Sometimes people use threats of suicide as a way to manipulate others. Also when someone is breaking up with a person that person may feel rejected and hopeless. If she is cutting herself she has a real problem and needs help from someone other than you. If she does something to herself it's not your fault. It may be best for both of you to stop all contact. Don't go back and forth. also tonifitch gave you a good answer.
Dang, suicidle/ about it! that's not good, You are in deep water there buddy
"i just cant deal wit a relationship right now we need a break. just trust me it will be ok." then give her a hug
Stop all contact...seriously. I know you're young, but think about the future. Would you want someone like that raising your children with you?
I take it this is the stressful situation you were speaking of earlier? Honestly, you can't save everyone, and it is not your responsibility to do so. You made your point clear as day to her before. Let her know that you are glad she is doing better, but that you have already moved on and found someone new. Tell her that you are sorry and that you hope that eventually she can forgive you and that you hope she finds the right person for her.
U have to do what u have to do:( u can't always make other people happy it'll just make u unhappy. Leave it in gods hands , shell be fine:)
Sounds like you're stressed that your ex may commit suicide if you break up with her. Know in your heart that if she does it's her decision, not yours. The guilt will be with her, not you. If you know anyone in her family you might explain that you're breaking up with her so they can monitor her a little closer. You are not the cause of any action she may take. The responsibility remains with her, not you. Get grounded about this. I hope this removes a little stress for you.
You do not have to be with someone who you're scared to be with because anything could set her off. It sounds like she knows exactly what buttons to press on you to bring out this anxiety & fear. You deserve better. Don't keep dreading to tell her because the stress is going to keep going.
you tell her that she is emotional unstable and you cannot help her she has to help herself you have moved on and say Sorry - tell her when and if she gets a grip well then she can try to get hold of you ---- you cannot let her or anyone else drag you down -- i guess this emo /cutting crap is like a drug -- crazy --- and if this being the case then they are addicts and for you to cater and or coddle them you are enabling them and are a enabler --- they think it is cool and fashionable to be emo <emotional > and to be a cutter <crazy > the Bible says to let the dead visit the dead and he was not talking about the demise ....
i personally think that the easiest way to break up with a boy since i have gone through lots of them is to write a positive note saying something like roses are red voilets are blue hwpo do you like cause i don't like you.
you need to set her up on a blind date with someone
move out of the country or change your email address. just let her down easy or she will keep cutting
is she getting professional help ? maybe you could use some too, to help you deal with this.
my heart goes out to you !
just make sure your there in person when you say it. I agree with bchris
We don't know the person or you, so we can only give advice as we hear it.
First, your ex is unstable, that is not your fault, She really needs to seek professional help.
I don't understand what the parents are doing about this, but parents are the ones to be guiding and helping this girl.
You gave her a choice, she did not like what you said thus. you saw what she did.
You are not a puppet, I admire you for wanting to help, but it is not your responsible or your right to control her..she wants to control you however.
I f you want to help, tell her parents this story or call the local hotline for suicidal people...or call 911 and they will give you numbers. Pass the numbers on to her parents..That is how you can help. She needs to change...it will be hard for her, but it is either that or an unhappy life..how long it will be is up to her.
Live your life, be nice if she calls but tell her cutting is not your style in a relationship and you wish she finds happiness for herself...and that you have moved on.
ty robert..
I hope your brother didn't give her your e-mail. If she still doesn't have your email or other contact info, don't contact her and tell your brother to ignore her emails as well. if she does have your email, then both you and your brother should block her emails or consign them to spam.
You can't 'fix' what's wrong with her. Suicidal actions at a breakup are a manipulation tool for the severely disturbed and desperate. If you want nothing more to do with her, then you should NOT contact or communicate with her. Geeze, what a nightmare.. Move on. Don't get caught up in this mess any further. It could create some huge problems later. Oh, and tell the little brother that she is using him to get to you...and it wouldn't be wise to respond to her either.
She'll be ok, you don't need this drama so early in life. Just lose contact with her, change all emails, ect. Good luck!
just tell her that you tried to help her but she is being an unhelpable person. Meaning YOU are unable to help her any further! And definitely TELL the PARENTS about this behavior. Its always important to tell someone about this kind of behavior.Let her know that you will always be there for her if she needs a friend. Also, let her know that she's not alone in this world or that she's not alone with getting heart broken. Everyone that has had a boyfriend/girlfriend has gone through heartbreak by their partner! I have a friend who has wanted to attempt suicide but I told her parents and she stopped the behavior for a while then started again! But I have stuck by her side with it all and love her through it all as best as possible! Comment if this was helpful! Good luck honey!
Dont you think she might be worth a second chance?
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Something seems very wrong..from both sides..
We are helping him but he keeps coming back with what she has done instead of saying..I will listen to you all and inform the parents, the local hotline, or any professionals.
LadySman...you can't change her..SHE NEEDS HELP DEAR..
Read up about depression, anxiety , bipolar etc..I am sure you will have a better idea of why she is acting the way she is. Now that i know she is under care, her family is trying. it can be as hard for everyone around an unstable person, but it is one illness that can't be treated by an operation..God's strength and willpower, along with proper meds can help many..tho not all...
This illness is in my family.it can be inherited also. Hope this helps you.