when my parents got divorced, it tore me apart because i wasnt allowed to see my dad anymore. and just all the stress on my mom made my sister and my lives terrible. it's something children need to experience anyway not till they are at least 15
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My parents are divorced. It's not them not living together anymore that hurts, it's hearing them trying to make sure the world knows how bad of a person the other is. Never knowing which one's side to choose. Luckily, my mother and father shared everything, the reason for their divorce, what'll happen on birthdays/christmas etc, with us. So if the parents are completely open and honest, not letting the kid feel left out, it doesn't affect them as much as it'll do when the parents are only concerned about their own feelings/concerns. (I'm 16 by the way.)
My parents divorced when I was three - saw dad every other weekend. I used to LOVE having fun at both families. Holidays were wonderful. I feel like the divorce gave me more life experience. The only down fall is when my mother spoke badly about my dad - I didn't see the defect my mom was bashing my dad about- I just wondered why she was being nasty
i love that my parents are divorced. They divorced before i was old enough to understand what was going on (about 4), but i loved having two different homes and families. When my mum divorced her second husband i was ten, and they had been together since i was six. It made me hate him to know that he hurt my mum, buy other than that, it didn't really effect me. Both my parents are honest, loving people and completely different people at that. I have always loved the two different styles of how they raised me and i think i am a better person for living in that situation because i am very accepting of things. It really does depend on your age and relationship with each parent. Just remember, both of them love you and it wasn't your fault they are getting divorced. :)
when my parents split i felt it was all my fault. and still till today i still think it was. they split when i was a baby and it still affects me. i wasnt aloud seeing my dad for a really long time but now i have a choice so divorce affects really badly on the child
I didn't feel it was my fault, I just felt depressed that my family could never be the same. The divorce caused my brother and I to misbehave and get into lots of trouble over the years. But we eventually got used to it but know that I'm older I'm scared about doing that same thing to my kids because I'd never want them going through the same devistation.
Divorce is hard on kids, there's no sugar-coating it. But kids are remarkably resilient and able to adapt. My parents split when I was 6. They were very clear with my brother and I that the divorce was not our fault so we at least didn't have that to contend with. I still saw my dad on weekends which was very important to me. Still, it's not the same thing as having both your parents available every day. I feel a little sad that I lost that growing up and hope my own kids will one day realize how blessed they are just to have mom and dad living under one roof and being able to see both of us every day.
It depends how the divorce is handled, and if the personality of the child, my parents have been divorced for seven years, when my dd told me why he divorced my mom, I started to realize that things happen for a reason, at first I was a little upset, then it hit me that my life has been so much more better knowing both of my parents are happier this way, and if you get a divorce, never hide the truth, you will be appreciated more by your child if you don't lie, or talk about the other in a bad way, that's also a no no
It kills his childhood. Mental retardation, some even become cancer for the society. notorious, criminals, drugpeddalers, law breakers. Over all development is retarded and kids feel lonely and yes they are out of control for the society.
Well, I think we can all agree that divorce definitely affects kids. But, determining how much is probably individual to each situation. However, perhaps these statistics and studies I came across in an article at http://bit.ly/K9CcDI while at Focus on the Family will give you some food for thought. This booklet at http://bit.ly/IBzUt3 might also be helpful. So, just some material to look over if you have a sec. Hope it helps!
Divorce does affect the children in many ways. Staying together will not be any better for the children if you and the other parent can't get along. It is very difficult to know how the children are being affected unless you direct your focus away from what is going on between you and the other parent and direct your energy toward your children. Directing your energy toward your children will allow you the opportunity to identify how the children are being affected so that you can address the issues and get them back on track. Reducing the conflict between you and the other parent will reduce any affects on the children. In other words how much conflict exists between the parents will determine the affects on the children of divorce. Children can learn to accept and deal with parent separations, what they can not accept and deal with is the conflict between their parents. Best process to keep the conflict out of a divorce is to settle disputes through mediation for the health of the children and parents.
My parents divorced when I was 10. I begged God to bring him back for years. I hated the situation. Once I was an adult I realized due to the abuse going on that my mom did the best thing by getting us all away from him.
It depends on the child. My parents split up and it didn't effect me that much. My parents didn't live far apart so we switched off every week. I don't really remember the begin of the whole divorce issue because it was when I was in first grade. For me it wasn't all that bad it just took some getting use to.