I've been there and done that. The funny thing is no one ever just tells you, or just sends it to you. if you want the money asap, then YOU are going to need to push for these steps to be done. You can see by the answer above, it can take a really long time--but it doesn't have to take that long if you know what to do! BTW-this isn't something his lawyer will do until he is specifically asked and paid to do it. Keep bugging your ex! He will tell you theres nothing he can do-wrong-ask if you can help call his lawyer. (he won't like that!)
You have several options. You're probably going to want the cash right away--but there are complications. If you want the cash his attorney will have to draft and file a specific document requesting the cash pull out. That document is then signed by both of you, filed with the court, judge signs it after verifying it with your divorce settlement and the process begins. (it takes about 8-12 weeks to get a check. You have to wait until a period of time that changes, deposits/checks can be made--usually it's quarterly. ) The process next goes to the agent that handles his 401K. He sends you another form to sign and get notarized. The form asks you if you want a check for your half or "roll it over" into another retirement account, in just your name. You may already know this, but if you get a cash out, the IRS takes out 10% as a penalty for early withdrawal, and 20% as a Federal Tax withholding. There goes 30% of the total of your half, before you get a check. If you roll it over, nothing comes out--but you now have a retirement account that you can't touch until you are 66 yrs old. If you need more info, you should talk to your lawyer or CPA. Hope all this is helpful--
Your divorce award is supposed to be given immediately after the case is finished and your former husband has no intentions of filing an appeal. May be he filed an appeal and that is what is delaying the payment. You need to consult your attorney to see whether you may be forced to compel him through the court.
How long can an appeal last? My ex filed an appeal after agreeing to all the terms of his 401k and court documents. He signed all the paperwork and it was signed by judge. Now I have to wait through this period but no one is telling me how long the appeal period is or a end date for this.