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How do i get my dad to shut up?

my dad keeps running his mouth about my job and keeps blaming me about my hours i have nothing to do with the stupid hours and he keeps thinking i dont im not telling the stupid boss to give me crappy hours it's the stupid corporate people or whoever they r they tells the manager how to make the schedule. i am fixing to drag his sorry butt down to my job and have them explain it all to him because he doesnt seem to get that times have freaking changed so he needs to leave me the heck alone about crap that aint his business and im 23 yrs old u'd think he needs to let me and my brother handle things on our own now. how in the heck can i get him to shut up? i am fixing to lose it because everyone just keeps stressing me out i am fed up with it

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hi girlgi..sorry you are having disputes with your dad.A couple of things.Parents can be too involved at times but they are your parents and you should respect them. Try a little harder.
About your job.It is good to see you are trying to please both you dad and your boss but you don't need to be stressed and moving out of the house would make a world of difference for you.
If you could find a friend or your brothers to share the rent, you thus can be on your own ,and focus on your job.Good luck

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Are you always so nice? If yes,then that's great.
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I try to be ,but I am guilty of losing it with the Casey Anthony verdict lol..Ok , not going there...Have a good day..
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and i found another person who understands what i was saying unlike all the other people on here thanks for ur help and advice tonifitch greatly appreciated im glad u werent mean and insulting like the others were thanks again to u and the others for actually understanding me unlike these others that was rude and mean when i didnt deserve it or didnt do crap to them
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girl..you are welcome..I should tell you, most people on here seem to be kids and kids say dumb things as well they can be very nasty, Isn't that sad.? People and kids need more compassion in this world. God is judging . ..I don't think HE is happy with us.
I hope you and dad can sit and talk , at least to respect one another, I think he is trying to protect you because he has been through a lot of nasty stuff in life.. but it would be good if you could be on your own if you can afford it. Change is hard I know..Try and be patient and pray for guidance dear. I wish you the best.
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thanks. yeah i know they do say dumb things they should make it where teenagers and adults can answer these questions instead of kids when they dont know what they r talking about
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The best way is to try and talk with him personally about the issue in a more friendly and compassionate manner. If this doesn't make any meaning to him, ask him for a walk or an outing. Discuss the issue with him conclusively and you can also involve some of your closest family friends.

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are you still living with him, and if you do then do you help with the bills?

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yes i help pay the bills, i helped pay for our gym bill which has my name on it which my dad didnt tell me he was going to put my name on the mailing pay bill
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How about rent, utilities, food, etc?
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yes i told u i do pay for alot of that stuff too
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Say "Ya Dad , you are right!" Just agree with him and he'll shut up. :) Then go get yourself a cold one!!

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tell ur dad sorry but i have to work i have to get paid or elese how will i live this not ur bisness its s=mine so stop and go into ur room

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Move out.

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do u know about everything thats going on in this world? because right now times r very tough now and my dad is so nosy about everything i want to do, i cant even talk to friends from out of town without him or someone following me that happened one time when i went for a walk to get away from crap and i called my friend and know who followed my brother
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Times are tough for everyone so grow up and move out. If you can't then you shut it. It's not your house.
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Be thankful your dad is here to talk to!!!

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try living with my dad he's becoming a pain he thinks everything is still the same back in his day when everything is totally different now
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No he doesn't. He's just tired of a daughter who is disrespectful, whinner, who keeps taking when she should be taking care of herself.
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and i dont take stuff ok i give stuff i help them with pretty much everything i help pay for all the bills i buy the food too. so i dont take nothing ok ever since i've had this job i've been helping paying all of our bills so thats giving not taking so u cant really say i've been taking when i havent been taking anything from them period never have and never will im not selfish like other people when we go out know who pays for the gas and food me not taking its called giving ok if i told u that i pay for the bills all of that is giving
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Well then put you big girl, age 23 pants on and move out. Pay your own everything.

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yeah it's not that easy at this time since i do have to help pay for some of these stupid bills and other crap thats going on here
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Well some of us just do it on our own. If you have to be in your Dads house get over it. Stop creating bills abdcget them paid off.
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Sorry. and get,,,,,,,
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im not creating any bills or any other bull crap i am helping them with the best i freaking can here like i told u it's not easy ok and if i could have i would've been out of this house by now if i could we r having lots of problems with this house and things getting raised on it so yeah it's not easy at all and have u noticed how prices have gone high this year so do u really think i would be here still? heck no i'd been gone ok and im not someone who would abandon their family and leave them when they could lose this house so i stayed ok i care about my family to stay with them cause thats what a good person does in this serious time of need
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Geeez stop whinning! You sound like THE most ungrateful person. Believe it or not, it's not just all about you. Yeah, you think di.
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1st of all,if you want respect,treat your dad respect. 2nd, you say you're all about family,you care about them. You sure don't sound like you do. You think you're the only 1 with these problems,guess what, you're not.So do what cookieroma said,stop whing. And while you're at it,GROW UP!!
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Do what I do, tell him you've had enough and to shut up

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finally a real person who understands it, but if i do he'll kick me out for doing that he gets mad about alot of stuff everyone says im ungrateful or whatever but im not i know what's going on and they just dont really understand how my dad is and they just start being mean to me and insulting me for no reason i didnt do anything to them and they were insulting me just like others who dont really know what im going through i came on here to get some answers not people who think they can insult me the way they just did i didnt deserve any of that crap and im not whining or anything else im expressing myself so they need to stop saying that i am whining and that im ungrateful because if i help pay for bills and everything then hello im not ungrateful people the real person who is ungrateful is probably my dad because he's the one thats whining about my job shouldnt he be lucky that i have my job? sorry this was so long but no one else understands this and ur the only
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person who does sorry my finger it the enter button before i finished
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