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whats the best way to tell your ex girlfriend your sorry for getting her pregnant and leaving her? please don't delete

i got my ex girlfriend alexa pregnant and she hates me now. she got an abortion though

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1st- Congrats on being a dad
2nd- Tell her that even though you 2 arent together, that doesnt mean that you still dont care for her anymore. tell her that you will support her and your child. make decisions together and see how it goes. hope it all works out :)
Ps- im diggin your hair :)

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actually my sister got an abortion
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thanks :)
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not to seem nosy ( im not , promise!)... but you skateboard?? :)
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yeah why?
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just seems cool. ive always wanted to learn how to skate board..but i completely suck at it... my style of skateboarding is if my feet are duct taped to the board and someone pulls me by the string :O
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hahaha some people aren't good at it at first
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true true..or maybe i just wasnt blessed with the skill of balance :P
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haha
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cali dont get sweet with him. he's a jerk. dont even go there
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wait .... ok so swagforever dated alexa which is your sister?
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yes
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:O wow, ok that changes my perception of things... plus derek being a baby daddy of 3 childeren? smh
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well i think only 1 because the rest of the girls had miss carriages
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WOOW sawgforever15 yuh srsly got issues! jaja swagg? B!+?H plzzz....i wuld say loser.
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whats wrong with you guys! dont believe eric. he's full of crap. non of that is true
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y shuldnt I beleive him? b/c honestly its hard to believe yuh cuz yuh a baby dady of 3...
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oh thats the first time your nice! what changed your mind? just tell her

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Wow.. FIFTEEN year old "swag". You sure SOUND nice. Women love being called a bit**.. Yep. Nice.
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ikr! i dont know how his comments stay but mine go
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Yo, swag, u hot, but u got major issues dude.
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thanks. and i do not
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Thats you?
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if your talking to my ex yes that is him in the pic
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Tell her you'll take care of the baby with her

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she got an abortion
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ShebaBowie
Well that changes everything!

I'm sorry.
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ShebaBowie
Comfort her sincerely.

Don't lead her on.

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its fine. i couldnt care less
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ugh
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ShebaBowie
Are you a jerk or did that just come out wrong?
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well everyone thinks im a jerk (but apparently the girls love that about me) and so its half and half
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ShebaBowie
Interesting.
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yeah.......he's a jerk. he got my sister pregnant. and he's not sorry..i know it
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ShebaBowie
Oh my god. It's you! I wanted to talk to you via internet.
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ShebaBowie
I'm sorry about your sister.
As long as she has you, judging from that statement you probably have a good heart, she'll be fine. Don't worry about this fool.
May i please advise you on that last question you asked?
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well nows your chance
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yeah go ahead
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ShebaBowie
You asked something about going to hell?
These statements are my beliefs.
You're not going to hell, simply because you care.
God knows your heart and you couldn't possibly be a dark spirit since you want better for yourself.
Moreover, i don't even believe in hell. God would never damn us to such a place.
This is hell, probably and you're only here to learn and since god understands EVERYTHING why then would he judge you so harshly that he'ed deem you as hopeless and trash you in hell? Never.

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ShebaBowie
Us ignorant humans are the only ones who judge because we don't understand but he understands all. Maybe what you saw was some sort of past life repressed experiences. ? I believe in reincarnation and i think certain memories can hunt us forever. Unless you pray of course.
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ShebaBowie
Haunt*
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Throw her a baby shower? LOL, don't do that.

But if she decides to keep the baby, try to be at least a little bit involved in the baby's life. Attend its birthdays, go to hospital when it's born, etc.

But really, there is no way to say sorry for this. It's a really big deal, and there will be no way to completely be forgiven for this.

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if you don't have the guts get a friend to tell her or get one of her friends to explain it to her or just once in a while (if she keeps the baby) do stuff for the kid and ask her to forgive forgive you (get a baby gift)

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Tell her that no matter what happen you could still stay with her and with your baby..and support all the way..and don't run away from her...

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she got an abortion
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Did she already got one? well if she did then just tell her that your sorry to that to her and say that hope that she will forgive you..
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ShebaBowie

For starters, you two are obviously young.
Children tend to be permanent you see, so having them is a big responsiblity.
Your ex should try and understand that you're young too and made a mistake. (Wasn't sure about her, left her after having unprotected sex with her, someone that you weren't positive you wanted to deal with for the rest of your life.) Trust me, she feels empty and alone and scared because she's young too and likes to act young but all of a sudden she's mommy and she's mommy all alone.
If you're truly remorseful the best thing you could do is to try and support her, put up with her mood swings and listen to her frustrations as a friend from now on and stay by her side even if you don't want to be with her.

Good luck.
Ps, she needs you and so does your baby.

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we had protected sex always
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ShebaBowie
HAHA.
Yall wasn't doin' it right.
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excuse me. uh yeah we were. condoms dont always work. ive gotten 3 girls pregnant so that would tell you
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ShebaBowie
Also interesting.
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you know he ran away from home when he was 11. thats why his parents dont know about all this. he lives with his friends
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15 yrs old and a baby daddy of 3? :O
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ShebaBowie
This is quite sad. Eric, you know this guy?
Pity. Well, at least he wanted to apologize.

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yeah when he dated my sis he lived with us
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ShebaBowie
Not cool.
Right under your nose, huh?
I hope that all works out.
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sorry, if my anwser doesn't help much. no matter how well your excuse for leaving her and saying sorry is, she is still going to hate you. coming from a girls perspective. but DO NOT AVOID HER AND GIVE HER THE SILENT TREATMENT!! that just breaks a girls heart, and she will be left not knowing what went wrong.

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Tell her that you screwed up and made a mistake. You are immature and didnt' know how to handle it so you ran. Apologize for what you did and take ownership.

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Step up === you were man enough to impregnate === you liked her enough to impregnate == now step up and be man enough and be the baby s father - and step up and marry the young lady and live happily ever after --- do the right thing ---------

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Shotgun marriage time

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gist say it but rilly mean it

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Well gee that was stupid!
Just tell her yur sorry.

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Step up and be a man. Stop having sex. You are way too young.

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that wont stop him
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I didn't think it would. I was just giving my opinion.
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yeah it wont
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You are a rotten kid. You need to seriously grow up. And FYI most women don't like jerks.
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Well, if she got an abortion just try and make her realize that you're not a terrible person, and you don't want her to hate you. Talk to her. Just small conversarions at first, then just try to build up the conversation to something more substantial. Say, the abortion, or your past relationship. tell her that your sorry. just for everything.

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she should hate him
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Well, yes. But she could stop hating him if he put some kind of effort forward.
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your not sorry. if you were sorry you would of not done it

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Agreed ^.^
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that he does
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i am sorry.
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ShebaBowie
They are both kids who made a mistake. The bulk of you all have got to forgive them both. Where do you all get off criticising them like this?? i didn't even KNOW he was 15!!!! He's so very young, they both deserve another chance.
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ShebaBowie, I agree: Your right, they are young. I'm only a year older than Eric, and I have been able to keep from having sex for 16 years. So I think they couldve ben able to do it to, but they are young, cuious. "Curiosity kills the cat." It didnt kill Alexa, but still, I believe that Derek is sorry. He was curious, Alexa is curious. Its a teenager thing. They want to try it cause they want to know what it feels like. You can still get pregnant on your period, and even if you use protection. I even have kept from having my first kiss yet, and I'm 16. I'm not the kind of person thats gonna hve sex and kiss every boyfriend I have. (I'm not saying Alexa has. Cause this was her first time.)
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...I'm just curious, is there even a REAL way to say that without being offended?

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How could you! I feel so bad for her and the baby! f wrong with you when you are only 15 ! Too young

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well she's 14 im 15
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:o
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We officially cannot judge him any longer. There is no 15 year old in the world that is a loser because they haven't even had a fair chance to become a full person. He could change, you all should be ashamed for condemning him and i apologize aswell.
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Big mistake
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WOW! swag? more like loser!

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geez! what the he!! is wrong with you
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im sry! I dnt wana be mean or anythin but y wud you even do that?
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i admit it. im a jerk. so what? all that madders is that i have friends and tons of girls love me. SO...anything else to add?
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all that matters? you do realize there is more to life than that right?!!!
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so far.....nope. things that madder to me are sex, girls, guns, friends, video games, and beating people up
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your so heartless its sad. karma going to get you back.
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thats really messed up dude!! u got her pregnant then u just bailed!! i don't think she would ever forgive u

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i didnt leave her. she broke up with me then i just let it go
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most guys when they get a girl pregnant they stay so she won't hav to go through it alone (even if she doesn't want him around)
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Please use PROTECTION!! Every time!!

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Okay first off, if she got pregnant and she now hates you, that is not your problem. It took both of you to make a baby and if you did not use protection then, it is both of your faults that she got pregnant. If you left her before she knew what she was doing with the baby I hope you said you would help her since it was yours. If you did that than you just just tell her how you just don't want to be with her and your sorry.You could tell her that you were going to help but you thought it would be better for both of you if you called it quits. As long as you made it clear you would be there for her and the baby but not together she may be able to get over it. If you just dumped her because of the baby then there's probably nothing you can do.

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we always use protection
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You should really reflect on your life because the way it's going, with your head in your butt? There will be no girls, and I know how important that is to you. So, she shouldn't forgive you until you change.

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There's no easy way of doing it you have to be responsible dude. You don't have to be with her to take care of your kid you both can be great co-parents. Learn from this incident because its not a mistake. Future reference wear a rubber cause this could have been different it could have been HIV. :-/

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Oh no I hope you guys work it out
Always hopin 4 the best!!! Veda

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Leave her alone. Nothing you can say will take away the hurt she feels. If she hadn't had an abortion, you would have lots of things to do--co-parent, child support, etc. but since there isn't a baby, I don't think she wants to hear about how sorry you are or the lessons you learned.

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stright up tell her and tell her that you just paniced and freacked out but realy sorry and show her too dont just tell her

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hasent any one heard of condoms !!!!!!!!!!!

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dude sorry to break it to you but i think that she doesn't deserve a guy like you....i know you are sorry now but before you can even think about having her back you need major growing up to do...i hope you don't take this the wrong way i just telling you what you need to do before you can get her back

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Tell her your sorry for the mistake

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use a condom

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Fyi, you can get pregnant even if you use protection. Nothing can prevent you from getting pregnant.
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that's what you get for not using protection

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So, we finally meet. Your the guy that got Alexa pregnant. I'm not trying to be mean or pry, but whyyyy would you just leave her like that?

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i was stupid alright. i did a dumb thing
please believe me im trying to change
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@swag listen to me

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Dumb ace you can't get back with her you ruined her damn life

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