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Which is more important...Being with someone you love, or moving to a major city for your career without them?

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Only you can answer that. You have to decide which is more important at this time in your life.

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Do you think you can be happier without this person or without the job?

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Idk...i want both..
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Any way he can move, too? How long have you been together? How old are you?
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you should probably take the job because you can meet up with that person later in life.

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Jgirl123

...If you Absolutely Know that your are Talented enough to be a Career-Type; You should Go For It. They can Always Catch-Up with you Later and Join you.They have to Learn that Your Life is Important,Too.You Matter, You Count.It's your Day In The Sun, and those Days are Very Limited,let me Tell you.Why be Old With Regrets...and tending to Blame someone else,for your,"Missing Out". Go.> Go>GO!!! Westie.

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Well, it depends...I guess you could take the moral of the movie "A View From the Top". A girl falls in love with a guy, then chooses her career over staying with him and then regrets it in the end. She goes to him at the end and says she wants to stay with him in Cleveland (despite the fact that she left him in Cleveland, because she thought it was career-suicide) and he asks her how she could be happy in Cleveland. She says "Cause you're in Cleveland", they kiss, happy ending...so the moral of the story is that going away doesn't make any sense if you don't have that someone to come home to...following your head instead of your heart will ultimately leave you feeling empty emotionally.

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On the other end of the spectrum, if you have an out of state opportunity to really make something of yourself, would you really be happy working at McDonald's instead just to stay close to a guy? And what happens if you stay, the out of state opportunity passes you by and then the relationship fails? You'd literally be left with nothing...

So as I said, it depends...is the relationship and love strong enough to give up a personal dream? And if you get everything you want, would you regret leaving him?
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you should just do both if you can

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That is an individual choice, there's no right or wrong answer to the ?. For many folks today career comes first, & nothing can or will stand in the way of achieving the goals they've set. With the divorce rate sky high, & the likelihood of divorce almost a given, it makes sense to be self sufficient. In the past women didn't have any choice but to stay married, to leave cost $. "Love" is easier to find than a career paying good $. The other side of the coin holds the romantic ideas about love. We all want to find that 1 special person to grow old with, & the job is not their main priority. Love conquers all sounds nice but is it true--only you can answer that?

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Very good points!! What I'd like to know is if the guy could go with her?? Or is he choosing his career over her??
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It depends on the job.If neither can relocate & they choose the job--the career is 1st. If he can but won't- the career, I think most people today will choose a career over a love, but love over a job
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Very true...I'm in Ohio and my husband is in Maryland right now...we made the decision to do that for our careers (but now think we were nuts!!). It's only been a few months and we are both going crazy with the long distance and extra expenses in travel back and forth. Plus, we have a daughter, which makes things even harder. It feels like a separation and neither of us likes it...we didn't think that we would, but it's worse than we thought. The one good thing is that it has kept the lines of communication more open than when we were living together and has, in turn, made our relationship stronger. It's not total lose-lose, but it does suck.
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Take that person with u! If u can

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Why are you making the only location decision? What is the reason he can't move with you. Money is huge reason must couples split, combined with regretting missed opportunity, it could be a disaster. It take's a certain kind of person not to become resentful. Can you go and try it out? The fact that you are asking says you don't have strong enough feelings to stay. Good luck.

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Go with your career and if this so called person loves you, he will follow you. Thats if you want him to?

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