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How do you politely tell someone they are not invited?

When planning a wedding, how do you tell family and friends that you love them and wish you could include them, but due to a modest budget, you are unable to invite them to your special day? Would you send a letter? Should it be sent before or after the wedding? Should you send a little gift (like an email picture slide show of the wedding) to let them know that you were thinking of them? Obviously the intention is to be as polite as possible without hurting too many feelings.

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The picture slideshow email idea is good..why is it that they aren't invited?
Shouldn't your close family come first before friends and extras?

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Close family is invited, this is for extended family like aunts, uncles cousins, etc. Both sides of the family are pretty big and if everyone was invited, the price would be through the roof.
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Tell them that you don't have anymore room( what ever you don't whant them to come to)

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How close are you to the friends and family that will not be invited? If they are not that close, you could send them a wedding announcement (see link below) after the wedding.

http://www.essortment.com/proper-manners-wedding-announcement-etiquette-rules-36827.html

Here's a link to a wedding etiquette forum where you might get an answer from a professional wedding co-ordinator.

http://www.topweddingquestions.com/topic/47375-announcement-vs-invitation/

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We both have fairly large families. He has 4 siblings and each has a partner while I have 6 siblings each with a partner. If we account for parents, wedding party (and their dates) as well as a few close friends that are like family, we quickly ate up our 100 people limit. Because we are paying for the wedding ourselves, we simply can not afford more than that. Several people have suggested making cuts in the budget elsewhere but it's already cut to the bone. Our original limit was 75 but because we were able to obtain a free venue, we were able to invite a few more. I feel horrible that we will not be able to afford to invite everyone but it's simply not in our budget.
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I'm not a professional, so this is just one person's opinion. :-) If the people that you are closer to but cannot invite already know about the wedding date, you could send them a note before the wedding saying that you're heartbroken that you can't invite them because of budget limitations and that they'll be in your hearts on the day and that you hope you'll be in theirs. Perhaps later on you and your new hubby can have a BBQ/potluck and invite those people.

For those not that close but that you would like to have invited, I think an announcement after the wedding would be fine. Your photography studio might have a thing where you can put your wedding pics up on the web and invite people to see them.

I know you feel awful, but those who really care will totally understand.

I hope this helped some and my best wishes to you and your fiance for a happy life together!!
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Honesty is the best policy. People are very understanding especially given the nature of our current economy. No need to make excuses or pull any punches. Simply tell it like it is.

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Vegan, this is the reason why couples want to elope lol.Know this, you can't and will never please everyone. It is your wedding. Invite the people who you really want to be with you on your special day.
It is your wedding, not your mom's or your aunts etc..
If you want to explain to those you can't invite, tell them the truth. Your families are large and your budget is small and that you wish there was a way to invite them since they all are special to you.
If they understand. send them a wedding picture with kind regards and if they don't understand. you aren't losing much. A true friend in any form would give you their blessings.
Enjoy your day. People will get over it if they really love you.
In life, you do the best you can to keep peace, but not at the expense of the selfishness of others.Happy marriage God BLESS..

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tell them the truth :)

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Just Stay Honest && Like They said ^^ Have A Small Reunion Some Days After..

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