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let me describe my situation my ex shes emo and she cut herself and was in the hospital for 3 weeks for cutting a vain i told her either she stops cutting herself or we brake up she said she never wants to talk to me again i met a girl online i like her and she likes me two and i moved on so then a couple days ago my ex emails my little brother tryin to talk to me sayin she lost me email saying she sorry and she stoped and when shes gonna see me again and i guess i have to break up with her whats the easyiest way to let her down by the way she tends to be a lil suicidle when broken up with uh im so stressed

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Sometimes people use threats of suicide as a way to manipulate others. Also when someone is breaking up with a person that person may feel rejected and hopeless. If she is cutting herself she has a real problem and needs help from someone other than you. If she does something to herself it's not your fault. It may be best for both of you to stop all contact. Don't go back and forth. also tonifitch gave you a good answer.

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she was caught in the middle of hanging herself one time for her last bf
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no one told me she was suicidal til after i asked her out and shes a cool girl just takes break ups really bad
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hi robert..i am wondering now..Why would this young man not warn her parents..
Something seems very wrong..from both sides..
We are helping him but he keeps coming back with what she has done instead of saying..I will listen to you all and inform the parents, the local hotline, or any professionals.
LadySman...you can't change her..SHE NEEDS HELP DEAR..
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her parents know shes seeing a therapist she just crazy.
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I read where you said she is getting help..it is important that her doctor knows what is going on now..ok?good luck
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ladysman..she. like many other people have a chemical imbalance. crazy is an unkind word because people do not understand mental illness. maybe she needs stronger meds to balance her chemistry, tho it is such a hard illness to treat.
Read up about depression, anxiety , bipolar etc..I am sure you will have a better idea of why she is acting the way she is. Now that i know she is under care, her family is trying. it can be as hard for everyone around an unstable person, but it is one illness that can't be treated by an operation..God's strength and willpower, along with proper meds can help many..tho not all...
This illness is in my family.it can be inherited also. Hope this helps you.
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Dang, suicidle/ about it! that's not good, You are in deep water there buddy

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so no help
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"i just cant deal wit a relationship right now we need a break. just trust me it will be ok." then give her a hug

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dont know
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Stop all contact...seriously. I know you're young, but think about the future. Would you want someone like that raising your children with you?

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no im breaking up with her but i dont want her to kill herself over it even if i have to sit next to her every day and whatch her to make sure she doesnt hurt herself
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You're a good friend
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well i still think shes a cool chick and like her but i moved on
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I take it this is the stressful situation you were speaking of earlier? Honestly, you can't save everyone, and it is not your responsibility to do so. You made your point clear as day to her before. Let her know that you are glad she is doing better, but that you have already moved on and found someone new. Tell her that you are sorry and that you hope that eventually she can forgive you and that you hope she finds the right person for her.

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Excellent advice.. Green!
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that sounds good im just afraid she will end it all because of me
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I second the excellent advice.....more green
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U have to do what u have to do:( u can't always make other people happy it'll just make u unhappy. Leave it in gods hands , shell be fine:)

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im not sure i just dont want her to die over it
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My emo friend is like that shes a girl and she says she wood never kill herself over a breakup...maybe it's for the best
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still im worried about her tho theres no tellin what shell do.
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Sounds like you're stressed that your ex may commit suicide if you break up with her. Know in your heart that if she does it's her decision, not yours. The guilt will be with her, not you. If you know anyone in her family you might explain that you're breaking up with her so they can monitor her a little closer. You are not the cause of any action she may take. The responsibility remains with her, not you. Get grounded about this. I hope this removes a little stress for you.

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thanx for the input im just afraid because her life does lie on my decision most likely every bf she ever had her dad said she tryed to kill herself so if i say lets break up how do i know shes not gonna grab a knife as soon as i leave
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I want you to understand that whatever she does is not your responsibility and you have no reason to feel guilt. We all have free will. Her Dad should tell you the same thing. Talk to her Dad about the breakup so he can monitor her closely.
You do not have to be with someone who you're scared to be with because anything could set her off. It sounds like she knows exactly what buttons to press on you to bring out this anxiety & fear. You deserve better. Don't keep dreading to tell her because the stress is going to keep going.
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you tell her that she is emotional unstable and you cannot help her she has to help herself you have moved on and say Sorry - tell her when and if she gets a grip well then she can try to get hold of you ---- you cannot let her or anyone else drag you down -- i guess this emo /cutting crap is like a drug -- crazy --- and if this being the case then they are addicts and for you to cater and or coddle them you are enabling them and are a enabler --- they think it is cool and fashionable to be emo <emotional > and to be a cutter <crazy > the Bible says to let the dead visit the dead and he was not talking about the demise ....

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im just worried about her theres no tellin what she will do.
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this is understandable and sad but you will run into a lot of sad people living sad lives and you will find out that most of them want to live like they live and a lot are not happy unless their creating <>k oss ? and as sad as it is instead of them killing you over worry and disrupting your life you have to turn your back and live your own live and let them live theirs and wallow in self pity and hit the low they want to hit and when they get tired of it <if they ever do > then they will come out of their own personal gutter .... and no time any sooner .......
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i personally think that the easiest way to break up with a boy since i have gone through lots of them is to write a positive note saying something like roses are red voilets are blue hwpo do you like cause i don't like you.

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im a guy and am breaking up with suicidal girl
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you need to set her up on a blind date with someone

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my friends are'nt crazy enough to go out with her
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Do it as a joke.. If u think it's not that mean if that's the only way to get rid of her
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move out of the country or change your email address. just let her down easy or she will keep cutting

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she know all my friends she know my brothers email know where i live and she suicidal.
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is she getting professional help ? maybe you could use some too, to help you deal with this.
my heart goes out to you !

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shes seeing therapist
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just make sure your there in person when you say it. I agree with bchris

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We don't know the person or you, so we can only give advice as we hear it.

First, your ex is unstable, that is not your fault, She really needs to seek professional help.
I don't understand what the parents are doing about this, but parents are the ones to be guiding and helping this girl.

You gave her a choice, she did not like what you said thus. you saw what she did.
You are not a puppet, I admire you for wanting to help, but it is not your responsible or your right to control her..she wants to control you however.

I f you want to help, tell her parents this story or call the local hotline for suicidal people...or call 911 and they will give you numbers. Pass the numbers on to her parents..That is how you can help. She needs to change...it will be hard for her, but it is either that or an unhappy life..how long it will be is up to her.

Live your life, be nice if she calls but tell her cutting is not your style in a relationship and you wish she finds happiness for herself...and that you have moved on.

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you're welcome man...it's not you..she needs reall help..tell the school nurse or call 911..her parents...ANYONE..
ty robert..
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I hope your brother didn't give her your e-mail. If she still doesn't have your email or other contact info, don't contact her and tell your brother to ignore her emails as well. if she does have your email, then both you and your brother should block her emails or consign them to spam.

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she has both emails and ill break up with her tonight im just lookin for more advise how to do it i hope she dont kill herself thou
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better let her parents know so they can guide her..It is their responsiblity..
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You can't 'fix' what's wrong with her. Suicidal actions at a breakup are a manipulation tool for the severely disturbed and desperate. If you want nothing more to do with her, then you should NOT contact or communicate with her. Geeze, what a nightmare.. Move on. Don't get caught up in this mess any further. It could create some huge problems later. Oh, and tell the little brother that she is using him to get to you...and it wouldn't be wise to respond to her either.

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he knows he stays clear of her but i just dont think she could handle it im going to call her brother and let him deal with her for a while
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She'll be ok, you don't need this drama so early in life. Just lose contact with her, change all emails, ect. Good luck!

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just tell her that you tried to help her but she is being an unhelpable person. Meaning YOU are unable to help her any further! And definitely TELL the PARENTS about this behavior. Its always important to tell someone about this kind of behavior.Let her know that you will always be there for her if she needs a friend. Also, let her know that she's not alone in this world or that she's not alone with getting heart broken. Everyone that has had a boyfriend/girlfriend has gone through heartbreak by their partner! I have a friend who has wanted to attempt suicide but I told her parents and she stopped the behavior for a while then started again! But I have stuck by her side with it all and love her through it all as best as possible! Comment if this was helpful! Good luck honey!

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ya but her parents know shes seeing a therapist i just dont want to see her get hurt
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thanx for the input
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no problem!! I have to deal with that everyday!!
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Dont you think she might be worth a second chance?

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not if im already with someone else
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tell her you have moved on and for her to jump or cut if shs going to shes not your problem anymore
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say ur gay

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