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My parents want me to move out, but I am 16 and still looking for a job, what do I do?

Hi. I'm 16 right now and I am planning on getting my GED but my parents do not want to sign me out of school, they would rather me get emancipated and move out. But I'm still looking for a job and even if I do find one i doubt it is going to pay enough to afford a lawyer and rent plus i probably won't be able to rent an apartment because I am a minor, so I am most likely going to move in with a family member or my boyfriend. I don't know what to do.. all I know is I want to drop out so then i can attend middlesex county community college and then transfer to Rutgers. I've already talked to many people, including college professors about getting the GED and they all said I will be fine so I'm not worried about that. I'm just worried about what i can do about my living conditions. please help?

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The best thing to do is have a talk with your parents, and letting them know that you are not yet ready to move out. Ensure that you explain to them all your reasons so that they can understand you, and also you should be open with them.

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i try to talk to them all the time but they dont listen at all
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ask them to reserve a hotel room & you can pay the weekly rent with a job at UPS or something

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thats actually not a bad idea
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Wow Dancer! This sounds odd. How much of the story was left out, because the reasons they want you out, you want out, weren't stated. It seems you are headed in a great direction continuing with school, however knowing so little about you, I would suggest continuing in HS until graduation, then find that family member or friend you mentioned. If that's not possible see if you can move in now, graduate.
Try talking to the school advisors, they can help, or to friends and relatives asap so you can make a smooth transition without interrupting your education. Good luck! ( the boyfriend thing might not be the best choice)

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they want me out because they think im a fuck up and a horrible person because i want to get my GED. in reality, its really not bad at all. we have a horrible relationship, we have since i was in 6th grade. (im in 10th now)
i want to get my ged because honestly my school doesnt teach, we dont learn anything. all we do is pointless work (when we actually do work) and they treat us students like we are not even human. its horrible. they literally do things that are borderline illegal and get away with it. i hate that im wasting 6 hours and 50 minutes a day when i could be home or at work doing more productive things that will benefit my future, i just dont want to sit there wasting my time snior year when im 17 knowing that i could be in mcc starting my degree. its so depressing. the school advisors are all liars and they dont care about anything i have to say, ive tried so many times. most of my relatives pretty much hate me now because they are on my parents side. thats why i was considering living with my boyfriend because ive been bestfriends with him for years and his parents pretty much look at me as part of their family. him and his family are like the only things that make me happy lately. and thank you for your advice :)
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THANK you for explaining !! Normally I would stand by my answer but after hearing your story it's makes sense. The only red flag I can see on paper is it's really unusual that all your contacts( school, teachers, family) are that bad. Sometimes we don't realize it's not them, it's US. What's the common denominator here? You!
Ok, so let's say EVERYONE is a jerk. It sounds like the BF and family is the way to go. Can you attend a different HS?
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no problem lol and yes you are totally right this country is just ridiculous. between the government and the economy and all the idiots out there, you really dont know what to expect now a days. and yes i could just go to edison high, but its waayy worse then my school so that wouldnt really benefit me in any way. id rather just get my GED and go to middlesex and then transfer to either rutgers or kean and get my masters, or maybe even my doctorate. im not exactly sure on what i want to major in yet but i have a few ideas and more than enough time to decide, i just turned 16 last month. so i have about a year to really think about all of this. but there is just no way i can tolerate the incredible amount of disrespect from people who are supposedly "professionals" and the lack of education im getting from a "school". there are so many things wrong with the public education system its unbelievable.
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Ummmmk, I'm agreeing with all of the above here. You should really talk to your parents cause at 16, kids are not ready to move out, cause that's what we are: kids. Especally (and no, I'm not trying to be sexist or anything but) girls are not properly equipped to face the world at such a young age. My suggestion is to finish high school, (you can get your GED now if you want and continue with HS. You can use the GED as a backup plan just in case) and then go onto college, moving into an apartment then. The GED isn't hard at all. I got mine in freshman year and

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I passed with flying colors. However, moving in with the boyfriend or family of him isn't the best idea becasue as much as you believe you love him right now, things may not work out and you don't want to be left out in the cold if you guys break up. And you especially don't want him to only stay together with you cause he doesn't want to kick you out with no place to go: that would be pity dating and worse than if you weren't together at all. Lastly, do whats right. Really think about it (pray about it if you are the praying type) and try to do what's right. You don't want a major decision like this to ruin anything later on. Good luck!
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ive tried talking to them and they dont care about what i have to say. and i understand what you mean about the whole boyfriend thing, i was only considering it because ive been bestfriends with him for years and his family basically looks at me as part of the family, and it would only be a temporary thing until i figure out other options. he actually got his GED a couple weeks ago and he did really well too. did you actually drop out? or did you finish highschool? and thanks for the advice
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No problem, and no, I didn't drop out. I am hoeschooled. I still do high school stuff and will continu till I graduate for real in 2ish years. I only took it to prove I could (lol the Irish side of me coming out;) and to be able to attend Community college younger than 16. Yeha, figure something out other than the boyfriend thing and try as hard as you can to figure things out with your parents. Trust me, I know how you are feeling: I don't get along with my family at all and I understand you may want to get out, whatever. But, don't burn bridges. Make sure you leave in good graces. You wil need your family later, whether you think you will or not. That's my biggest piece of advice: Don't burn bridges.
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thank you, that really helped a lot.
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You do realize that most Community Colleges offer high school students college credit at little or no cost?
You are planning to pay rent, utilities, the cost of getting your GED, the cost of emancipation (if it is even possible in your locale), tuition, books, food,...

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Ive looked into to those programs and apparently my high school doesnt do it or something. i dont know i have to look in to it more. and i know its a lot to afford and i probably wont be able to afford it but at this point i might not have a choice but to try.
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Why do they want you to move out? You're still a minor, so they can't kick you out. Try calling social services and tell them your situation. Maybe they can put you in foster care.

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read the above comments that i posted ^^ and thats exactly what i DON"T want to do. that would be horrible
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Sorry. I thought I had read them all.
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no problem
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Yes, I agree .. there definitely some details missing from this story. Parents don't JUST want a child of 16 to move out for no reason .. further to become 'emancipated". Sorry, I just don't buy it.

Sounds to me like you are defiantly wanting to do it YOUR own way but still want them to support you financially ... which is not, in their opinion the the way they can endorse.

You are stuck somewhere between being a child and an adult .. You are not quite a child, and shouldn't necessarily be treated like one .. but .. you are also not an adult who can make her own decisions about your primary education .. Parental control is still needed (both legally and morally). They may threatened to let you leave if you don't want to do it their way, because you have come to an impasse.

I have a hard time to believe that they want nothing less than the best for you. I could be wrong but, I wonder if you have pushed them into a corner by insisting you want it YOUR way or no way at all. It pains me to think you have turned their concern for your well being and your future into something that it is not.

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reasons are above^^ and there are many more. i just want to get my GED, other than that im not doing anything wrong. i mean we fight all the time, but what family doesnt? i told them id get a job and pay them rent if they wanted, but in order to get my GED they would rather sign my custody over to the state and i dont want that at all, thats where the emancipation comes in to play
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True all families have their challenges .. comes with the territory especially when dealling with a young adult who is trying to 'grow up' and over throw the government (even it's just within a household). That's perfectly normal.

I guess, I don't understand their motive as to why they wouldn't support your wanting to get at least your high school education. That's where ya lose me. Is it because they want you to stay in high school .. and get your diploma .. as opposed to just a GED? Etiher way .. I commend you on wanting to at least get that in order to proceed into the work force. Although, as a parent, I would want you to stay in school too. I much rather see you achieve your GED than to drop out completely.
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their way of thinking is almost insane lol. it blows my mind. but im trying really hard to talk to them about all of this in a mature civilized way; but they just dont want to listen at all
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