

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If ur relationship is as u say then talk to your dad let him know how u feel he should understand. An does he joke alot? Talk to him.

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