Hey funnybunnytrio. I work with Focus, and this is a question that a lot of people ask. Here's a couple of articles that might give you some insight: http://bit.ly/LdTyKP and http://bit.ly/J67S9k. There's also a pretty interesting book that Joshua Harris wrote about courtship called I Kissed Dating Goodbye (http://bit.ly/Mrpd10) that talks about his own experience with it.
Courtship is basically the first step towards marriage. This is a point where the two of you establish commitments regarding your relationship. It is usually the man who initiates the courtship process. Check out ati.iblp.org/ati/supportlink/kb/questions/12/ for more information.